5 Effective Tips on How to Train Your Dog

Having a well trained dog isn’t the same as having a balanced dog, but if your pet knows a couple of
basic commands, it can be extremely helpful when tackling problematic behavior, whether it already
exists or you want to prevent it from developing in the future. While you could take a class in obedience
training, most of the time it isn’t necessary. Not only can you do it yourself, but with the right attitude, it
can be fun for both you and your pet. So, here are the most effective tips on how to train your dog:

1. Give your dog partial freedom
In order to learn boundaries, let your new dog gradually earn freedom throughout your home. A
common mistake that many new pet owners make is giving their dog too much freedom around the
home too soon, which can easily lead to difficulties relating to house training and destructive chewing.
So, make it a habit to close off doors to unoccupied rooms and use baby gates to section off parts of
your home, if necessary. One of the best ways to minimize incidents in the home is to keep your dog
tethered to you whenever possible and to use a crate or doggie safe area when you aren’t able to
actively supervise them.

2. Try positive reinforcement
The idea of using treats to train a dog is often equated with bribery. The truth is, dogs will do whatever
works. If using treats enforces them to obey your commands, then you’ve found an effective way of

encouraging them to listen and learn. However, you need to be mindful of the fact that too many treats
often cause weight gain, which is why you should slowly wean him off treats as he starts to perform
behaviors based on verbal commands. But training your dog with rewards isn’t the only tool you have
when training on your own. A great idea would be to get an educator collar, such as the amazing E-Collar
Technologies that puts minimal stress on your dog, while still giving them enough incentive to obey and

follow commands.

3. Ignore negative behavior
If your dog exhibits a behavior you don’t like, there is a strong likelihood that it’s something you’ve
already reinforced before. From excessive barking at the doorbell to surfing on the counter, owners
often inadvertently reinforce all kinds of undesirable behavior. Puppies love to bask in all of the
attention they get, so if your dog does something they shouldn’t have, don’t yell or reprimand them –
whether good or bad, it’s still attention. The best way to deal with a situation like this is to simply turn
your back and ignore it. This method is very effective, as it clearly shows your dog what you consider to
be unacceptable behavior.

4. Implement replacement therapy

While there is nothing inherently wrong with telling a dog “no”, that word doesn’t give them enough
information. So, instead of simply saying “no”, tell your dog what you want them to do. Dogs don’t
generalize well, so if your dog jumps on someone to say hello, for example, and you just say “no”, he
may decide to jump even higher or jump to the left side, instead of the right, thinking that he has
corrected his mistake appropriately. A much better alternative would be to ask him to “sit” or “stay”,
then immediately praise him for obeying the command. So, in order to avoid confusion, always tell your
dog what you want them to do.

5. Have fun and be patient
The most important thing to keep in mind while training your four-legged friend is to always be patient
and positive. They are learning so many new things about the world around them, and it can often be

difficult for them to remember everything they’ve learned. Therefore, be consistent with everything you
do, so your puppy doesn’t get confused, and allow them to make mistakes every once in a while.
Remember that being calm end encouraging while your dog is learning is equally as important as
reinforcing the rules they’ll eventually master.
Don’t be afraid to ask for dog training tips from friends, family, and even professionals whenever you
need it. Training a new dog requires a lot of patience and persistence, but it should always be a positive
experience in both of your eyes.


Building a pond in your garden for spring

Now that spring is officially here it is the ideal time for us to get out into the garden and have a look at some of the plants we can grow this year. There are so many different ways we can make the most of our outdoor space and today we will we looking into one particular feature which can be amazing in any garden: a pond.

Building a pond in your garden is easier than you might think, and today we will be looking at the best way to build a pond for your garden this spring.

Choose a location

The location of your pond in the garden will of course have an effect on what plants can grow around it and also the kind of life you may find within the water. Make sure you try to choose a spot or the garden which has some sunlight during the day and this can help your plants photosynthesise and produce more oxygen for the water.

Find some liner

Building a pond is simpler than you may think and it can involve simply digging a hole and filling it with liner. When choosing liner for the pond you don’t have to choose anything too fancy, as long as it will hold the water and stop it soaking into the soil below it is great.

