Being
Mom of a Tween
I know
there are a lot of mom’s to babies and toddlers on my blogging list but there
are not many if any tween moms.
This is
the age of 11-12 before they reach the teen years- The Einstein/Miss
Independent Age: 11-20 This girl knows everything and can do everything
herself. Everything. The easiest way to identify her is by her language. She
only speaks two words, “I know.”
I think
it is almost as had if not as bad as a teenager, they have pretty much the same
“side effects” we will call them. I am 1 week in and to be honest so far so
good… ask me in 6 months and maybe my mind will have changed..
Things
to keep in mind when you are the mom of a Tween:
1) Treat
them like a teen- I know mom’s it hurts to think your baby is growing up so
quickly but it is going to happen, so treat them like they want to be treated,
I mean all the Good ways ;)
2) Increase
their bed time as a teenager would , we have let Brooke’s bedtime changed by 3
mins, we are giving it a try, so far the mornings have been good.
3) Give
them responsibilities- we gave Brooke a cell phonefor her 11th
birthday and so in order for her to keep this phone working, it has to come out
of her allowance, maybe you call us mean, but they have to learn sometime
4) Be
their Friend, their very best friend- They need to know you are not trying to
be mean to them, make them comfortable to talk to you about anything and
everything, if they cannot talk to you, who can they talk to
5)
Love
them unconditionally- No matter what happens in life, I will love my daughter
til the day I die, none of us are perfect and we all make mistakes, the key is
to Love them.
I love my Tween
Savor the time you have with your tween because she would be out of the nest before you know it.
ReplyDeleteCan't believe she is 11 already! It feels like just yesterday you joined LBN and introduced yourself as 'Terri, a mom of a 'little girl'.
ReplyDeleteLuckily, I have a couple years before my oldest hits this stage. Until then I'm bookmarking this for future reference (since I'm sure I'll need it).
ReplyDeleteI'm afraid of those years. Parenting is scary. Thankfully my daughter is only two right now.
ReplyDeleteLove them so much through this tough time in their lives as they adjust from being a child to being more independent. I love mine so very much.
ReplyDeleteThese are great tips, thank you!
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ReplyDeleteThe tween years flew fast for mine!
ReplyDeleteYou can't be mean for giving your child responsibilities for owning a cellphone. The inverse is true - giving a cell to a child with no responsibilities is foolish. Great tips.
ReplyDeleteI love this age. I know I'm not the norm. But I just love their innate weirdness. It's my favorite age!
ReplyDeleteGreat tips. I think making bedtime a bit later is a great idea, they need to know they are growing up and have something to show for it :-)
ReplyDeleteTime flies and every moment is so precious, enjoy all the transitions, they can be soooo fun!
ReplyDeleteMy daughter turned 11 this year too. They grow up so fast. Great advice.
ReplyDeleteI've got a couple (or more?) years to go and looking forward to the tween years. Thanks for the tips!
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