All about me and mine- Answer 2

The Headcase Christian asks:  What is it that you hope to accomplish with your blog?

For the longest time I had no idea what I wanted this blog to become or provide for me, for the longest time I was stuck on the number of comments I got, not anymore... 

Right now I am not really doing a lot of sponsored post, I took some time off a few weeks ago to figure out this blog and what I want to do with it, my friend Melissa gave me the best advice about it- she said do what makes you happy because at the end of the day it is my blog and I can write about whatever I want etc and this is true, I am not writing about what people think I should, off course your opinions matter but I want to be happy with this place. 

I had stopped writing " Weekend Recap's" and Wednesdays for Women because some people told me that it was going on to long and time for a change, so I took the advice and I fully think I should not have listened because those two posts made me incredibly happy. 

I love looking back and seeing what I did 1 year ago on July 15 for my weekend recap, so chances are in the next few weeks it may come back and I think I am going to start the Wednesdays for women back up but with a little different spin on things :) 

I am not sure if I ever want this blog to become a source of income for me as I fully LOVE my job so as to what my blog will accomplish will not be my main source of income, truthfully I do not care if I make any more money from this blog... my hearts cry is this- JESUS! 

That single mom can find a friend here and maybe even find Jesus 
That woman who feels alone, can realize she is not alone and she has a lot of people who care for her 
That woman who feels heart broken can come here and learn that Jesus loves them above anything we can ever comprehend. 

Jesus can sum up my blog desire in one word. 



Today I am bringing you a topic that is near and dear to my heart and that is Friendships, how to be a friend to the single mom whether it be thru incarceration, death, divorce etc, there is someone hurting and we need to be their friend 

10 ways we can build healthy friendships 

Today I am bringing you a topic that is near and dear to my heart and that is Friendships, how to be a friend to the single mom whether it be thru incarceration, death, divorce etc, there is someone hurting and we need to be their friend 

10 ways we can build healthy friendships 

1) Listen - everyone wants that person who will listen to them, give them your undivided attention and sometimes you do not have to answer with words, eye contact or a hug goes a long way. Never judge them or ask them personal questions, if they want to share they will.  

2)  Avoid constantly trying to fix their problems - you cannot fix everyone's problem. By all means, if a friend asks for advice, give it to him/her, They might want you to proofread an important email before it is sent out. Maybe they are struggling with a relationship. Perhaps life is throwing them a curve ball and they need your support or insight. Don’t wiggle your way into every aspect of your friend’s life, telling them how to be the star of their own show. Give them room to process things and make their own decisions.

3)  Communicate openly and honestly- Honesty is the best policy, ask them what you can do for them, share what you can offer, don't be afraid to tell them what you need.   Share what is necessary, but don’t dominate the conversation. When a problem arises, work through it together.

4) Be the kind of friend you want others to be to you- we all know the verse in the bible do unto others as you would have them do unto you. Give that single mom some time to herself, babysit her kids, if the dad has been incarcerated, she may feel overwhelmed and overworked, show her some love, be the hands and feet of Jesus, give her a break, let her get some extra sleep, let her go for that manicure, or to the hair salon alone. You want friends who are honest, kind, compassionate, fair, not judgmental, authentic, and intelligent.  Be that person first and you’ll be more likely to attract that kind of friend into your life.

5) Make time for your friends- Everyone seems to be fighting a constant battle of not having any "real" friends, friends you can call if your baby gets sick to come no matter the time, or a friend to come over to watch a movie with, a friend who is there for you, we all need them.  Call a friend and a invite them to do something, make time for them.

6) Seek balance in your friendship. Entering a relationship with selfish motives and being a person who takes and takes and takes until the well runs dry, is likely to lead a lonely life. Serve and support your friends. What can you do for them? How can you help? What can you add to their life or their day to make it a little bit better?

7) Celebrate what you have in common -  Most friendships are started because of some common thread – a favorite sport, a love of books, an appreciation of fine wine, an insufferable boss. Like my best friend in all the world, we started working together, and then we discovered we both love tea and it just went from there, now we are inseparable. 

