1.18.2018

Just be Patient. Coping with family member in hospital

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Nobody likes to spend time in a hospital. When you are there because you're not feeling well, it can feel like a little bit of a prison. At least when you're pregnant you know the outcome, it means that there is an end in sight. When you have a family member or a loved one in hospital, and they've been in for some time, it can be quite a difficult thing to deal with, not just in a personal and emotional sense, but the demands on your time can contribute to an overall feeling of stress and anxiety. So how can you deal with these burdens?

Being Proactive
Ultimately, it depends on the circumstances, but if you've got a loved one in hospital and it's because of a very serious accident, the complexities of the situation can take a long time to wade through. There could be a personal injury attorney on the case for you, which means endless consultations, reports, and bills to go through. But when you have these issues to deal with, as well as the stress of seeing your loved one in physical and emotional pain, the best thing to do is to feel that you are accomplishing something, however little, to help them cope with their stay. Being proactive, at least, helps everybody strive towards a solution to the problem.

Try Not To Feel Guilty
This is easier said than done.  But it's impossible to think that you can take on the pressures of your working life, home life, and make time to see your loved one in the hospital on a near constant basis. This means that you are never getting a break. And then if you start to make more time for yourself, and try to balance your life out far more efficiently, guilt does creep in. It's important to do your best not to feel this guilt because life does go on. Unfortunately, visiting hours are at specific times, so if you can structure your life around the visiting hours, and lean on friends and other family members to see them when you're unable to go, then this helps to share the burden. Hopefully, that feeling of guilt will not be as apparent.

Trust That The Professionals Are Doing Their Job
We all want to know that our loved ones are doing okay, but when we see that the doctors and nurses are running around looking after everybody else, it's natural that frustration and annoyance can creep in. You need to trust that they are doing their job because this helps you feel less anxious. If you really have concerns, it's always important to speak to the nurse. It's the nurse that is on shift for the majority of the day, the physicians are very likely going between different departments. So if you want a more complete opinion of how your loved one is doing, then it's better to ask them.

It is very difficult to deal with, and there can be a feeling of helplessness, but also frustration, anger and lots of guilt. But when someone you care about is in hospital, there is a very delicate balancing act to get right. You have to keep on top of things in your daily life, but you want to make sure that you are there for them. And if your heart is in the right place, then you are there for them, although you aren't there physically.

A new bedroom setup for baby and you

During the first months of your baby’s life, you can guarantee there’ll be a lot to learn. Everything you thought you knew about parenting will go out of the window. Don’t panic; it happens to the best of us. You can read all the books you want, but nothing can prepare you for the real deal.

In an ideal world, we all want to be 100% ready by the time baby arrives. Hence, you’ve likely already set up your nursery and incorporated a temporary cot in your bedroom. With parenthood being so different from what many us expect, you shouldn’t be afraid to change the plan.

Sure, you have enough on your plate right now. But, by reconsidering your setup, you stand to make your life much easier. And, one area which often needs more attention is the sleeping arrangements. There’s no getting around the fact that new parents are going to get less sleep. Feeding schedules and a crying baby make sure of that. But, you may find that even the time you do get your head down isn’t put to best use right now.

If that’s the case, it’s important to reconsider your bedroom setup. It’s the only way to ensure you get the rest you need when you have time for it. Here are a few suggestions which may make your life a little easier.

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Focus on your comfort

There’s a distinct chance that everything you’re doing right now is with baby’s comfort in mind. That’s entirely natural. But, at this stage, you should also focus on your comfort. After all, your baby relies on you right now, and if you’re not good, your bundle of joy won’t be either. So, by caring for yourself, you’re making sure of the best for baby. Take this excuse to treat yourself. Head to a mattress outlet and stock up on a new mattress for yourself. Get new pillows, and a new duvet if you need one. Do the things you haven’t gotten around to yet. That way, you can ensure you fall asleep the moment your head hits the pillow. In case you hadn’t realized by now, getting to sleep fast is all part and parcel of parenthood.


Divide your bedroom

You may have dreamt of baby’s crib being right by your bed, but this can be bad for business. Not only will baby suffer from not having their own space, but you’ll go a little crazy, too. Everyone needs a break now and again, after all. If the crib is right by your bed, you may get into the habit of watching your beautiful bundle instead of sleeping. As such, it’s worth dividing a nursery space in your bedroom. How you do this is up to you. Dividers can work well, or you could create a physical divide using shelving units. Your baby will be close enough that you can reach them in a few strides, but not so close that they impact your sleep when they shouldn’t.

1.17.2018

These are the things that matter most in your family life

When was the last time you actually stopped to think about the quality of your family life? It’s one of those things that affects each and every person in your family unit, meaning it’s something that’s most definitely worth giving thought to if you haven’t done so already. There are only so many times you can make mistakes before your family life is hit and diminished. So here are the things that matter most in your family life; be sure to focus on them.

Balance Between Home and Work

No family can be truly happy together if there is no balance between the time you spend at work and the time you spend at home with the family. Some people only see the family over breakfast before they head out and come back later when everyone else is always in bed. Sooner or later, that kind of routine is going to take its toll on your family body and happiness, so beware.

Mutual Support

Each person in your family should be there for each other person when they’re most in need of some kind of support. Whether it’s your daughter who needs a shoulder to cry on or your partner who’s struggling with career problems, you need to be there to lend an ear and a helping hand. And the same applies to your whole family. Try to secure that mutual support.

Everyone’s Health and Well Being

Health is a major issue for families, and it affects just about everyone. If you as a parent and partner have a pain issue, head to your doctor and get medication from somewhere like Supurb.com. If you don’t find the right solution to your problems, your entire family dynamic will suffer, not just you personally. And you also need to be on top of your kids’ health if they’re not old enough or willing enough to do it themselves.

Time Spend Together to Cherish

Quality time is of course one of the most important things for any family to secure. If you don’t have proper time with your family in which to create memories that will be cherished and remembered forever, there’ll be nothing for you all to look back on collectively later in your lives. And frankly, that’s just sad, so start spending more quality time together.


Open Communication

Communication is a vital part of any happy family. If you’re not able to be open and honest with one another at all times, problems will arise, and that’s clearly not what you want. Go to lifescript.com/tips_for_better_family_communication if you want to learn how your family can get better at this going forward.

Nothing is more important to you than your family, and that’s the way it should be. If you want everyone in your family to get the most out of your collective family life, these are the issues and factors that you should certainly be focusing on right about now. Doing so will help you be happier together.

How to be Content


 
Take The Focus of yourself
Live free of debt
Spend time alone
Do something special for old people
Keep young children in your life
Get involved in a worthwhile cause
Avoid negative people
Discipline yourself
Understand other people’s point of view
Treat yourself
Be thankful for what you have
Ask for advice
Avoid known temptation
 
Karen Willoughby 

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