Step by Step

I wanted a step by step plan to get through this... I wanted a guarantee that if I followed the plan I would be free, the pain would be gone...
I wanted someone to say here let me help you, bless your heart, you have fought for so long, let me take it away.

My counselor couldnt give me a quick fix, i'm sure she wanted to, i'm sure she wished she had a special formula to sprinkle over me...

I'm sure she wanted to fix everything espicially my desire for everything to be ok right now and my refusal to embrace the process of healing.

I knew God would eventually fix me and make everything alright.. He would make something new and wonderful from my dust... I just knew I couldn't live a normal life without freaking out daily.

My counselor broke the news to me that there was simply no easy fix for the problems I faced.  Feeling the pain is the first step toward healing.We can numb it, ignore it or pretend it doesnt exist or face it head on and that is what I am trying to do.

Unexpected reasons you can't lose weight

There can be several things that will make you gain weight and make it harder to lose the excess, that have very little to do with your diet. It can be very disheartening when you are keeping to a calorie controlled diet to put even more weigh on, but this does happen if other things in your life are not right.

Sleeping Problems

Most people would never associate a lack of sleep with gaining weight, but the two are very closely related.  One research study showed that if people can get 8 hours of sleep every night for a year, without altering their diet at all they could lose up to half a stone in weight.

By the same token, if your sleep is constantly interrupted, or you just do not sleep long enough, it is likely to contribute to you gaining weight and make it harder for you to lose the excess.

For instance, if you have a sleep disorder such as sleep apnea, even when you do manage to sleep, it will not be of the best quality. You should seek the help of an ENT specialist in this scenario as they can often treat the condition and help you to get a better night sleep.


Small amounts of stress that we feel in everyday life do not do much harm and some doctors think they are good for us. More stressful or prolonged periods of stress can make your body produce cortisol, which is a stress hormone that protects your body from the tenseness caused by stress.

However, a study by Cell Metabolism has shown a connection between high levels of cortisol and fat mass.  The study revealed that when the levels of cortisol are higher than normal, it might be a contributing factor in weight gain.


There are some medications that are well-known for promoting weight gain. Most birth control pills, high blood pressure tablets and the hormone s used to treat breast cancer will all help the pounds pile on. There are also some arthritis medicines, and some for migraines and heartburn that will lead to weight increases if they are taken on a regular basis.

If you are concerned that your medication may be making you heavier, mention it to your doctor as there may be an alternative they can prescribe.  

Age-Related Weight Gain

None of us can stop getting older and as we do our bodies do not burn calories as efficiently.  The only way to combat this age-related weight gain is to eat less and exercise more. Part of the problem is that as we age our metabolism slows down naturally and exercise helps to keep it on a more even keel.

Also as you age you will lose muscles and sometimes this is replaced by fat. Some older people weigh very little more than they did 10 years ago. However, because muscle weighs more than fat, they could well need to wear clothes that are a couple of sizes larger.

Late Night Eating

There are been many studies into the time meals are eaten and how that affects weight. It seems that the later you eat the more your body holds onto the food and turns it into fat. The data showed that eating the same amount of calories in the evening than you would in the morning, made it more likely that weight would be gained.

They also found that snacking while watching TV in the evenings could lead to much larger amounts of food being eaten, and this, of course, will not help your weight.

Small, Unnoticed Changes

There can be small changes in your lifestyle that you hardly notice but they make a difference to your weight. For example, if you change your job and the new one is less active or you move home and only have to walk half the distance to work, these things can make a difference to how much you weigh.

If you are putting on weight, think about the little changes that have happened over the last few months, as you may be surprised just how many of these have affected your lifestyle and your weight.

The one thing that all the experts agree on is that whatever you eat and however much you exercise, does not matter if you are consuming sugary drinks. The calories in these can mount up very quickly and you can soon surpass the number in the amount of food you eat. No matter how old you are, what medications you take, how much sleep you get or how stressed you are, cut out those sugary drinks if you want to keep your weight down.


Your Guide to Experience the Real NYC

Ladies and gentlemen, there’s a place in the world that’s the capital of practically everything – showbiz,
fashion, music and even food. Yes, we’re talking about the almighty New York City! So, every single
person should visit this spectacular metropolis at least once in their lifetime, but it’s also very important
to know where they’re going. This city is definitely a huge one, and if you don’t do your homework
beforehand, the chances of you ending up in an average club or pub and eating average food are very
high. So, what should you visit in order to experience the real nature of the Big Apple?

What to see?

First of all, you need to allocate a couple of days to see all the landmarks and historical places in New
York City. Let’s say that your first stop would be the Statue of Liberty, and it definitely should be. This
mesmerizing statue is home to thousands of tourists daily, so it will be a perfect first choice. Moreover,
you will definitely take a walk through the Central Park and Manhattan, but make sure to visit them
during the day, as you don’t want to miss out on anything, and you definitely want to experience the
colorfulness of the city. Also, don’t miss out on the Empire State Building, but make sure to allocate a bit
more time so that you could get to the top floor and experience NYC in the right way. Finally, visit the
9/11 memorial, an overwhelming monument to the September 2011 terroristic attacks.

