tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5398524186659547481.post878944848113454082..comments2024-03-07T22:46:36.097-04:00Comments on Take A Walk In My Shoes: Advice Please Terri Grothehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02276341988902126033noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5398524186659547481.post-17115986733892571752012-12-20T11:01:48.941-04:002012-12-20T11:01:48.941-04:00great point, thanks so much. great point, thanks so much. Terri Grothehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02276341988902126033noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5398524186659547481.post-7774185873394554482012-12-19T23:30:04.546-04:002012-12-19T23:30:04.546-04:00I don't suggest doing it behind her back. I ca...I don't suggest doing it behind her back. I called my mom's doctor the day after she attempted suicide for help. My mom found out. She still resents me for it. She also resents me for other things. I'm only twenty-one, and I was twenty when she overdosed. It was really frustrating.<br /><br />They told me that, even if I had gone to the doctor to talk to them, whether I'm on her HIPPA or not, I cannot have them call her for an appointment/try to see what's wrong/etc. because it would be against her will. The only thing I could do was to take her to the hospital and explain to them what's going on - that I could call beforehand and that when I arrived, they'd be ready, so she couldn't somehow escape.<br /><br />I don't know if this helps, but I know it's much easier to be open and honest about what you're doing. Otherwise, things might not be good after you go behind their backs.<br /><br />Good luck. :3Izzy @ izzy.bloghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02460164195224771667noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5398524186659547481.post-78228151226742101452012-12-19T16:29:35.724-04:002012-12-19T16:29:35.724-04:00i think her talking to someone is key- thing is wh...i think her talking to someone is key- thing is where they live ( middle of no where) there is no counsellings places there, so the only thing she has is her family doctor.. Terri Grothehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02276341988902126033noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5398524186659547481.post-77754908321139806712012-12-19T16:27:11.276-04:002012-12-19T16:27:11.276-04:00Dear Terri,
I'm so sorry to learn of your st...Dear Terri, <br /><br />I'm so sorry to learn of your struggle. Unfortunately there is sometimes still stigma for some associated with seeing help for depression and anxiety. I think that you are in the right place with wanting to see the best sort of support possible for your mother. I understand the feeling of wanting to "fix" the problem, but a good therapist is absolutely key. I'm wondering if your mom will benefit from a family intervention? A gentle discussion to help lead her to therapy. Only a trained professional will know if medication is necessary, but a good therapist is crucial. I'm sending my best and thinking of you. xo - MMonicahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00961649124510051001noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5398524186659547481.post-71488160077023321852012-12-19T14:32:27.854-04:002012-12-19T14:32:27.854-04:00Thanks girl:) Thanks girl:) Terri Grothehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02276341988902126033noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5398524186659547481.post-67610359926916655032012-12-19T14:25:54.897-04:002012-12-19T14:25:54.897-04:00I don't have any experience with depression, I...I don't have any experience with depression, I have never suffered from it or known someone who has, but I do agree that medication is not always the answer. I wouldn't recommend seeing a doctor behind her back only because it might make things worse or upset her to know that you spoke to someone about her without her knowledge. Can you talk to her and suggest that she see someone and that you and your brother will be there with her to support her? Maybe the mother figure in her life can suggest seeing a doctor? If she visits her often, she must have some kind of connection/attachment to her and it's possible that she might listen to her. Or maybe everyone (including the mother figure) can sit down with her and talk to her. Let her know that you all care about her and want to see her happy again. I am sorry about this situation, and that I can't be more help. I hope you can get past this and have a wonderful holiday! *HUGS*<br /><br />xoxo,<br />Jessica @ <a href="http://www.boys-oh-boys.com" rel="nofollow">Boys Oh Boys</a>Jessica Mariehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04999795383442727760noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5398524186659547481.post-58198461848431318872012-12-19T14:18:34.723-04:002012-12-19T14:18:34.723-04:00Since her mom died she has been like this
we have ...Since her mom died she has been like this<br />we have all been left home for 8 years so not sure if she is just getting empty nest syndrome now, but very possible<br />she has one person she will hang out with, i think she needs to realize more people care for her Terri Grothehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02276341988902126033noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5398524186659547481.post-87796339447305978892012-12-19T14:15:53.271-04:002012-12-19T14:15:53.271-04:00Terri,
I suffered from depression living under t...Terri, <br /><br />I suffered from depression living under the roof of my mother. Its a long long story, but I can relate just to the fact that I was on medication, I didn't need to be on, I just needed to be out of that situation. Do you have any idea what is causing this depression? Financial strain? Did she loose someone? Does she have the empty nest syndrome? I think if you can help identify the source that would help. Does she have any close friends that she gets together regularly with? I think sometimes people feel like when their kids leave home, they've lost all the meaning in their life, and they really just need to rediscover themselves again and start focusing on themselves again. Anyway, I'm sorry to hear about this troubling time and I hope you, your siblings and your mom can resolve some things and have a happy Christmas. Maybe she'll agree to go to some counceling after talking with you as long as its approached in a way that simply shows you care about her. Heather Joneshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01243422900051057070noreply@blogger.com