Walk in freedom

 

Every table isn’t gonna have a spot for you. Every invitation isn’t gonna have your name on it, and every call isn’t gonna be for you. 

Every text isn’t gonna have your number, and every seat isn’t gonna be saved for you, and thank goodness. 

It might’ve hurt when I was younger, but the older I’ve gotten, the more I appreciate the fact that I wasn’t made for everyone, and everyone isn’t gonna get me, or like me, or want me. I’m not so boring that I can fit into every mold, and I’m not so generic that I can suit everyone’s taste. 

I appreciate that I don’t have to force myself, or squeeze myself into places that weren’t made for me, and I don’t have to tip-toe into every relationship. I don’t have to chase people, or beg them to want me. 

I can live in FREEDOM (yes, sister) and I can be myself, and I can let the cards fall where they may. I can love people and treat them well, and I can figure out who is choosing me and choose them right back. 

I don’t have to sit through forced conversations, and I don’t have to pretend, and I can’t tell how how much that makes me wanna stand up and shout “YES HALLELUJAH AND AMEN.” 

I don’t have to stay in a place where rumors are being spread, and people are being talked about, and gossip is the only thing on the menu. I don’t have to act like it’s okay just so I’m not ostracized. I don’t have to sit through a girls night where no one can talk about anything else but their diets and their workouts and what they look like. 

I can make decisions, and I can make sure I’m in places that lift me up and make me laugh and make me better. I can have boundaries for crying out loud. 

I don’t have to stress about being too much, or not enough, or being to loud, or too quiet, or wearing the right clothes. I don’t have to worry about having enough money, or saying all the right things, or wondering if people will think I’m bragging if I share my celebrations with them. 

Being popular isn’t all it’s hyped up to be, and be included in everything all the time isn’t even a reasonable expectation. 

It’s not about having enough perfectly posed-pictures to post, or having enough stories to make other people go “wow, she’s so cool. Look at all the places she gets invited to.” 

It’s about knowing who you are and knowing the right people (even if it’s only one) always save you a seat, even if you show up looking a hot mess. They don’t care. They’re just glad you’re there, and maybe you have such a good time that you forget to take pictures all together. 

It’s not about how it looks from the outside. It’s about having a circle that is healthy from the inside.

Why You Should Let Your Nerd Flag Fly'

 

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It’s a shame that at one point the term ‘nerd’ came with negative connotations, because it’s really describing those who have a passion or a real interest in something that may not be the norm. While you or I may not see the passionate value in sitting at a station and watching trains go by for hours, we can appreciate that those who do really enjoy doing so, get a kick out of the history, and love to see these models in action.

So, perhaps it’s time that all corners of the world looked at nerds with a renewed fondness, and allowed the ability to ‘geek out’ over something mean something entirely positive rather than something alternative and annoying. The best way we can do this is to let our own nerd flags fly, unapologetic and unafraid about the topics we love talking about.

But how can we better do that? In this post, we’ll discuss all of those possible techniques, and how to move forward with care:

There’s A Community Out There For You

You’d be surprised, but no matter what strange little niche interest you have, there’s absolutely someone out there who shares it. You may even find them in the unlikeliest of places. A good place to start, however, is to go online and view places like Reddit, where a forum for every single interest, even a tv-show that’s been off the air for thirty years, will have its adherents and people willing to discuss it.

It can be nice to share your passion with people, because we can’t really expect everyone in our personal lives to go along with every little passion we have. Here you may even be able to share collections, organize meet-ups, and just geek-out in a fun, healthy, and interesting manner.

You May Be Able To Make Some Money

The power of a niche interest is that it can actually become quite valuable. For example, at the time of this writing, there are only around five people who hand-craft snooker cues out of ash wood in England. Modern methods have less to mass production, and as such, the general uniformity of many cues has become more commonly found. For this reason, there have been some practitioners who still wish to keep up this amazing craft, and they do so, selling to many eclectic customers. 

It might be that this principle relates to you, from finding local stamp shops to better make money from your collection, or traders and collectors you can negotiate with to find that best first edition of a classic book or even value your classic video game collection using this Video Game Collection Tracker. Sure, you don’t get involved in a passion just to make money from it, that’s the opposite of how ‘passion’ is defined, but it’s true that falling in love with the craft doesn’t have to make you destitute - especially when so many good opportunities are available.

