11.01.2017

A test of strength. Helping your partner through a chronic illness

It is horrible when someone you love, especially your partner, is having a terrible time due to a chronic health condition. There are various ups and downs we all have to contend with, not just from their perspective, but yours too. It can be a very emotionally draining time, and while people talk about attempting to be on the cheery side, sometimes this is just not possible. So, what can you do to help your partner, and what situations will likely crop up in your relationship?

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Is It Good To Talk?
Sometimes, all we need is to be there for them. Some of us feel that we need to fill the void by asking questions, but sometimes this doesn't generate the desired result, no matter how well-meaning you are. Granted, if they want to vent, then it's best for you to be as open, honest, and receptive to their needs as possible. But, sometimes a simple cuddle and a bit of quiet time are all that your partner needs to show that you are supporting them.

Medication Reminders
Depending on the condition, your partner may need to take lots of medication. Sometimes, emotions can take over, and memory will falter, and your partner may forget to take meds, or they may feel emotionally numb when they see how much medication is dispensed by those automated dispensing cabinets, and the endless trips back and forth to the pharmacy can be very demoralizing. Sometimes, your partner may feel that if they were shaking, they would rattle! Taking medication alone may be a lot of headwork, but the best approach is to get into a habit of taking meds at specific times or even just set alarms as a reminder.

Time To Yourself
As your partner is going through a difficult time, and is in a lot of pain, physically and emotionally, depending on the illness, you may feel that you are being selfish by having time to yourself. However, this is something that is completely normal, feeling guilty for focusing on yourself for a short period of time is something that every partner has gone through, as well as every parent, carer, and anybody you can think of in this delicate situation. The goal for you should be to provide stable support for your partner, so this means you have to look after yourself. Think about eating well, minimizing stress, or finding ways for you to relax so you can take your mind off the situation, albeit for a short period of time.

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A Problem Shared...
A lot of people may take to blogging about their experiences. It does depend on your own personal outlook on the situation, and if you feel comfortable sharing intimate details, but it is something that can be incredibly inspiring for a blog, and you may help a lot of other people going through exactly the same thing as you. There are lots of support groups where people meet in person, a blog is the same thing, but online!

It is never easy, but it's a situation you need to feel your way through. It is a tough time for you and your partner, but you will find that inner strength that will see you through this terrible time.

Beautifying a beastly home exterior

When it comes to the home, we often treat the interior with a lot more care and attention than we do on the outside. However, the longer that habit continues, the more and more dissatisfied you will be with the face of the home that it’s no longer an issue that can be ignored. You’ll feel like you’re greeted by an eyesore every day. Thankfully, there are plenty of ways to give the home a face-lift, some of them cheap and cheerful, too. Here are a few ways to transform the exterior of your home.

Start from the beginning
The exterior of the home draws a lot of attention, but for anyone actually coming in the home, it’s the entrance that’s going to get most of it. A welcome mat is a start, but there’s a lot more than can be done to make the front door much more welcoming, too. A brighter coat of paint and some love and care for any metal parts like knockers and handles can immediately add some sheen. You can use overhead lighting or hang some plant baskets just by the front door to give it a much livelier, warmer approach as well.
Let it live a little
A little green goes a long way just beyond the front door, as well. Whether you use landscaping or focus more on potted planters, the right flowers can make a perfect impression for the home, as homedit.com shows. If you have a porch or any other sort of awning, it makes it even better since you can display more without having to worry about the plants being overly exposed to the elements and needing a lot of upkeep. This is especially true of those who have a lot of paved slabs or a lot of decking in front of the house. The outdoors looks especially good with a drop of nature and keeping it too clean and too man-made can end up making it look a little sterile.