Bricking it up

Once you have the liner you can consider thinking about bricks or stones to lay on the border of your pond to frame it. Depending on the type of style you are going for you could choose a bright colour to add some fun or you can instead choose something simple and classic. You’ll be able to find pictures online where people have framed their ponds so take a look and see if you can get any inspiration for your own creation. Once you have bricked up the sides you can fill the pond with fresh cold water and move on to the next stage.

Adding a filter

If you plan to have any fish in your pond outside then it is important for you to have a water filter from Sawyer Waterscaping which will keep the pond oxygenated and clean for fish to thrive. Koi carp are some of the most popular pond fish however there are plenty of other species to choose from so you can choose your animals depending on the size of the pond and the location.

Adding final touches

Once you have built a small pond in your garden you will want to bring some natural elements into the water to keep it healthy and thriving for years to come. Adding duckweed to clean the water and pond lilies for colour can be amazing and you could even buy some small pond snails to help clean the sides of the pond throughout the year. If you know anyone who has frog spawn in their pond you can ask to take a small bucket of it and watch tadpoles and frogs grow in your garden pond.


5 Spring Cleaning Tasks to Prevent Allergies

It’s allergy season.

While daffodils and longer days brighten the mind, allergy symptoms such as sneezing, itchy red eyes, and breathing problems can mute much of the joy. The most common culprits that cause household allergies are dust mites, pest droppings (such as cockroaches), mold, and pollen, and they thrive in the dust and fabrics of your less than clean home. Thus, springtime, with its accompanying cleaning, is the perfect opportunity to get a handle on these irritants.

Check out these five spring cleaning tasks you should prioritize this season.

Protect Yourself

Your first task is to protect yourself while cleaning, as these activities will agitate the dust that triggers your immune system, and it will last for house. Make sure you’re vacuuming with a HEPA filter, and wear a filter mask while dusting, sweeping or vacuuming (you can get these at the hardware store or pharmacy). Wear long sleeves and pants tucked in, and leave the house after cleaning for at least 2 hours.

If your allergies are serious, consider investing in a dehumidifier with a high-quality filter (mold and dust mites love moisture) and a separate air filter system. It may also be time to clean or replace the filters on your heating and air conditioning, and other appliances.

Dust Your Blinds

Because they hand in low-traffic areas right next to heating vents, blinds are dust magnets. This means they accumulate quite a bit of normal household dust as well as pet hair and dander. Professional maid services recommend using a disinfectant solution or vinegar and a microfiber cloth for cleaning blinds, and always moving from top to bottom.

Other specialists say you can use the vacuum cleaner with a soft attachment to quickly clean blinds, but this may not trap the dust. One online hack suggests making a “dust puppet” with an old sock. Hear me out. By putting an old sock on your and dipping it in disinfectant, you can use precise movements to capture and trap household dust on blinds of any type.

Don’t Hang Laundry Outside

I know it’s hard to hear, since the laundry industry literally markets the fresh scent of a sunny day with its products. But when washing fabrics and linens this spring, hang them inside or use a dryer. This is not the “greenest” advice, but your bedding and fabrics will pick up pollens and other airborne allergens outside, and the high head of washing machines and dryers will kill bacteria, dust mites, and other microbes.

Flip and Air Out Your Mattress

It’s not just a rumor, your mattress, and your bedroom in general, is the main location for dust mites and other microbes that cause allergy problems. Many mattresses, especially memory foam, trap heat, which make it the perfect warm, damp breeding environment for undesirable microbes. Maintaining a clean mattress year-round is key to a healthy nighttime environment, but flipping and airing out a mattress is advisable a couple times a year.

This can be done by one person, but of course, two people can maneuver an awkward mattress better. Do not rest the mattress on unstable headboards or furniture: instead, lower it to the floor and flip it that way. Now is a great time for your HEPA filter vacuum. Use it on and around the mattress. Some people recommend exposing the mattress to sunlight for several hours, as this kills bacteria, but it can also attract pollen, so use your discretion. If you do put the mattress outside be sure to return it before the sun starts to set as the dew will add even more moisture than before.

