6.17.2020

Ways to make your long term marriage happier- Starting today

If you have been reading here long enough you know my favourite topic to discuss is marriage so today I am sharing with you some ways to make your marriage happier, this is the biggest question I get asked.
  • Remind your partner and yourself( I struggle with this one, because I am my own worst enemy), that you appreciate them. 
  • Say Thank you for the little things 
  • Practice honesty even when your ashamed
  • Take care of your appearance ( look good for each other) 
  • Foster relationships outside your marriage ( take those girl trips with your mom, sisters, friends etc. I love going on trips with my husband and kid but those special girl trips def help you appreciate each other more. 
  • Watch your words- many things you should never say to each other..never start a conversation with " you know it's always been your problem"  Never say if you loved me you wouldn't do that.  
  • In life there are small things and big things...
          The big things: draining a bank account for a gambling addiction.  most of our problems start out small enough... he leaves his clothes on the floor, this creates a giant festering sore, it leads to words like if you loved me you wouldn't leave your clothes around.
           The small things: if left unaddressed will do us in, for a happier marriage address them right away and say things like " Honey, would you mind picking up your clothes for me please" 
  • Relish the silence... sometimes the best way to address a problem is to just walk away from it---as in seriously let it go, not every insult is intended, practice letting go as much as you can 
  • Recognize the ebb and flow- relationships aren't flat lined, that is death actually. Life has it's ups and downs, peaks and valleys.  We all go through periods where the more thought of life without our partner can bring tears to our eyes and a week later we feel like we cannot even handle the sound of their breathing, we have all been there, the trick is Do Not Stay There. 
  • Be Kind- we tend to take advantage of those we love the most--- probably because we know they love us and we can get away with it.  A much healthier way to start each day is look at your spouse and say "How can I make you happy today"? 
  • Maintain intimacy and passion both inside and outside the bedroom.  Intimacy is not just sex and passion isn't just doing it on the kitchen counter, bedroom habits age along with your marriage.  Give your spouse that kiss every morning and night, do not ever go to sleep mad, make up time is the best time 😏
Every couple needs to make time for each other, we all live busy lives, we have busy jobs and kids but make time for each other. Even if you have babies wait until they are asleep, make dinner and dessert together, snuggle up and watch a movie.  
Date nights do not have to be costly

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