8) Be authentic - Be yourself. Be honest. Avoid putting up a fa├žade. We all test our relationships by throwing something out there about our true nature.
9) Keep your promises. - If you know you can’t deliver something, don’t promise that you will. If you make a promise, do you best to keep it. It is better to say “I don’t think I can make it on Saturday night, but let's get lunch next week,” than saying you will show up, and then accept a different invitation or cancel at the last minute, never just say to them we can reschedule, always plan something for the next time you can. 

10) Respond carefully -Think before you speak – especially if you are angry. Choose your words with care. Speak in Love, speak life into their Lives. 

I also want to share a beautiful group with you and that is Prison fellowship, they are great if you have a loved one incarcerated.

Prison Fellowship seeks to restore those affected by crime and incarceration by introducing prisoners, victims, and their families to a new hope available through Jesus Christ. We accomplish this by training and inspiring churches and communities—inside and outside of prison —to support the restoration of those affected by incarceration. We equip wardens, prison staff, and volunteers, including men and women serving time, to create safer, more rehabilitative prisons that prepare prisoners to return to their communities as good neighbors. We advocate for a criminal justice system that upholds restorative values, so that communities are safer, victims are respected, and those who have caused harm are transformed. Outside prisons, we collaborate with churches, para-church organizations, and local service providers to support families with loved ones behind bars and people affected by crime. 

You can find them here 


Dear Ashley,


I will likely cry during this today and im sorry for ruining your makeup 

I will never forget the day we met. It was at Cabot call centre... You were wearing a pink shirt and I was instantly drawn to you because of your kindness, your smile and personality. I knew we were going to be friends... and since then I have felt like a part of your family just as you are a part of mine.  You offered to draw a photo of Brooke in exchange for my husband to do a website and that’s how it started, since then we pretty much talk every day, you are the first person I reach for when I am hurting or had a bad day, you are always just right there.

Today I want you to know...
I could never have picked a better man for you. I love you both 
Today is the first day of your new life with him, I feel so lucky to be standing beside you today. And he is lucky because you will make his mornings brighter and his nights sweeter.
The day we’ve been dreaming about and talking about for almost a year is finally here and I know you are smiling because you finally found the one.

I know you’re looking back and laughing at all the frogs you’ve kissed before and how hung up you were on them and I know you’re smiling because these days are over and you found a real man who can cherish you and appreciate you. If you ever feel like you’re not good enough for him, I want you to remember today and the way he looked at you as you were walking towards him.

Ever since I knew about him I knew he deserved you, the way he makes you smile and laugh makes me proud. 

I hope he loves you in a way that makes you believe in love every single day. I hope he listens to you when you’re down and go out of his way to make you smile. I hope he always puts you first, I hope he knows that life is incomplete without you, that all the good things in life won’t mean a thing if he is not sharing them with you. I hope you become the only thing he truly can’t live without.

I hope he understands that I am not going anywhere and he should expect me to show up uninvited and call you whenever I feel like it.
 I hope you can completely be yourself with him. Even though I hate to give up my spot, but I hope he becomes your best friend, the one you can talk to about anything, the one you can trust with your life, the one you can reveal your secrets to and know that he won’t judge you.

I hope you can sit together in silence and still be happy, I hope you can have endless conversations with him and not get bored.
I hope he fulfills all his vows and I hope he promises more as time goes by.
He will give you the kids you always wanted and you will love him even more for it.

I will come to your daughter’s dance recitals and your son’s hockey games. Save a spot for me.  I am the honorary auntie. I hope your daughter has your sense of humor, your beauty- I mean just look at you today, absolutely stunning, and your kindness. And I hope your son has his chivalry and his determination.

I want you to know that you are a person worthy of all the love in the world and that you make him happy – even if there are days when you won’t believe it, you do!

You are my person, the one I can depend on. I love you Mrs. Ashley Cooney.  