A place to be
If you have a big porch or patio directly outside the home, then it means you already have some usable space. The front garden can be a great place to spend time with the family on those summer evenings. Even if you don’t use it too often, making it at least look livable can make the whole home seem much friendlier and more approachable. To that end, even a little furniture can do the trick. Check out nostalgicporchswings.com if, for instance, you have a more old-fashioned looking home and you think you could create just the right rustic appeal. Furniture, mailboxes, and the other little additions also make a good choice for making small, seasonal color changes that keep updating the look little by little.
Light your land
The home is going to be most visible during the day, of course, but many have the issue that as soon as night descends, it becomes cloaked in shadow. It can genuinely create a rather intimidating nature about the house, which is exactly what you don’t want to come home to in the fall and winter evenings. A little lighting goes a long, long way. Play with landscape lighting, particularly under any big front garden elements such as trees of squat bushes. If you have a patio or an overhanging roof that’s not too high up from the ground, the under lighting can give it a nice glow. When you’re done with work in the winter, there’s nothing better than coming back to a home that looks warm and comfortable even from a distance and lighting can give it that vibe.

A splash of color
Regardless how well cared for it, the materials on the façade of the home are going to wear down eventually. If your home has a wooden exterior, then so long as the wood itself is in good condition, it might be as simple as giving it a new coat of paint to make it look brand new again. If you’re not going to use painters for the job, then make sure you get plenty of prep work in as suggested by thespruce.com. Even if you choose the right season for it, it’s a long monotonous task and you might find yourself racing against time to beat out the bad weather if you’re not taking an organized approach.
Give a good opening
There are a lot of reasons to replace the front windows of the home over time. They’re an expensive fix, so it’s often best to do it for more reasons than just the aesthetic. Check out your existing windows and if they’re showing all the signs that they’re no longer as functional and efficient at sealing the home as they once were, then new windows can help you not only update your look but make the home much easier to insulate and more energy efficient, too. If you only want a small update to the look of the windows, consider installing exterior shutters, instead.

Tidy gardens are happy gardens
We’ve focused a lot on the direct exterior of the home, but we can’t forget how important the garden is to the overall composition. Landscaping can help you carve out a more detailed entryway to the home but even if you’re not going that far, regular maintenance of the garden is a must. Of course, motorized trimmers and lawnmowers can help reduce the work so that routine doesn’t become overbearing. If you have a big garden, then it’s going to make it a lot less of a hassle if you browse planopower.com and get the right equipment. If you’re not willing to, it might just be a better idea to go with a synthetic lawn rather than ending up with an untidy, overgrown garden. That can really distract and detract from a home that’s been carefully presented.
Get the gunk out of the gutters
It might not be the first thing you think of, but if your gutters are cluttered up and overflowing, it’s going to be very noticeable. First of all, not only will they look overgrown and stuffed, drawing the eye. They can also result in rainwater blockages, which can end up with big wet, grimy patches down the side of the home. Certainly not a good fit with a new paint job. Check out spinaclean.com for tools that make it a lot easier for you to clean your gutter on your own. This is especially important if you have high hedges or trees that mean a lot more vegetative debris ends up in there than the average home.

Right that roof
Especially on homes with lower roofs, if it’s in a state of disrepair, it’s going to be noticeable. Cracked and missing tiles can draw a lot of attention. Even if it’s higher up and out of range for too many people to notice, that’s still not a good reason to ignore one of the most important parts of shielding the home from the elements and making it a lot more energy efficient. It’s a good idea to use services like elevatedroofing.com to give the top of the house an inspection every two or three years. Sometimes, you might just need a small fix but it’s good to have some funding set aside for the replacement that every roof needs eventually.
Tuck away the odds and the ends
There are some elements of the home’s aesthetic that aren’t too easy to hide away. Some might very well call them eyesores. We’re talking about things like electrics panels, home ventilation, and garage door openers. They’re essential, but they often don’t fit well with the look you’re trying to cultivate. If that’s the case, then taking the steps to hide them can often do the trick just fine. For instance, you can create an openable wooden panel door for door openers so that they look just fine when not in use. For things like outside ventilation, strategic placement of potted plants can keep them hidden from view, so they don’t disrupt the overall look.

More than a place for the car
The garage is a utilitarian part of the home above all else, but that doesn’t mean it should be ignored when it comes to making changes. If you don’t like how cold and barren your metal garage doors look, then consider a new coat of paint or even replacing them with traditional, refined wooden panel doors instead. Customize the doors as well, with little details like adding windows, changing latches and pull handles. Landscaping can soften what might be a harsh disruption against the rest of the home’s aesthetic, tastefully placing foliage, wall planters or a trellis to make use of its verticality to further enhance the home’s appearance.
Even though you spend most of your time indoors, knowing that the face of the home isn’t showing you up is going to give you a lot of peace of mind. There’s nothing like a little curb appeal to drive up the value of a property, either.