Sharing Your Passion Contributes To Preservation & A Craft Shared

It may not feel like it, but people like you allow certain crafts to be preserved and interests to carry on for future generations. For example, think of how many people are interested in retro video games and their preservation, even though a large number of modern devices rarely run them. By keeping this old hardware alive the history of an entertainment medium is more and more understood.

But this doesn’t have to be virtual. Pinball machine collectors that spend time carefully replacing components, fixing LED’s and even donating their collections to museums are, wether they know it or not, keeping alive something quite positive and entertaining, and you’d be amazed at how worthwhile this is. After all, you’re spending your time and energy sustaining positivity - it’s as simple as that.

Others Will Feel Accepted

The more you let your nerd flag fly, unafraid to do so, the more others feel that they’re not so strange after all. Think of two of the coolest and most objectively attractive men in Hollywood, Henry Cavill, and Michael B. Jordan. Mr. Cavill is a PC gaming addict, and even missed his first call to sign for the role of Superman because he was playing video games. Michael B. Jordan is also a huge proponent of the nerdiest anime series out there. 

So - as you can see, these interests are not categorized into ‘nerdy’ or ‘non-nerdy’ just because of what they are. An interest is an interest, and you deserve to be passionate about it. If you do that, perhaps others will feel better about sharing what they know with you, and having a good time doing so.

With this advice, we hope you’ll begin letting your nerd flag fly with the rest of us.

Ways To Make Sure You Never Get Sick'

 

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Nobody wants to get sick, but it often seems like an inevitable part of life. It doesn’t need to be, however. There are multiple ways to make sure you never get sick, but you’ll need to spend time and effort making a few changes to your lifestyle.

If you’ve found yourself getting sick regularly, that’s especially true. Doing this doesn’t need to be complicated and time-consuming. Instead, it’s as simple as using seven particular strategies in your daily life.

After doing them for a little while, they’ll become habits and shouldn’t take much time out of your day. They’re more than worth looking into to make sure you don’t get sick.

Ways To Make Sure You Never Get Sick: 7 Top Options

1. Know The Symptoms

As much as you’ll try to prevent getting sick, there’s always a chance it can happen. You should make sure you know what the symptoms of potential illnesses are so you can figure out how to treat them quickly. By doing so, you’ll get back to full health in no time.

If your head hurts when you cough, for example, it’s worth reading this: https://drhouse.com/why-does-my-head-hurt-when-i-cough/. You’ll find out more about what’s causing it, as well as how you can treat it quickly and easily.

2. Wash Your Hands

Exposure to germs is the quickest and easiest way to get sick. You’ll want to avoid this as much as possible, but that doesn’t mean you’ll need to stay at home constantly and avoid the outdoors. Instead, it’s as simple as washing your hands regularly.

You should do this for at least 20 seconds at a time to make sure you get all of the germs off. It’s worth washing them:

Before eating

After you go to the bathroom

When hands look or feel dirty

After blowing your nose

When you’re washing your hands regularly, you’ll prevent exposure to germs, limiting the amount of times you’ll end up getting sick.

3. Stay Home When You’re Sick

As much effort as you’ll put into making sure you don’t get sick, there’ll always be a point when you come down with something. The key here is to get rid of this as quickly as possible so you can go about your life again.

If you end up trying to go through your day as you normally would have, you could end up making the illness worse. It’s worth staying home, as this gives you the time and ability to recuperate. Try asking family members to pick up over-the-counter medications that’ll help you recover.

Doing this also makes sure you don’t get anyone else sick. Take the time to stay in bed and look after yourself.

4. Cover A Cough & Sneeze

Coughing and sneezing spread germs around one, even if these aren’t related to a specific illness. These germs can often make their way back into your body, increasing your chance of actually getting sick. It also risks the people around you getting sick.

You should cover your mouth and nose anytime you get sick to make sure that doesn’t happen. As simple as this sounds, it’s one of the most effective ways to make sure you never get sick while also protecting the people around you.

It’s low-effort, but effective.

5. Disinfect Frequently

There’ll be multiple surfaces you’ll touch regularly, such as kitchen countertops when you’re cooking food. These can all be hotbeds for germs, letting them grow in numbers. Since these cause illnesses when they make their way into your body, you’ll want to make sure you’re not exposed to them.