If you have had your mattress for over 10 years, it’s likely soiled with all types of allergens. It might be best to get a new mattress all together. And while you’re at it, look into “mite-proof” linens for your bed and pillows.

Get Extra Help

You may have to call in some help this spring with your cleaning, as the droppings and dander of pests, such as mice and cockroaches, are especially troublesome for certain people. Especially if you live in an older home, consider using a quality pest control company to rid your home of excessive spiders, insects, and other rodents.


Step by Step

I wanted a step by step plan to get through this... I wanted a guarantee that if I followed the plan I would be free, the pain would be gone...
I wanted someone to say here let me help you, bless your heart, you have fought for so long, let me take it away.

My counselor couldnt give me a quick fix, i'm sure she wanted to, i'm sure she wished she had a special formula to sprinkle over me...

I'm sure she wanted to fix everything espicially my desire for everything to be ok right now and my refusal to embrace the process of healing.

I knew God would eventually fix me and make everything alright.. He would make something new and wonderful from my dust... I just knew I couldn't live a normal life without freaking out daily.

My counselor broke the news to me that there was simply no easy fix for the problems I faced.  Feeling the pain is the first step toward healing.We can numb it, ignore it or pretend it doesnt exist or face it head on and that is what I am trying to do.

Unexpected reasons you can't lose weight

There can be several things that will make you gain weight and make it harder to lose the excess, that have very little to do with your diet. It can be very disheartening when you are keeping to a calorie controlled diet to put even more weigh on, but this does happen if other things in your life are not right.

Sleeping Problems

Most people would never associate a lack of sleep with gaining weight, but the two are very closely related.  One research study showed that if people can get 8 hours of sleep every night for a year, without altering their diet at all they could lose up to half a stone in weight.

By the same token, if your sleep is constantly interrupted, or you just do not sleep long enough, it is likely to contribute to you gaining weight and make it harder for you to lose the excess.

For instance, if you have a sleep disorder such as sleep apnea, even when you do manage to sleep, it will not be of the best quality. You should seek the help of an ENT specialist in this scenario as they can often treat the condition and help you to get a better night sleep.


Small amounts of stress that we feel in everyday life do not do much harm and some doctors think they are good for us. More stressful or prolonged periods of stress can make your body produce cortisol, which is a stress hormone that protects your body from the tenseness caused by stress.

However, a study by Cell Metabolism has shown a connection between high levels of cortisol and fat mass.  The study revealed that when the levels of cortisol are higher than normal, it might be a contributing factor in weight gain.


There are some medications that are well-known for promoting weight gain. Most birth control pills, high blood pressure tablets and the hormone s used to treat breast cancer will all help the pounds pile on. There are also some arthritis medicines, and some for migraines and heartburn that will lead to weight increases if they are taken on a regular basis.

If you are concerned that your medication may be making you heavier, mention it to your doctor as there may be an alternative they can prescribe.  

Age-Related Weight Gain

None of us can stop getting older and as we do our bodies do not burn calories as efficiently.  The only way to combat this age-related weight gain is to eat less and exercise more. Part of the problem is that as we age our metabolism slows down naturally and exercise helps to keep it on a more even keel.

Also as you age you will lose muscles and sometimes this is replaced by fat. Some older people weigh very little more than they did 10 years ago. However, because muscle weighs more than fat, they could well need to wear clothes that are a couple of sizes larger.

Late Night Eating

There are been many studies into the time meals are eaten and how that affects weight. It seems that the later you eat the more your body holds onto the food and turns it into fat. The data showed that eating the same amount of calories in the evening than you would in the morning, made it more likely that weight would be gained.

They also found that snacking while watching TV in the evenings could lead to much larger amounts of food being eaten, and this, of course, will not help your weight.

Small, Unnoticed Changes

There can be small changes in your lifestyle that you hardly notice but they make a difference to your weight. For example, if you change your job and the new one is less active or you move home and only have to walk half the distance to work, these things can make a difference to how much you weigh.

If you are putting on weight, think about the little changes that have happened over the last few months, as you may be surprised just how many of these have affected your lifestyle and your weight.