Chemophobia: the silent killer


There is an epidemic that is blighting the world. However, unlike many epidemics, this one is hidden, pernicious. It’s not being covered on nightly news bulletins; it’s not on the receiving end of well-wishers and charity donations… but it’s still there, lurking in our midst. You might even be a sufferer.

What’s the epidemic? Chemophobia.

“What’s chemophobia?” you may be thinking. “That doesn’t sound like an illness.”

It’s not. Chemophobia isn’t an illness per se; it’s not a diagnosable condiiton, yet it’s still an issue that millions of people are suffering from.

“So what is it?”

As the name implies, it’s a phobia. Most specifically, it’s a phobia of chemicals. It’s an issue that has been described as “irrational but difficult to break”, a definition that is true of most phobias. However, unlike most phobias, those with chemophobia won’t even know they have it.

“How can you not know you have a phobia? Aren’t phobias pretty self-explanatory?”

Sure, most of the conventional phobias are self-explanatory; if you’re an arachnophobe, then the presence of a spider will send you screaming and running across the room. It’s pretty tough not to know you have a phobia-- but with chemophobia, it’s more of a mindset than an actual fear that provokes a “fight or flight” response that we all associate with most phobias.

“Okay-- so how does chemophobia work?”

Chemophobia is the problem behind any of the following behaviors:

  • Examining the label of any product you buy -- be it cleaning products or your facial skincare -- for any unfamiliar names in the ingredients.
  • Refusing to use products that aren’t “natural”.
  • Refusing to use medication in preference of alternative therapies or herbal remedies.
  • Having a list of ingredients you will not, under any circumstances, purchase. The most common ingredients that fall victim to this blanket ban are the much-maligned SLS, sulfates, and BPA --

“Hang on a second. SLS, Sulfates, and BPA are bad for you! It’s natural to want to be careful of those!”

As with most phobias, part of the problem with chemophobia is that it can be posited as rational. It is possible that those who are afraid of flying will die in a plane crash; there is always a chance that the snake you so fear will bite you, you’ll suffer an allergic reaction, and you’ll die. It’s incredibly unlikely that these things will happen, but they are possible-- few phobias exist where there isn’t some element of genuine threat.

“What about people that are afraid of clowns?”

There’s actually a scientific explanation for why people are afraid of clowns, but let’s not get sidetracked too much-- let’s just agree that most phobias have some basis in reality.

So, sure, SLS, sulfates, BPA… they’re not great for you. If you’re sensitive to SLS, using a shampoo containing SLS will be uncomfortable; and there’s no denying that BPA can have a horrible impact on physical health. However, the problem with chemophobia is when someone takes these possibilities and massively magnifies their likelihood and the impact they may cause.

Chemophobia that manifests in this way -- due to a misunderstanding of what chemicals are -- is increasingly common.

“Why is that?”

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While it’s popular to blame the internet for all of the world’s ills, we’re… well we’re going to need to blame the internet for this one.

The internet has meant that everyone can occupy a space and set themselves up as an authority on a subject. Let’s be clear: that’s great. People have their own voice and can make careers out of sharing their ideas, which is wonderful.

The problem comes when people use their space to spread misinformation, and it’s this that has lead to the rise of chemophobia. It’s the “wellness bloggers” that have allowed chemophobia to spread. This group preaches an idea of a “natural, healthy, alternative” lifestyle which sounds so good, but comes with a side dose of chemophobia. If you browse wellness blogs for too long, you will come away with a simple take-home message:

Natural = good.
Chemical = bad.

“What’s so wrong with that?”

Well, first and foremost, it’s wrong. “Natural” does not immediately mean “good”. Carbon monoxide, ricin, arsenic-- these are all natural, and they will all kill you at a moment’s notice.