Disinfecting these surfaces regularly is a sure-fire way to make sure they’re gone. Doing so once or twice a day or every few days can be recommended. Don’t limit yourself to kitchen countertops, however. It’s also worth disinfecting door knobs, your phone, and similar things you touch regularly.

It’ll drastically reduce your chances of getting sick.

6. Avoid Contact With Sick People

The more you’re around sick people, the more likely you are to get sick. You should avoid contact with sick people as much as possible to make sure you never get sick. That could seem difficult if someone you live with is sick, but it doesn’t need to be. Instead, try:

Disinfect objects they’ve touched

Have them stay in one room, such as a bedroom, while they’re sick

Communicate through FaceTime or similar platforms

Practice social distancing

By limiting your contact with sick people, you’ll drastically decrease your chances of getting sick. While it might take some effort, it’ll be easier than you’d think.

7. Don’t Touch Your Face

Touching your face often means you’ll expose it to more germs that it needs to, especially if you don’t wash your hands regularly. The more germs that make their ways to your face, the more likely you are to get sick. You’ll naturally want to avoid that.

Unfortunately, it’s not uncommon for people to touch their face regularly. It’s estimated they do it between three and five times a minute. You should aim to break this habit, though it’ll take a bit of effort.

It takes a bit of practice and self-awareness, but you’ll get there eventually. You’ll dramatically reduce your exposure to germs - and the potential illnesses - because of this.

Ways To Make Sure You Never Get Sick: Wrapping Up

You can choose from countless ways to make sure you never get sick, many of which can be effective. With how important your health is, they can be vital. Coupled with that is how you’ll save yourself from the misery that a prolonged sickness often entails.

You don’t need to put much effort into this, however. With a few particular tips and tricks, you’ll make it easy while protecting your health. Knowing the symptoms, washing your hands, avoiding sick people, and other tips are all helpful with this.

They’ll minimize your chances of getting sick without you needing to put much time or effort into it. It’s worth taking the time to make them part of your daily lifestyle.

Lessons from my 30's

In your 30s, it’s important to step back and get a little perspective through some good old-fashioned reflection.

Sometimes it’s easy to think it’s all doom and gloom as the years tick over and the fine lines and white hairs start setting in; however, getting older needn’t be something to cringe at.

Instead, it should be something to celebrate – no matter the age!

Each year around my birthday, I write a post acknowledging my new age, what I am grateful for, and the life lessons I’ve learned. Today I turn F.O.U.R.T.Y!!!!!!

I’ve found this a great way to put things into perspective and to look at life with kindness rather than criticism.

Make self-care your #1 priority

After all, mental health begins with ME. And by self-care, I’m not talking about scented candles and pamper sessions (even though I love a scented candles). Nope, I’m talking about getting back to basics, from stocking up the fridge and eating nourishing food to getting the right amount of sleep.

I’ve experienced burnout a few times, and because of this, I’ve learned that SELF-CARE should be my number one priority … and that it should have been all along.

Walk your path

Live your dream, chase your passions and walk to the beat of your drum. It’s scary, and it can be hard work, but it’s all worth it in the long run due to the sense of fulfilment you will experience.

Multitasking is overrated

Focusing on one thing at a time is much more productive than multitasking, which comes from the reformed Queen of Multitasking. 

These days I prefer to be more mindful and to focus on one thing at a time. Yes, I’m slower, but I also think things through more, being able to focus, and the quality of what I do is so much better.

Learn to say no

I wish I had learned to say no earlier in life, but sometimes some insist on learning things the hard way (that’s me!)!

Learning to say no is one of the best things you can ever do. Once you get past the fear of saying ‘no’, it becomes empowering. People will understand; if they don’t, they aren’t worthy of your time.

Make time for fun

As you grow older, you need to MAKE TIME for fun. Sometimes you even have to schedule it.

Tell people you love them often

Tell the people you care about that you love them often. You can do this by sending a text, a message, an email, or doing something old school like mailing them a card or letter. Why not even make a phone call. 

I learnt it the hard way after my husband nearly died from a bad fall at home. It was so scary and a huge wake-up call that reminded us to appreciate life and each other in each and every moment.