The one thing that all the experts agree on is that whatever you eat and however much you exercise, does not matter if you are consuming sugary drinks. The calories in these can mount up very quickly and you can soon surpass the number in the amount of food you eat. No matter how old you are, what medications you take, how much sleep you get or how stressed you are, cut out those sugary drinks if you want to keep your weight down.


Your Guide to Experience the Real NYC

Ladies and gentlemen, there’s a place in the world that’s the capital of practically everything – showbiz,
fashion, music and even food. Yes, we’re talking about the almighty New York City! So, every single
person should visit this spectacular metropolis at least once in their lifetime, but it’s also very important
to know where they’re going. This city is definitely a huge one, and if you don’t do your homework
beforehand, the chances of you ending up in an average club or pub and eating average food are very
high. So, what should you visit in order to experience the real nature of the Big Apple?

What to see?

First of all, you need to allocate a couple of days to see all the landmarks and historical places in New
York City. Let’s say that your first stop would be the Statue of Liberty, and it definitely should be. This
mesmerizing statue is home to thousands of tourists daily, so it will be a perfect first choice. Moreover,
you will definitely take a walk through the Central Park and Manhattan, but make sure to visit them
during the day, as you don’t want to miss out on anything, and you definitely want to experience the
colorfulness of the city. Also, don’t miss out on the Empire State Building, but make sure to allocate a bit
more time so that you could get to the top floor and experience NYC in the right way. Finally, visit the
9/11 memorial, an overwhelming monument to the September 2011 terroristic attacks.

Where to go out?

This is definitely the hardest question to answer as New York City caters for everyone’s needs. First of
all, this is the home to some of the biggest gay bars, so if you’re gay or gay-friendly, you can choose from
gay sport clubs to gay country clubs where only country music is played. As for straight people, you will
be able to find a club or a pub on every corner of New York City. If you want to have the night of your
life, the three most popular NYC clubs at the moment are Village Vanguard, a legendary jazz venue, and
The 40/40 Club which is owned by Jay-Z. These two clubs might be a bit pricier than the rest of them,
but if you want the true NY experience, this is where you should go.

Where to eat and drink?

What’s important is that you never settle for sandwiches and beer in New York. You can have these
anywhere else in the world, so it would be good to try out something new. The first thing that you need
to do is try the NY street food, as it’s truly amazing. Moreover, if you have the chance to experience the
services of a great mixologist in NYC, say yes! Try to find a venue or an event with this type of catering,
cocktails paired with finger food and simply enjoy this amazing experience. You won’t find as good
mixologists as in New York City so it would be a shame not to see what they have to offer.

What to wear?

Fashion is extremely important in New York, but the good thing is that you can wear whatever you want
and still be quite fashionable. Why’s that? Because everyone appreciates the fashion style of other
people while still rocking their own. However, the biggest trend in this moment is athleisure, so pair
your elegant pants with excellent sneakers (if you have the option, go for Balenciaga), or wear a formal
coat and a sweatshirt. If this is not your cup of tea, you can also go with neon colors as they are huge
now. It’s also important to mention that you will never fail while wearing anything in the color of Living
Coral, which is Pantone’s color of the 2019.

What leisure activities should you try out?

Since you will be spending money on bars, pubs and restaurants, it would be good to choose leisure
activities that are practically free. Try visiting the Museum of Modern Arts (MOMA), but make sure that
you go there on a Friday from 4pm to 8pm because the entrance is free. The sculpture garden, however,
is free for entrance every morning from 9.30 to 10. Moreover, if you’re visiting NYC during the summer
and you like cinematography, you can hit the HBO Bryant Park Summer Film Festival or Syfy Movies with
a View at Brooklyn Bridge Park. Watching a movie in an outdoor cinema in the heart of the Big Apple,
free of charge, is definitely an activity that many opt for! Finally, you can always browse online and find
the best bars that organize trivia nights or scavenger hunts – there is a plethora of them and each one of
them is worth the money!
Writing an article about all the things that you could do in NYC is devastatingly difficult. You might as
well spend 7 months here and you will still have something new to discover and see. So, take your time,
see the most important things and simply enjoy. After all, this is how you will truly experience New York.