Secondly, it’s a worrying train of thought that can lead to incredibly bizarre conclusions. Take smoking. We all know smoking is bad and that we shouldn’t do it-- but in some ways, smoking could be seen as natural. After all, the thing being smoked is tobacco leaf; a plant, and the wellness community love plants. This is, obviously, a terrible conclusion. Smokers run the risk of a huge number of illnesses and would be better to head to a vaping supply store and shop the catalog for products that suit them rather than choosing “natural”, conventional cigarettes. So if we can see that natural has the potential to be wrong in this case, it’s not that much of an extension to see that natural can be potentially worrisome in other cases, too.

The wellness community, and the chemophobia that they inspired, can lead people into traps of trusting “natural” when it has the propensity to cause them harm.

Also, chemicals aren’t all bad. In fact, chemicals are incredibly useful; it’s only due to the existence of chemicals that human life expectancy has been able to increase almost exponentially over the last 50 years. To turn away from the potential of chemicals is very dangerous-- for example, chemotherapy, as the name suggests, is a compound of chemicals designed to treat cancer. Rampant chemophobia has lead to people choosing to treat their cancer “naturally”, which has -- inevitably -- led to their demise. Chemicals can be the good guys!

“But chemicals are also bad guys…”

It’s tough to shake this way of thinking when it’s got into your mind, so it’s fair to want to reassert this point. Yes, chemicals can be bad guys. That’s inevitable; it’s effectively the rule of duality. When something has the potential to be good, it also has the potential to be bad.

The key point is to learn to examine chemicals with critical thinking, rather than just dismissing them out-of-hand.

“How is that done?”

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It’s not easy, especially if you have frequented wellness blogs for a long time. There’s no doubt that it’s easy to fall into a trap of seeing chemicals as the enemy, and that it’s equally as difficult to shake that thinking.

One of the best examples of this is seen with the anti-vaccine movement. Anti-vaxxers love to point out that vaccines contain formaldehyde, a chemical most of us associate with the embalming process. How can that be something that you want injected into your skin? Formaldehyde sounds like a bad chemical, so people assume that its presence in vaccines is extremely worrying. After all, formaldehyde is classified as a carcinogen.

Here’s the thing; you know what else contains formaldehyde? Humans; it’s naturally produced by the body. Furthermore, formaldehyde is found in a variety of different fruits and vegetables. There is more formaldehyde in an apple than there is in a dose of a vaccine. So while the chemical sounds scary -- and we all associate it with a rather macabre purpose -- it’s not a bad guy.

“You just said formaldehyde is a carcinogen!”

Which it is, in significant quantities-- quantities you’re not going to obtain from using cosmetic products or vaccines. It’s simple fact that almost everything is fatal in high enough quantities, including water.

So while cosmetic products, foodstuffs, and packaging materials contain traces of scary-sounding and carcinogenic chemicals, that doesn’t mean there’s enough of these chemicals to do any harm.

“So wellness bloggers have lied to people?”

Not at all! A lot of this requires research, which bloggers might not have direct experience of. Then there’s also the fact that a lot of the “natural” remedies are genuinely beneficial, so people see them work and don’t have their chemophobia challenged. Honey, for example, has long been touted for its health benefits, health benefits that science has been able to confirm actually exist.

On the flip side, there are problematic chemicals in everyday life, chemicals that wellness bloggers are right to focus their ire on. There are chemicals in cleaning products which are damaging human and environmental health; SLS in shampoo genuinely can irritate your scalp; and plastics are best avoided. What is dangerous is the absolute dichotomy of chemicals/bad; natural/good. There are two sides to every story, after all.

It’s fair to say that the best answers to this issue are balance and objective thinking.

  • Understand the chemicals you use and eat rather than demonizing them because the name sounds problematic.
  • Don’t assume that because something is natural that it’s necessarily better for you than a chemical-containing product.

If you keep these in mind, then you can conquer your own chemophobia and ensure that you live the healthiest life possible-- one that includes chemicals, but takes advantage of what the natural world has to offer as well.

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Heart Health



In taking adequate oxygen is a constant struggle for many, and can be a source of stress and frustration. Improving respiratory functioning can provide many benefits, especially for those with lung disorders, such as asthma or COPD.  For those who don’t have a respiratory disease, improving respiration can still provide substantial advantages, and can help to maintain and improve lung functioning.

Listed below are a list of 7 exercises and behaviors that can help improve your lung capacity and help you breathe better.