Be vulnerable, authentic and courageous

Don’t pretend to be someone you’re not; be your beautiful, vulnerable, authentic self. It takes a lot of strength and courage, and you will sometimes feel incredibly uncomfortable. However, it will be worth it.

Living authentically, knowing your values, and learning to say no and follow your heart will support you to be much happier and less stressed.

It’s okay to ask for help

Sometimes you need help, and sometimes you need to ask for it, no matter how stubborn and independent you are.

I’m stubborn and independent, but these days when I need help, I mostly ask for it [Okay… it’s still a bit challenging, BUT I am making progress!].

Never stop learning

The lesson’s just keep coming as you grow older, even when you wish they wouldn’t; however, the secret is never to stop learning as that’s where the personal growth happens – even from the shitty stuff. Yes, there’s something to be said for hindsight!

If you are making the same mistakes repeatedly, it’s time to sit up and take notes. What can you learn from these experiences? And what changes can you make to break the cycle?

Never deny your struggles

Never deny your struggles, as they are an important part of your story.

I could easily hate on my depression and ‪anxiety, and although I’ve had some pretty rough times, I own it. I don’t regret or wish I hadn’t had it because it has made me who I am today and enabled me to give back to others.

Love what you do, do what you love

In a nutshell, you need to LOVE what you do and do what you LOVE, especially if you are running your own business!

If you don’t, it’s time to sit up and assess WHY. I did this at 38 and realized I deserved better than what I was getting and I made the change 

Creativity is good for the soul

Allow yourself to explore. To try new things. It doesn’t matter if you suck at it. The point is you tried. And if you are telling yourself ‘you are too old’, give yourself a right slapping as you are never too old!

Best of all, play, create and have fun!

Learn to love the little things

Life is about the little things. A warm hug, cuddling a baby, a hot chocolate with marshmallows, sunshine and a summer’s breeze.

An exercise I like to do now and then is to list 99 things I love – it’s all about finding joy in the small things. 

Practice gratitude daily

There is something wonderful about a daily gratitude practice: practice being grateful for one thing every day and build up to expressing your gratitude – verbally or physically (an all-encompassing hug!). 

Once gratitude becomes a habit, it changes how you live your life and impacts those around you.

Use your nice things

I remember being given a few things I’d gifted to my Nan after she died that had never been used. She had either been saving them for a special occasion or thought they were too good to use. I think about that every time I look at those items for fear I might ruin them if I use them. And so, I use them.

Burn your scented candles, wear your good dress, use your expensive perfume, dig out the fancy crockery and cutlery, and wear your expensive jewellery.

You need much less than you think

You will feel much lighter if you clear the clutter and embrace a minimalist approach to living. You’ll also be surprised how much you can live without. I know I am, and to be honest, I also feel a lot happier!

Learn to manage your stress

Investigate stress management techniques that work for you.

Ditch what doesn’t work and harness what works for you so that it becomes ingrained in your everyday life, and you can easily call on it in times of intense stress.

Find Your Tribe

Be it on or offline, find those people who are into the same things you are, support you, and accept you for who you are. They will become your biggest cheer squad and be there for you in times of need (and vice versa). 

 Switch off

I love social media; however, I recognise how detrimental it can be to your health and well-being. I challenge you to check in on your social media habits and to make an honest assessment.

Take time away with your children, spouse with no interruptions. It does so much wonderful things for your relationships.

Don’t let life turn you bitter

I was once ‘advised’ by a former boss that we all grow old and bitter and was taken aback by it.

We all have a choice. We can let life drag us down, give in and grow bitter, or choose the alternate path – one where we grow content and happier.

I know what I will choose.

Don’t expect everyone to understand or support you

When those you love don’t understand what you are doing or why it can hurt and make you question yourself.

It takes determination and spirit to stay true to yourself and to continue on your chosen path. In the end, those you love may just come around.

On the other hand, they may not. It happens. Don’t get bogged down in it, as it will destroy you. Do your best to move past it as quickly as possible, and take comfort in the thought that others who went before you also met the same thing.

You aren’t alone in this, either.

Allow yourself downtime

There’s nothing selfish about having regular downtime. Me-time is one of the most important things you can do.

By setting aside time for yourself, you give yourself permission to rest, recharge, and do something nice that serves you.

So take your breaks, go to bed early, enjoy a nap, and go on a holiday. 

The world can wait.

