Today I am sharing something near and dear to my
heart... I love sharing love stories or dating advice or marriage advice
etc. We are going to talk about how the dating scene has changed:
It has not always been called Dating- my in laws considered my
husband and I “seeing” each other.- to me we
were dating, this was 19 years ago. They didn’t want us to court just for fun,
we needed to be planning to spend forever together. They did not want you
to just date for fun
2018- Dating
includes:
Relationships are not monogamous until you mutually agree they are. In other words, unless you and a guy explicitly agree that you are not seeing other people, then both of you are free to date other people. This can be intimidating, but once you embrace it, you might find it liberating. After all, it means you can date multiple people.
Relationships are not monogamous until you mutually agree they are. In other words, unless you and a guy explicitly agree that you are not seeing other people, then both of you are free to date other people. This can be intimidating, but once you embrace it, you might find it liberating. After all, it means you can date multiple people.
Texting is part of romance. Everyone has a smart phone. Text is how you set up dates. Texting is
how you flirt. Texting is how you can express your interest (by responding
favorably to said flirts), or disinterest (ignoring said flirts).
When we were dating there was no online dating, no
date app's to find someone, there was no smart phones,facebook etc. It was
either pick up the phone, write a letter or meet face to face.
Also, we did live together before marriage but we
never slept in the same bed, he lived with me at my parents house, we always
had someone home with us which was healthy and kept us inline.
These days
couples are
- Moving in before marriage.
In the past, it was customary
for couples to court each other, propose, get married and then move in
together. Nowadays, moving in prior to marriage has become the norm, especially
among millennials. According to Millennial Magazine, couples choose to move in earlier on in
relationships for a number of reasons; some reasons include saving money on
rent and getting to know your significant other on a deeper level. Many couples also choose to live together to ensure
marriage is right for them. In addition, countless millennials believe that
cohabitation is an essential step to take before marriage.
Two-thirds of
adults believe it is a good idea to live with someone before marriage, in line with research done by Barna. From this data, seventy-two
percent of millennials were twice as likely to trust that cohabitation is a
good idea, compared to thirty-six percent of elders. Boy, how times are
certainly changing!
- Combining finances prior to marriage.
According to
Census data, men and women ages 25 to 34 are living with a partner two times
more often than twenty years ago.. With that being said, this often means
unmarried couples are not only sharing the keys to an apartment, but are also
discussing how to budget; this dictates who takes care of certain financial
responsibilities and holds one other accountable for joint expenses.
- Looking at engagement rings together.
Traditionally, this momentous
occasion would begin with one partner dropping hints about wanting to get
married. Meanwhile, the other partner is purchasing the ring and planning to
propose alone in a romantic, meaningful setting. Today, the element of surprise
has dwindled, with couples browsing for, picking out and even purchasing an
engagement ring together.
According to The Knot 2017
Jewelry & Engagement Study, thirty-three percent of couples shop for their
engagement ring together. Traditionalists might find this particular case
bizarre, but, eighty-nine percent of grooms are pleased with their partner’s
level of involvement in the purchasing process. Naturally, this means more
brides will know how much their ring costs, which also doesn’t seem to bother
the groom. It is said, on average, a person will spend 3.5 months looking for the perfect
engagement ring, and will look at 26 different rings before purchasing;, so no wonder
they look to their partner for help!
- Online dating taking the forefront.
It is no secret that online
dating has changed the way couples meet. In fact, today, nearly half of the
public knows someone who either uses online dating or has met their partner via
online dating. With all of the proven success, positive attitudes toward online
dating have certainly skyrocketed over the years.
The Knot’s
2017 study, previously mentioned, showed that nineteen percent of brides
reported meeting their partner through online dating and social media. Also,
according to Pew Research, the share of 18- to
24-year-olds who use online dating has roughly tripled from ten percent in 2013
to twenty-seven percent in 2018. One factor behind these stats has a lot to do
with the use of mobile dating apps such as Hinge and Match.com. Regardless, the times of hoping to run into your soulmate by chance
have taken the back seat as online dating progressively takes the reigns.
The dating scene has changed for sure over the
years. One thing is for sure, if you are going to date someone online, or go on
dating sites please stay safe!!.