If you have been told by your orthodontist that you need braces, don’t shy away from it. If you’re thinking it’ll look bad, well far from it, because believe it or not, braces are in fashion. The only reason you have not to get braces is the financial aspect of it and now even that isn’t a consideration because your insurance might cover most of it.
1.     A beautiful smile
Your smile is beautiful! And you can make it even more so. Most orthodontists are of the opinion that braces are not only for a beautiful smile but also to keep the alignment of the jaw perfect. Problems in alignment can change the bone structure of the face and even give you pain later. If you’re looking for braces, look for something like braces san tan valley az and find someone with a good reputation in your area.
2.     Confidence
Even though you don’t need good teeth to gain confidence, but it’s nice to have one less thing to worry about. When you can flash a full smile at others, you have another thing to be confident of. Confidence building is often a huge task and the more help you can get the better. When you get braces, you don’t even realize you have them after some time and you reap the benefits for the rest of your life. It is a matter of a lifetime. When you grow older, you’ll thank yourself for getting braces because now you are brimming with confidence.
3.     Insurance cover
Chances are that your insurance covers the cost of getting braces because they are needed for alignment. Besides when you get braces, the treatment is spanned out over months and you don’t need to pay the full fee all at once. The cost of the treatment will vary depending on the kind of treatment you need. If you have a lot of work to be done on your teeth, the treatment could get stretched to as long as two years too. The insurance cover also differs in situations, like if you’re looking for invisalign gilbert az, the prices may differ because these are very specialized services.
4.     Fashionable
Braces have become very popular with Gen Z. They deliberately sport braces and the grunge look. You have all the more reason to get braces now. You can even go for aligners which are removable and have to be worn for only a few hours daily. These are not permanent like braces and are usually prescribed when you don’t need much correction or have just got your braces removed.
5.     Options
As the world of technology is evolving so is the way the world sees braces. You can get the traditional braces and make them look funky with different colored connectors. If you are really conscious of the braces showing, you can get them from the inside. Whether you’re scared of the pain or the hassle of having permanent braces, you can request your doctor to permit you to have aligners instead.


Elderly people are often reliant on others for their needs. Their daily needs have to be taken care of by
caregivers, and they almost always have someone caring for them. They have to be taken to the doctor
regularly for their appointments and old age-related problems. You have to give them time and affection
if you are the caregiver. But you may have your own responsibilities and work to take care of, which may
neglect the patient’s needs. But don’t worry, you can always hire a professional caregiver to help you
manage your days better.

In case you can’t hire a professional and you have to take the patient to the hospital for their checkup,
what do you do? Missing appointments is not an option, especially when the patient is already suffering.
In these cases, non-emergency medical transportation (NEMT) can become a lifesaver and take the
patient to the hospital in case you, due to unforeseen circumstances, can’t take them to the hospital.
Here are some other ideas that you can make use of when you have to take your loved one to the

You can always call a cab to go to the hospital. The downside of a car is that if the patient is too unwell
and can’t sit up, a cab can be very uncomfortable. Transport for elderly needs to be more specialized.
Sometimes the patient may be on IV or other equipment which is difficult to take by a car. Even if you
do choose to take the patient by car, ensure that the space in the car is enough for all the equipment
needed and that they have ample space inside. You can only use cars for short distances and intracity
commutes. For patients who need medical assistance, or use a wheelchair, transportation by car isn’t an

Medical Vans
Medical vans are specialized vehicles that have all the medical equipment needed for your loved one's
needs, on board. They are great for seniors because they can lie down in the vehicle. These vans are
designed to transport patients of every kind over long distances. They have ample space for attendants,
caregivers, and medics to accompany the patient. Most elderly need hands-on care and can’t be left
unattended. Medical transportation like specialized ambulances are even equipped for emergencies and
the staff is trained to handle emergencies of all kinds. If there were to be an incident during the
transport, the van is fully equipped to handle it.

Medical Transporters (Mini Trucks)
Intercity medical transporters are the same as medical vans but smaller. This is for the ease of commute
within the city. Specialized equipment is not needed for short distance travel and there needn’t be so
many medics on board either. There are fewer chances of an emergency before getting to the hospital.
These are good because they are cost-effective and your loved one still gets the care they deserve. They
are fully equipped for medical needs for all kinds of ailments.