Put yourself first

It’s true what they say – you can only love others  when you love yourself.

You can only help others after you have helped yourself – so learn to put yourself first.

Be the best person you can be. Through self-love, self-care, and doing what you love, you will be in a perfect position to love and help others.

Life’s too short to stress over a messy house

There are many more important things to spend your time and energy on than stressing over a clean house.

Sure, I’d love a spotless house with painted walls and doors, but good health and happiness come first in our house.

In my opinion, most housework can wait unless you’re in the mood and enjoy it.

Develop a routine

When I was younger, I prided myself on living by the seat of my pants and being the queen of multitasking. However, I’ve now realised that focussing on one thing at a time and developing a good routine is key to living well.

From meal prep and planning my outfits for the week to daily to-do lists and Omni-tasking, it’s made the WORLD of a difference!

Stop stressing over perfection

Nothing and no one is perfect. Got it!

You are courageous

Life.

It takes a lot of courage.

Courage to push through the hard times, the failures and the hiccups.

Courage to succeed and not to run in the other direction.

And courage to change or to stay as we are when others want us to change. 

We all have it; sometimes, we need a reminder to look within.

Travel your heart out

There are so many beautiful people in the world. So many traditions and cultures to discover. So many conversations to be had. 

I’ve met many lovely people who have opened their homes, hearts and families to me, and some who even saved me.

My heart will forever be grateful to these people.

Random acts of kindness

Random acts of ‪kindness are the best type of kindness. Be it a smile at a stranger, a helping hand, a donation, a kind word, or something else, it is a beautiful thing to experience and give.

Seize the day

If you haven’t before, in your 40's, make it your mission to live every day as if it’s your last.

Go through each day more mindfully and learn to treasure each and every moment.

If you take one thing away from this post, it is that this is one of the most important lessons to learn in life.

Not everything about my thirties was good or bad. Kim and Moses got married, Brooke graduated high school and started University.  We celebrated 20 years of marriage, Saelah our pride and joy was born. We spent the last three years going thru a pandemic but we made it.  

Here's to my 40's

Encouraging Your Husband To Take Care Of His Health'

 

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Have you ever wondered how to encourage your husband to care for his health? Years ago, it was considered "unsophisticated" for a man to prioritize his health, but attitudes are changing. In this blog post, we will discuss tips on getting your husband on board with taking care of himself. Your husband's health is essential, and it's up to you to help him stay healthy!

What Are The Health Risks If Men Do Not Take Care Of Themselves

Men over the age of 45 face several unique health risks, many of which are driven by lifestyle factors such as diet, exercise habits, and level of stress. For example, an unhealthy diet can increase a man's risk for many conditions, including heart disease, high blood pressure, and type 2 diabetes. Additionally, men who do not get enough physical activity regularly are more likely to develop cardiovascular problems or become obese. Furthermore, men who are under a great deal of stress may be more prone to mental health conditions such as depression and anxiety. Therefore, men should follow a healthy lifestyle that includes regular exercise, adequate sleep and rest, and stress-reducing activities to protect their well-being and avoid these serious health risks. By taking these steps now, they can help to safeguard their long-term health and well-being.

The Benefits Of A Healthy Lifestyle For Men

There are many benefits to leading a healthy lifestyle. Perhaps the most significant benefit is that maintaining a healthy lifestyle can help mitigate the risk of developing severe medical conditions like heart disease, diabetes, and cancer. Maintaining a balanced diet and regular exercise can also help preserve functional capacity and improve overall well-being. Additionally, embracing an active and health-conscious lifestyle can significantly reduce aging-related physical pains, such as joint discomfort or stiffness. Overall, there are many reasons why men over the age of 45 must maintain a healthy lifestyle to enjoy a better quality of life both now and in the years to come.

How To Encourage Your Husband To Take Care Of His Health

If you are looking for ways to encourage your husband to take care of his health, there are a few key steps that you can follow. 

The first step is to make him aware of the importance of not only his physical health but his sexual health also. Then, encourage him to visit pollockclinics.com. This clinic provides expert advice on all matters regarding men’s general sexual health. By learning from the experts at such a clinic, your husband will be better equipped to make healthy choices in his everyday life.

