Marriage Tip # 10- Final

Week 10- Marriage Tips 

(This is the final week) 

You can find the previous weeks by clicking on the week
Week 1- Dating/Courting
Week 2- Communication
Week 3- Fall In love, Over and Over
Week 4-  Divorce
Week 5- NO Negative Talk
Week 6- God, Marriage, Kids
Week 7- Respect
Week 8- Love Language
Week 9- Sex 
Week 10- Protect your Marriage 

Protect your Marriage

There are so many dangers out there that will try to take your marriage away from you, there are so many porn sites that make men/women think they can find more, or have fun looking.. 

The grass is not always greener on the other side...  in fact appreciate what you have because if you throw it away, some one else will take that precious gift and love and nurture them for the rest of their life. 

Appreciate your Happily Ever after- no it is not a bed of roses all the time, and it takes work and lots of it, but you can make it last. 

Remember to Date your spouse, communicate to them, Fall in love with him or her every day, all over again and again, never say the D word, do not talk negative to other people about him, keep your life in this order: God, husband/wife and kids, Respect your marriage and your spouse, learn their love language, have lots of sex and lastly protect your marriage, don't let anything take it from you. 

Song of Solomon 1:2
Let him kiss me with the kisses of his mouth—for your love is more delightful than wine.

Marriage Tip-#7

Week 7 of Marriage Tips 

You can find the previous weeks by clicking on the week
Week 1- Dating/Courting
Week 2- Communication
Week 3- Fall In love, Over and Over
Week 4-  Divorce
Week 5- NO Negative Talk
Week 6- God, Marriage, Kids
Week 7- Respect

Respect your husband. 

Notice how it doesn’t say “Respect your husband if he has earned it”. A man’s greatest need in this world is to be respected, and the person he desires that respect from the most is his wife. The trap that we’ve all been ensnared by is that they only deserve our respect when they earn it. Yes, we want our husbands to make decisions that will ultimately earn our respect, but the truth is that your husband is a human being. A human being who makes mistakes. This is the man that YOU have chosen to walk alongside you for the rest of your life, and to lead your family and he needs to be respected for that quality alone. Take it from me – when respect is given even when he doesn’t deserve it, it will motivate him to earn it. That doesn’t mean you pretend that his choices are good ones when they aren’t. Things like that still need to be communicated, but you can flesh out your differences WITH RESPECT. It makes all the difference in the world to him

Ephesians 5:22-33

Wives, submit to your husbands as to the Lord.  For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior.  Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything.  Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her  to make her holy, cleansing her by the washing with water through the word,  and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless.  In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself.  After all, no one ever hated his own body, but he feeds and cares for it, just as Christ does the church--  for we are members of his body.  "For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh."  This is a profound mystery--but I am talking about Christ and the church.  However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband.

Marriage Tip # 6

Week 5 of Marriage Tips 

You can find the previous weeks by clicking on the week
Week 1- Dating/Courting
Week 2- Communication
Week 3- Fall In love, Over and Over
Week 4-  Divorce
Week 5- No Negative Talk
Week 6- God, Marriage, Kids

God, husband, kids…in that order. – 

I know this isn’t a popular philosophy, especially among mothers, but hear me out. It’s no secret that my faith is of utmost importance, so God comes first in my life no matter what. But regardless of your belief system, your husband should come before your kids. Now unless you’re married to someone who is abusive (get professional help), no man in his right mind would ask you to put your kids aside to serve his every need while neglecting them. That’s not what this means.

When you board an airplane, the flight attendants are required to go over emergency preparedness prior to takeoff. When explaining the part about how to operate the oxygen mask, passengers are instructed to first put the mask on themselves before putting it on their small child. Is that because they think you are more important than your kids? Absolutely not. But you cannot effectively help your child if you can’t breathe yourself. The same holds true with marriage and parenting.

 You cannot effectively parent your children if your marriage is falling apart. There will also come a time when your kids will leave the house to pursue their dreams as adults. If you have not cultivated a lasting relationship with your spouse, you will have both empty nests and empty hearts.

Mark 10:6-9

"But at the beginning of creation God 'made them male and female.'  'For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife,  and the two will become one flesh.' So they are no longer two, but one.  Therefore what God has joined together, let man not separate."

Marriage Tip # 4-

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Week 4 of Marriage Tips 

You can find the previous weeks by clicking on the week
Week 1- Dating/Courting
Week 2- Communication
Week 3- Fall In love, Over and Over
Week 4-  Divorce

Never say the “D Word”. 

 If you’re gonna say it, you better mean it. Plain and simple, threatening divorce is not fighting fair. I did this a lot when we first got married, if we had a argument  it meant our marriage was over and I was asking for the Big D,  I’m not proud of it, but I learned better. I was hurting deeply, and I wanted to hurt back, but it never helped me feel better.

I never did mean it anytime I said it, so one day he had enough and said to quit using it because it is making him think I really want a divorce.. 

12 years later and I fall more and more in love. 

Matthew 19:4-6

"Haven't you read," he replied, "that at the beginning the Creator 'made them male and female,'  and said, 'For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh' ?  So they are no longer two, but one. Therefore what God has joined together, let man not separate."

Marriage Tip #3

Welcome to Marriage Tip # 3 

You can find the previous weeks by clicking on the week
Week 1- Dating/Courting
Week 2- Communication
Week 3- Fall In love, Over and Over

FALL IN LOVE OVER and OVER and OVER again. You will constantly change. You're not the same people you were when you got married, and in five years you will not be the same person you are today. Change will come, and in that you have to re-choose each other everyday. He / She does not have to stay with you and if you don't take care of her heart, he/she may give that heart to someone else or seal you out completely, and you may never be able to get it back. Always fight to win her love just as you did when you were courting her.

Remember how you would feel if you saw another single guy/girl looking at your girl/guy, you would not be very impressed, make sure she NEVER has to go look elsewhere. 

Proverbs 31:10

A wife of noble character who can find? She is worth far more than rubies.

Marriage Tip #2.

Here we go again for another Marriage Tip 

You can find the previous weeks by clicking on the week
Week 1- Dating/Courting
Week 2- Communication

Week 2- Speak Up

If something is bothering you, it needs to be discussed.  Choose an appropriate time and talk- don't spend it blaming your spouse, but talk about it like adults.  Tell your spouse how you feel and try to come to an equitable solution. Bottled up frustration festers and eventually spews. Keep the inside safe and well 

This is the biggest issue I hear about with friends, well we all need to remember to communicate, they cannot read our minds as much as we wish they could. 

Don't go to bed angry, what if you woke up and they had passed in their sleep, that would make you feel so guilty wouldn't it. 

Communciation is vital 

Proverbs 18:22

He who finds a wife finds what is good and receives favor from the LORD.