Healthy living tips, you can try this week

Everyone wants to be healthy and happy throughout our lives, and we all want to live to a ripe old age and be like those amazing grandmas on the TV who still practice karate and yoga. But not a lot of us really make the effort to stay healthy all year long and this can be something which has a big impact on us mentally and physically. Being conscious to make healthier choices is important and this is why today we are looking at some of the things you should be doing today to keep yourself healthy and happy.

Eat breakfast

Breakfast really is the most important meal of the day because it is what fuels our body for the hours to come and allows our brain and body to work effectively. The best kind of breakfast you can eat in the morning is something which has some protein such as eggs or bacon, some greens such as spinach, some carbs, and some healthy fat such as avocado. Eating a hearty breakfast will set your body up for a more productive day it will keep you happy.

Go to the doctors

When was the last time you had a checkup to make sure you were at optimal health? It is incredibly important in your adult life to go for a checkup now and again and especially go and see a professional if you feel like you have some pain or a niggling issue. You are responsible for your own body and it is so important for you to keep yourself fit and make sure you are treated when you have an injury or illness. Even if you have a full bill of health, it is the best thing you can do and then at least you will know that you are healthy.

Eat veggies

This is almost too obvious to add to our list, however it is so important for us to eat vegetables every day to keep us strong ensure our body contains all of the vitamins and minerals it needs to function and repair. Make sure you try and eat a portion of veggies with every meal if you can, and this will honestly make all the difference to your body and your mind too.

Get more sleep

Sleep is one of the most important vital processes which our body goes through every day and it is a process which we need to do often enough to stay healthy and fit. During the time we sleep, our body goes through several processes such as killing off harmful bacteria, healing wounds, processing vitamins and minerals, and cleansing the body of toxins. If these processes aren’t able to happen our body can’t function, which is why enough sleep is incredibly important for us every single day. Make sure that you try to get at least 8 hours of sleep every single night and this will have a huge impact on your physical and your mental health overall.


Managing the bad side of summer

aerial view of city buildings

When most people think about summer, they won’t be too concerned about the bad things which can come with it. Instead, with the sun shining in the sky, you will have bigger things on your mind, and this will mean that your home could be left without the protection it needs. Heat and UV radiation can cause a surprising amount of damage over the course of a year. So, to help you out with this, this post will be exploring some of the work which can go into keeping your come in good shape when things start to hot up.


Most of the materials which are used on the outside of your home will have been tested and validated to be exposed to sunlight for long periods. This means that they won’t be impacted by the sun. On the inside, though, things like carpets, curtains, and plastics can show the signs of bleaching very quickly. To help with this, UV filters can be installed on your windows very affordably, and they won’t change the way your home looks from the outside.


Televisions, fridges, and most other electronic goods can succumb to overheating if you’re not careful with them. When they are in direct sunlight, they won’t be able to dissipate the heat which they are already generating, and this will make them get very hot, eventually killing the delicate components on the inside. Simply moving items so that they aren’t in direct sunlight while they are in use is a great way to solve this issue.


With the sun shining in the sky, humans aren’t the only creatures enjoying themselves. When they weather starts to improve, loads of insects will start to show themselves, with wasps and ants being the least popular of the bunch. It can be easy to make mistakes which lead to infestations of bugs like this, making it crucial that you are always keeping things like food and drinks sealed and out of reach to avoid getting caught out.

The Plants

While they use sunshine to create energy and grow, most plants won’t do very well when they are exposed to the sun without any reprieve. There are loads of products around the web which can help with this, and you can go here to learn more about one of the most popular in Australia. There are few places with more sun than this part of the World, making it a great place to look for inspiration.

With all of this in mind, you should be feeling ready to take on the challenge of preparing your home for the summer months. A lot of people struggle with this sort of work, finding it hard to know whether or not they are doing enough to protect their home. Thankfully, though, the sun will only last for a few months, and this gives you plenty of time to prepare for the next hot season all over again. Most people will see the benefits of an effort like this very quickly.

