4 TIPS FOR HUSBANDS and 5 TIPS FOR WIVES ...

Husbands, your wives need you to ...

1. GIVE UNEXPECTED SURPRISES. Your wife loves unexpected surprises you give them. An occasional unexpected small gift, her favorite candy bar, flowers, come home from work early for some quality time or surprise her with a romantic night out. Consider some weekend morning greeting her with breakfast in bed when she wakes up or fix her favorite meal and clean up after yourself. Unexpected surprises aren't just for Valentine's Day ... do them all the time.

2. ARRANGE THINGS WELL. If you take your wife out (and you should do this regularly), you make all the plans. Get reservations at a restaurant she likes, you line out the babysitter and then tell her what time to be ready.

3. DO THE LITTLE THINGS. Women love it when their husbands take time to do the little things. Like giving her your full attention when she's talking about work, the kids or anything else going on in her life. Make her, and what she's got to say, more important than your phone, a ballgame or anything else. Give her quality time.

4. TAKE AN INTEREST IN HER INTERESTS. Try to find out the thing that your wife always loves to do and agree to do it together on a weekend. AND IF YOU DO, try to honestly enjoy it without complaining.

Wives, your husband needs you to ...

1. PRAISE HIM … both privately and publicly. Your husband LOVES to be bragged on, and if you can’t find something to brag on him about, you’re not looking hard enough. You should be your husband’s biggest fan … and let him know it. Lea is my biggest cheerleader. I love it when she tells me I look nice, that I’m a good dad or after 26 years I still turn her on. Husbands are motivated by your praise. While we’re on the subject, NEVER belittle or criticize your husband in public or to your girlfriends.

2.MOST LIKELY YOUR HUSBANDS NUMBER ONE NEED IS SEXUAL FULLFILLMENT- Fulfilling his needs should never come across as a chore, but as a priority. A healthy sex life in a marriage is characteristic of a strong healthy marriage. Married sex should be the best sex, because it includes commitment and intimacy. We laugh when we hear of people calling recipes, “Better than Sex Cake,” and “Better than Sex Brownies,” obviously people who keep describing things as “better than sex” are having the wrong kind of sex. Make your love life sizzle. If you need to try something new in order to fulfil this, why not discuss looking online together at something to entertain you both. Cam sites can be a bit of harmless fun if you're both looking into it, to make sure you have a healthy experience finding a legitimate site by reading a cam soda full review is the best way to go.

3. TAKE AN INTEREST IN SOMETIME HE LIKES TO DO - Educate yourself on your husband’s hobbies so you can talk about things he likes to talk about. If your husband likes to fish, hunt, golf, work on cars, etc. … learn to take interest in those things. Be your husband’s best friend and spend time doing things he likes to do. Lea has learned to love baseball, talk running and take interest in things that I find interesting. Some of the best memories you can make together are when you’re spending time together doing things he loves to do.

4. DON’T BEAT AROUND THE BUSH – Don’t expect your husband to read your mind or to know what’s wrong with you or what you want. Ladies, I’ve said it once and I’ll say it a million more times, you CANNOT connect the dots close enough for your husband to catch on to what you are thinking. Just spell it out. Dropping hints or just expecting your husband to know what your thinking will only lead to MORE frustration. Simply tell him what’s on your mind.

MARRIAGE CHALLENGE ... ask your spouse to pick two that they'd like you to improve on.

Weekend Recap

Worked all day til 5 pm, we are planning a going away party for our supervisor, so we have been slacking in the work dept;) 

His last day is Wednesday, the company I am doing a special project for has been bought by another company, so all of the supervisors have lost their jobs, it is a crazy time there right now, some of them have got new jobs already so that is good, but 400 people lost their jobs. 

I met a friend for dinner, in fact her and her family, we went for a buffet dinner, her little guy was so adorable, 

I went to bed at 7:30 pm and sleep the night thru, my body has been hating me for lack of sleep. 

Saturday: 

Slept in a little bit, Brooke had to go work on a project with a classmate, I got to feeling sick again, I think it was from my lack of sleep, I thought I would go in town and perhaps it would make me feel better, but it didn't, in fact I sat in the car while Andrew went to Walmart for me, he got me gravol and I felt a little better, once I got home I went to sleep and I felt better when I woke up. 

I made wings and spicy buffalo dip, it tasted so good. 

I fell back to sleep before hockey was even done. 

Sunday: 

Was feeling much better when I woke up. 

Went to both services, hang out with friends after PM serrvice. 

We then watched the eclipse taking place,what  a gorgeous sight. 

Confessional Friday

Another week to Confess and to share those with you lovelies. 

1) I love that Grey's Anatomy is back, although it isn't the same without Derek, but I am excited none the less. 

2) I have had two very nice Norwex parties this week, it has been a lot of fun. 

3) I got some troublesome news at my Dr this week, I may share at some time but just not right now. 

Date Night Idea Week 3

Idea: 
Play board games either at home or out at a game cafe- we have them here, you go in and pay $5 for the day, stay as long as you want and hang out with your best friend and make it a great date night while you play games that you both like, or try one that the other spouse enjoys- for example: my hubby loves Settlers of Catan but I really don't care for it, but I would play with him and I would enjoy it because I love to spend time with him. 

5 Simple Rules To Marriage Bliss...

5 Simple Rules To Marriage Bliss...

1 ... If you want to keep your marriage harmonious ... never say things like, "I told you so." Whenever you're wrong, admit it. Whenever you're right, simply shut up. smile emoticon

2 ... You do not have to show up to every fight you're invited to. Pick your battles. Overlook some things. Your pride isn't as important as your relationship.

3 ... Your marriage is not only important to you, but also for your children. What they learn from your marriage will have an enormous impact on the rest of their lives. Train them well by your example.
 

4 ... Pride is a killer ... a marriage killer, a relationship killer and a faith killer. Don't let pride destroy your relationships.
 

5 ... Your spouse deserves better than an average effort from you today. Bring it!

What does "For worst" look like

What does "For worst" look like

I, (name), take you (name), to be my lawfully wedded (wife/husband), to have and to hold from this day forward, for better or for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish; from this day forward until death do us part. - 

It can happen with a phone call at 4 a.m. It can happen when your doctor says, "I have some bad news...." It can happen a week after your honeymoon, or in the middle of a deadline crunch at work, or on your way to your child's yellow-belt ceremony. Tragedy can hit, hard, anytime. And though it's romantic to think that couples can cling together and weather the storm, the reality is, many twosomes in trouble find themselves being pulled apart instead.

In my mind, ‘better’ could mean that finances are plentiful, kids are healthy and intelligent, loving feelings continue years into the marriage, and life goals are being fulfilled left and right. When I consider what worse may look like, I think of financial disappointments, difficulty with childbearing/infertility, loss of affection, and unfulfilled goals and dreams. These are just a few examples; but, regardless of what ‘better’ or ‘worse’ will look like in your life, you will go through both – the better and the worse. Wedding days are filled with blissfully happy expectations of better things. Being together will, obviously, be better than being apart! Most couples talk about plans for the future and dream together about what great things lay ahead for them. It is a rare couple, at least among young couples, that spend time talking about the difficult days to come as they do the exciting ones. While we should not go into a marriage with the expectation that it is going to be terrible, it’s wise to enter into a lifelong covenant with a healthy and aware understanding that some days will be worse rather than better. 

What would you consider a "for better" and a "for worse"