7 Ways To Improve Your Lung Functioning

1. Practice breathing exercises daily

Engaging in daily breathing exercises can prove wonders, helping not only to expand your lungs and improve respiration, but also to decrease stress levels and calm your mind. Consider adding any or all of the following breathing exercises to help you breathe better:

-       Diaphragmatic breathing

    1. Diaphragmatic breathing is also known as “belly breathing” and works by expanding the stomach (or diaphragm) on every breath. Specifically helpful for those with COPD, diaphragmatic breathing helps to strengthen the diaphragm, further improving respiration.

To perform diaphragmatic breathing, follow these steps:

      1. With your shoulders completely relaxed, sit in a chair or lie down.
      2. Place one hand on your chest and the other on your stomach.
      3. For 2 seconds, inhale through your nose. As you do this, feel the air move through your abdomen. You should see your stomach expand significantly.
      4. With your lips pursed, breathe out through your mouth while pressing down on your abdomen. Pressing down will ensure you get all of the air out of your abdomen.
      5. Repeat. Try to increase the amount of repetitions every time you perform diaphragmatic breathing.



-       Pursed-lips breathing

a.    Perfect for slowing down your rate of respiration, pursed-lips breathing helps to keep your airways open for longer. It also enhances lung capacity, improving the exchange between oxygen and carbon dioxide.

To perform pursed-lips breathing, follow these steps:

      1. Take a breath in through your nose.
      2. Purse your lips, as if you are about to blow out a candle.
      3. Breathe out through your pursed lips, as slowly as possible. Ideally, this will take more than double the amount of time it took to inhale. For example, if your in-breath took 4 seconds, your out-breath should take 8 or more seconds.
      4. Repeat.

-       Rib Stretching

a.    Rib stretching is an easy and effective way to improve your lung capacity. The concept of it is simple—hold as much air in your lungs for as long as possible.

To perform rib stretch exercises, follow these steps:

      1. Stand straight with your back arched
      2. Exhale all the oxygen from your lungs.
      3. Breathe in slowly and fill your lungs with as much air as possible.
      4. Hold your breath for as long as you can (ideally for longer than 10 seconds).
      5. Exhale Slowly.
      6. Repeat.

2. Engage in regular exercise



One of the best ways to improve your lung functioning is to exercise. If you have COPD or another lung disease, make sure you talk with your doctor to determine how to exercise in healthy and controlled ways, to prevent flare-ups.

By staying active and engaging in cardiovascular exercise, you will experience improved lung functioning, breathe easier, and feel better.

3. Improve air quality

Improving the quality of air in your house is a great way to improve your ability to breathe. You can do this by:

     Keeping indoor plants in your home, such as money trees, snake plants, areca palms, and Chinese evergreens
     Having natural air purifiers, such as salt lamps, beeswax candles, peace lilies, and bamboo charcoal
     Living away from polluted cities and highways, in areas with vast amounts of vegetation

4. Stay hydrated




Drinking a healthy amount of water can help you improve your oxygen levels, resulting in better lung functioning and easier breathing. When you are hydrated, your blood is better able to deliver nutrients and oxygen to the rest of your body. If you would rather drink fluids other than water, try fruit and/or vegetable juices naturally high in vitamins and minerals.

5. Avoid smoking

Air quality is very important for proper lung health. If you are a smoker, quitting can drastically help your ability to breathe more efficiently. If you are not a smoker, making a conscious effort to avoid second hand smoke and polluted areas can help your lungs to function better, greatly improving your respiration.

6. Improve your diet

Diet can play a key role in avoiding flare-ups associated with COPD. Foods such as dairy and broccoli are known to induce COPD flare-ups, and are best if avoided. If you do have COPD, foods such as spinach, bell peppers, potatoes, carrots, and green beans can greatly help to improve your breathing.



Additionally, using herbs and spices, such as turmeric, ginger, and oregano, can help open up your lungs, allowing for improved oxygen levels and better lung capacity.

7. Play a wind instrument


Playing a wind instrument, such as the saxophone, clarinet, or flute, can be a fantastic way to learn a new skill while improving your lung capacity. When playing a wind instrument, musicians have to be able to hold and control their breath, a result of strong and efficient lungs. 
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