A wall put up

My counselor told me she feels like I have a wall put up around my heart because I have been hurt by friends in the past and now I am scared to let friends get close to me.

She is right, I am trying to protect myself, losing my best friend 2 years ago was the hardest thing I have ever gone thru and still going thru and honestly no idea why, she was my best friend for many years, lots of special memories together and now all I have is the memories and a maid of honor dress, a necklace and bracelet that sits there because I cannot bear to do anything else with it, it is all I have of her.

It means that people try protecting themselves by building walls, which means by acting a bit reserved. They act distant with everyone, just because they believe that letting people get close will hurt them. They never open up, or show that they're vulnerable.

Your walls are high because you learned the hard way that you shouldn’t trust anyone who tells you what you want to hear. You shouldn’t believe their sweet little lies until they prove that they mean it. You shouldn’t imagine a relationship with them unless you know exactly what they’re looking for.  You shouldn’t share your innermost secrets unless you know that they plan on staying in your life. You shouldn’t be vulnerable until you know they care.
Your walls are high because you’ve been that person before.  You jumped in with both feet, you trusted, you cared more, you loved, you waited, you forgave and you gave chances and they still left. It wasn’t enough to make them stay.
 It wasn’t enough for them to realize that maybe your love was truly the real one. The one they’ll always search for but never find. The one they’ll regret losing in ten years but by then it will be too late for you. The love they gave up on because they thought they could easily replace it. 
My walls are high because  tired. Tired of believing and giving and following my heart only to end up hurt or alone. I'm tired of trying to mend my heart with people who only break it. I'm tired of opening up only to get rejected. I'm  tired of thinking that this time it will be different only to be more of the same.
So you keep building these walls. You keep people at arm’s length. You become emotionally unavailable when you like someone. You’d rather let that person go instead of letting them in because it’s safer this way. This is how you protect your heart. This is you how you don’t get hurt. This is how you treat anyone you meet like they’re temporary because you don’t remember the last time you actually fell in love or found a relationship worth fighting for. You stopped trying. You stopped fighting. You stopped giving chances as you built your walls higher brick by brick.
These walls tell you not to make the first move. They tell you to curb your excitement. They tell you to take your time responding to them. They tell you that you should always have the upper hand. They tell you that they’re not genuine. They tell you people will eventually leave you. They tell that you’re better off alone. They tell you that you need a lot of more proof and actions before you trust someone. They tell you that people should ‘earn’ your love before you decide to give them your heart. They tell you not to feel. They tell you not to believe.
And maybe these walls protect me from heartbreak and disappointment. Maybe they keep me guarded and practical but they don’t make me feel alive. They don’t make me experience the high that comes with every text, every date, every kiss and every hand you hold. 
Sometimes we have to break our own walls every once in a while to remember that there’s a whole other world behind these walls. There’s so much to see. So much to feel. So much to love



Everyone knows that aging is inescapable and it is a default feature that human beings have. We know some people who are just aging and we know some who are aging gracefully. And let us clear it, they are not just aging gracefully, but they are aging smarter. They not only pay attention to what to do but they also care about what not to do.

So let's just explore the smartest steps to slow down the aging process:

  1. Always apply sunscreen: In spite of Vitamin D, the sun provides us some harmful UV rays which can potentially cause some allergies to our skin. Some dermatologist says that many dark spots or wrinkles are due to sun exposure. Therefore, it is advisable to apply sunscreen or SPF moisturizer on a sunny day. You can also wear sunglasses or a hat/cap to protect your skin from UV rays.
Sometimes, we stop paying attention to our hands and like our face, they too start showing some aging sign. To avoid this, applying regular moisturizer on hand will be beneficial.

  1. Choose your facewash accordingly: Facewash is not about what foams your skin. Some foaming agents are harsh to your skin and strip away the natural oil in your skin due to which your skin will get dry and cracks will be visible on your face. Oils in your skin makes it glow naturally. Slow aging is possible if you take care of your skin without any layer of moisturizer or makeup on it. Dr. Bill Andrews, creator of Siorai.com, explains that contrary to popular belief, aging is a process that can be slowed and even stopped.