Where to go out?

This is definitely the hardest question to answer as New York City caters for everyone’s needs. First of
all, this is the home to some of the biggest gay bars, so if you’re gay or gay-friendly, you can choose from
gay sport clubs to gay country clubs where only country music is played. As for straight people, you will
be able to find a club or a pub on every corner of New York City. If you want to have the night of your
life, the three most popular NYC clubs at the moment are Village Vanguard, a legendary jazz venue, and
The 40/40 Club which is owned by Jay-Z. These two clubs might be a bit pricier than the rest of them,
but if you want the true NY experience, this is where you should go.

Where to eat and drink?

What’s important is that you never settle for sandwiches and beer in New York. You can have these
anywhere else in the world, so it would be good to try out something new. The first thing that you need
to do is try the NY street food, as it’s truly amazing. Moreover, if you have the chance to experience the
services of a great mixologist in NYC, say yes! Try to find a venue or an event with this type of catering,
cocktails paired with finger food and simply enjoy this amazing experience. You won’t find as good
mixologists as in New York City so it would be a shame not to see what they have to offer.

What to wear?

Fashion is extremely important in New York, but the good thing is that you can wear whatever you want
and still be quite fashionable. Why’s that? Because everyone appreciates the fashion style of other
people while still rocking their own. However, the biggest trend in this moment is athleisure, so pair
your elegant pants with excellent sneakers (if you have the option, go for Balenciaga), or wear a formal
coat and a sweatshirt. If this is not your cup of tea, you can also go with neon colors as they are huge
now. It’s also important to mention that you will never fail while wearing anything in the color of Living
Coral, which is Pantone’s color of the 2019.

What leisure activities should you try out?

Since you will be spending money on bars, pubs and restaurants, it would be good to choose leisure
activities that are practically free. Try visiting the Museum of Modern Arts (MOMA), but make sure that
you go there on a Friday from 4pm to 8pm because the entrance is free. The sculpture garden, however,
is free for entrance every morning from 9.30 to 10. Moreover, if you’re visiting NYC during the summer
and you like cinematography, you can hit the HBO Bryant Park Summer Film Festival or Syfy Movies with
a View at Brooklyn Bridge Park. Watching a movie in an outdoor cinema in the heart of the Big Apple,
free of charge, is definitely an activity that many opt for! Finally, you can always browse online and find
the best bars that organize trivia nights or scavenger hunts – there is a plethora of them and each one of
them is worth the money!
Writing an article about all the things that you could do in NYC is devastatingly difficult. You might as
well spend 7 months here and you will still have something new to discover and see. So, take your time,
see the most important things and simply enjoy. After all, this is how you will truly experience New York.



If you have been told by your orthodontist that you need braces, don’t shy away from it. If you’re thinking it’ll look bad, well far from it, because believe it or not, braces are in fashion. The only reason you have not to get braces is the financial aspect of it and now even that isn’t a consideration because your insurance might cover most of it.
1.     A beautiful smile
Your smile is beautiful! And you can make it even more so. Most orthodontists are of the opinion that braces are not only for a beautiful smile but also to keep the alignment of the jaw perfect. Problems in alignment can change the bone structure of the face and even give you pain later. If you’re looking for braces, look for something like braces san tan valley az and find someone with a good reputation in your area.
2.     Confidence
Even though you don’t need good teeth to gain confidence, but it’s nice to have one less thing to worry about. When you can flash a full smile at others, you have another thing to be confident of. Confidence building is often a huge task and the more help you can get the better. When you get braces, you don’t even realize you have them after some time and you reap the benefits for the rest of your life. It is a matter of a lifetime. When you grow older, you’ll thank yourself for getting braces because now you are brimming with confidence.
3.     Insurance cover
Chances are that your insurance covers the cost of getting braces because they are needed for alignment. Besides when you get braces, the treatment is spanned out over months and you don’t need to pay the full fee all at once. The cost of the treatment will vary depending on the kind of treatment you need. If you have a lot of work to be done on your teeth, the treatment could get stretched to as long as two years too. The insurance cover also differs in situations, like if you’re looking for invisalign gilbert az, the prices may differ because these are very specialized services.
4.     Fashionable
Braces have become very popular with Gen Z. They deliberately sport braces and the grunge look. You have all the more reason to get braces now. You can even go for aligners which are removable and have to be worn for only a few hours daily. These are not permanent like braces and are usually prescribed when you don’t need much correction or have just got your braces removed.
5.     Options
As the world of technology is evolving so is the way the world sees braces. You can get the traditional braces and make them look funky with different colored connectors. If you are really conscious of the braces showing, you can get them from the inside. Whether you’re scared of the pain or the hassle of having permanent braces, you can request your doctor to permit you to have aligners instead.

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