Ashley and David: 
Let your love be stronger than your rage or anger. Let you learn to compromise because it is better to bend a little than to break. May you need one another, but not out of weakness. May you want one another, but not out of lack. May you embrace one another, but not smother one another. May you both succeed in your personal goals and celebrate with one another, and not fail in the little graces. Often say, "I love you!" and take no notice of small faults. May all your ups and downs only be in the bedroom! But if you do have quarrels that push you apart, may both of you hope to have good sense enough to take the first step back. May you both have happiness, and may you find that happiness by making one another happy. May you both have love, and may you find that Love by loving one another.

Let’s raise our glasses and toast to the bride and groom and a lifetime of happiness.  I love you both.


How to Stay in Touch with Your Single Gals After You Get Married

Today I have a guest blogger as I am travelling to my best friends wedding, without further adue here is Roxana is a travel enthusiast and lifestyle consultant from Sydney and she loves to write about her adventures. She is all about the healthy lifestyle, loves to run with her husband and dogs and has fun cooking exotic meals for her family. Being a typical Aussie, she often hits the waves and loves beaches and sunshine! You can find out more about her writing following her on twitter and facebook. She is also one of the editors at Higstylife Magazine.

How to Stay in Touch with Your Single Gals After You Get Married

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Getting married or having children can be a super-busy and stressful time of your life, which sometimes makes you neglect other people you hold dear. During that period, your life will change a lot, and you’ll simply stop having time for all those fun things you used to do with your gal pals. Those of them who are not yet married might have different priorities and schedules, so getting together can be a bit difficult. Of course, this doesn’t mean you stopped caring for them and that you don’t appreciate their support. These things happen - it’s completely normal. Well, if you want to reconnect with your single BFFs, here are just some ways you can do that and rekindle your friendship.

Go through old photos/videos of you

Not only can a trip down the memory lane remind you why you are friends, but it can be simply hilarious. Remember that time you went on a joyride and ended up at the beach? Or that time you organized a private fashion show and took crazy photos? There are probably a lot of situations you completely forgot about! You can make fun of each other’s haircuts from high school and think about all the dear people you used to hang out with. This will trigger so many nostalgic emotions and remind you of your long and loyal friendship. You simply can’t throw all of those memories away just because you have different schedules at the moment.

Have a pampering spa day

If you used to have a spa day with your friends, there’s no reason you can’t renew that tradition. No matter how busy all of you are, you should always find some time to relax. You can sweat it out in the sauna or enjoy a relaxing massage. This will definitely bring you closer together.
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Have a night out, just you girls

Bonding over your favorite gin in a pregame session, just like in the old days might just be what you all need. After that you have to go to your favorite bar, if it’s still open, and have a blast. Make sure to make time for just you girls and try not to talk about your marriage and kids too much. It’s not that they don’t want to hear about it or that they aren’t happy for you, but this time try to concentrate on them and their lives. After you get tired of sharing stories, you can let loose on the dance floor and remind everyone how you used to rule the clubs. The next morning might be a little painful (darn you, hangover!) but it’ll all be worth it.
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Have Sex and the City theme night

Woohoo, Sex and the City marathon! If you want to be close like Carrie, Samantha, Charlotte and Miranda, the best way to do so is by rewatching every girl’s favorite TV show. Prepare snacks (something healthy and fancy), wine or cocktails, and laugh about your heroines’ adventures. You can also do a Sex and the City quiz. Who got Samantha? Heck, you can even turn it into a sleepover for old times’ sake.
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Go on a weekend trip together

Nothing brings people together like new experiences. You can take a one-day trip to a neighbouring state or a city you’ve never visited. You can also turn it into a long weekend (how does Paris sound to you?) or if you want to share a once-in-a-lifetime adventure, consider Peru or Nepal! All those adventures and misadventures will make your friendship stronger than ever before.
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Take some interesting courses together

If simple chatting over coffee was never your style, you can invite you girlfriends to some fun course. There are amazing deals and discounts out there allowing you to learn something new with your old friends. You can learn how to make sushi or pottery, take a painting class or how to give massages. And the next time you get together, you can talk about those failed vases you made or that gross sushi and share a few laughs.
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Reconnecting and staying in contact with you single friends is pretty easy. All you need is some time and will to get everyone together. Great fun is guaranteed!  

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