  1. Consumption of water: Always stay hydrated. It will make you look more youthful. Drinking plenty of water daily makes your skin moist and keep your nails and hair healthy. This is the most effective way to take care of your skin and uplift your skin.

  1. Avoid heavy makeup: Sometimes, just to hide aging, people take help of expensive cosmetic products and sometimes, they overdo it. Makeup is to enhance your natural beauty, not to cover or mask it. Keep it natural. Using a lot of makeup while aging will let you look worse, not better. Your natural skin makes you feel more confident and there are some other reasons why you should not wear makeup.

  1. Beauty sleep is what you should care about: Nowadays, everyone is busy with their work or have a lot of stuff to do where they sacrifice their sleep. Due to the pressure or to earn for needs, one sacrifices their sleep over a cup of coffee or tea. Sleeping let your skin recover from daily stress. Even medical experts say that one should have at least 7 to 9 hours of sleep daily. Quality of sleep really matters for healthy skin.

  1. Limited consumption of alcohol: Regular or excessive consumption of alcohol can cause dehydration. Enjoying it occasionally is fine, but when it becomes excessive, it’s an issue. It not only affect your skin but also affect some of your internal organs too.

  1. Maintain a good posture and exercise regularly: There are always some benefits hidden when you exercise. It makes you active and helps you to build muscles. Staying active or doing exercise doesn’t mean that you have to do an intensive workout or include a gym. You can opt for a walk or do some yoga session or play with your grandchildren or change your few daily habits like choosing stairs over elevators or lift.  It helps you to make your body posture better and keeps your bones healthy.
Along with this, exercise increases your blood flow to the cells which makes your skin appear more healthier.

  1. Take care of your diet: Whatever you eat or drink, will eventually have an impact on your skin. So, always eat food which is enjoyable, nourishes your skin and makes your body healthy. Consume enough amount of Vitamins. Make a habit of having healthy food from an early age as your body might accept unhealthy food for now but it may revolt later.

  1. Maintain an ideal body weight: Your body weight also affects the way you age. As if you are skinny, you will look older or if you are heavy, you will age quickly. Your ideal body weight is the main thing that makes your aging process slow. But, it doesn’t mean there is a constant figure that you have to maintain. Ideal body weight is different for every individual. All you need is to take care of the above two secrets, exercise and your diet, rest will fall into place.

  1. Exfoliate your skin: As we all know our body take off the dead cells from our skin after a period of 28 days. And it may create a layer of dead skin on our face or body leaving our skin rough and dull. To avoid that, we should exfoliate our skin on a weekly basis for brighter skin. And you don’t need to visit saloon for that every week. You can use a good quality of scrub with round particles.

  1. Avoid smoking: Smoking tobacco will age you quicker than anything else. Smokers are likely to get wrinkles early. Along with that it might affect your body and cause several diseases.

  1. Manage your stress level: You cannot eliminate the stress from your life but you can minimize it by dealing with your stress in a constructive manner. Opting meditation or deep breathing may result in reducing stress or you may opt for any other option which makes you more comfortable in handling your stress.

Other than these secrets, there are some other helpful tips and trick to slow the aging process.  remember, aging is a kind of luxury. You should embrace it gracefully. By adopting these small steps you might not become biologically young, but you will remain young by heart. It is also important to spend some time with yourself on a daily basis, it will help you to maintain your mental and emotional health and it will yield a great benefit to you.


Hard days

When I woke up this morning a cloud of sadness, negativity and dread was all over me.
I knew it was going to be one of my bad days and I did not like the way I felt at all.

I pushed through, no it was not a great day for me and there were tears as usual but it is okay to cry, some days if you could just go outside and scream you may feel better. 

It is ok to have those bad days as long as the good outweigh the bad but right now I am not sure if mine do. 

Right now I am in the recovery stage, I do think last Wednesday changed my life, shutting down and blocking out the world was very hard, I did not want anyone to talk to me, then I wondered why no one was reaching out when I was struggling, but to realize I wasnt letting them in. 

the recovery road is very hard and long but I believe with the people around me, I can push thru this. 

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