Another critical step is to set a good example yourself. Instead of focusing on dieting or excessive exercise, aim to make healthy choices regarding what foods you eat and how active you are each day. For example, swap out sugary snacks for fresh fruits and vegetables, and go for brisk walks or bike rides instead of plopping in front of the TV after work. By modeling these healthy behaviors, you can positively influence your husband and help him improve his health habits.

If you want to encourage your husband to take care of himself and stay healthy for years to come, focusing on building good habits and seeking expert advice is the best approach. With these tools at your disposal, you can help guide him toward a healthier lifestyle, for which he will be thankful in the long run.

Make sure to plan for the future

To help ensure your husband is always thinking about his health, it’s important to plan for the future. Ask your partner what it is they want, should something happen to their health whereby you’re unable to assist as much as you’d lie. For example, palliatke. Options like palliative care at home are worth looking into.

In Conclusion

Regular health screenings are essential for men of all ages. It's worth encouraging your husband to get screened for various conditions and diseases, especially as he gets older. Although getting him to go to the doctor may be challenging, remind him that it's vital for his health and well-being. Encourage him to take care of himself, so he can live a long and healthy life with you by his side.

Simple Tips to Spruce up your Home'

 

Sometimes a home can do with a little more than a sporting clean. Occasionally it needs an entire overhaul; other times a few simple changes here and there can make a world of difference. If you find yourself looking about and no longer feeling inspired by your surroundings, then it is time to spruce things up a little. The good news is, not everything has to cost a fortune. Take a look at the list below and see if any of these ideas can help you transform your home. 

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Fix Things

If you have a lot of broken things lying about, this can make you feel down in the dumps as well as look unsightly. Broken picture frames, handles hanging off doors, and curtains that permanently have to be closed as there is a dodgy curtain rod all play o the mind no matter how much you pretend they don't. Get your notepad out, list all the things that need fixing, and get out there and fix them. It doesn't take much to look at buy curtain rods online . Not only can you fix things, but you can also enhance the look and feel of your home too. This is added bonus.  

Decluttering

Most homes have clutter. Even the homes that appear clean and tidy are inundated with clutter. Old furniture, full drawers, and cupboards, having nowhere to put things, most homes have these issues, and decluttering is the answer. Sometimes we are forced to declutter through some sort of problem. At other times, it can take valiant effort to declutter. Most people look in that overflowing drawer and shut it again, thinking ill deal with that later. The trouble is that later never comes until times of change are forced upon us. The good news is once you start decluttering, it becomes a lot easier. First of all, you sever that attachment to useless things, and you get into a flow. You feel better in your mind. As the physical clutter disappears, stress and anxiety are lifted from the mind. Declutter creates more space, makes the home neater and tidier, it even makes you healthier in terms of mental health and physical health. Dust and mold can build up in cluttered homes, and over time this can cause a myriad of health problems.   

Feature Wall

A great way to add more personality and inspiration to a room is to create a feature wall. This is usually done in the living room, although you can do it in any room you want. Take a look and decide which wall can be the feature. Repaint it a bright color, if you like bright, or cover it in some inspiring wallpaper, whatever takes your fancy. Once you have done this, you can add lots of pictures and canvases to it. Inspirational quotes, pictures of some of your loved ones, and great times. The choice is yours. The important thing is to have something that adds to your personality. An arty person may see the home as an extension of themselves, filling it with arty things. All this can help inspire and add that sparkle back to your home.

A Little Greenery

Indoor plants can make a room come to life. If you live alone and have no pets, plants can make you feel a little less alone. Not only do plants look great, but they can also purify the air in your home. They suck in toxins and breath out fresh, clean oxygen. They also have the power to make you feel happier. Plants can even reduce your stress levels, which is a massive bonus in this hectic and stressful world we live in. The good news is most plants are pretty easy to take care of. Water is all most of them need, and a small amount of pruning every now and again.

Upgrade Certain Features

Are you a bit tired of your bathroom? Well, instead of forking out for a new bath and sink, why not change out the faucets? New faucets are a great alternative to changing the entire bathroom. If the new faucets are different enough, it will make it look as though you have changed the bath and sink, so go shopping with a view to making it as different as possible. Other things to consider changes are the door handles and drawer handles. New lamp shades or lamps can make a big difference too. Don't underestimate how lighting can affect the mood of a room. The idea is to make small changes that upgrade the look and feel instantly.