6.20.2018

Shoestring Budget? You Can Still Renovate

If you’re bored of your home but you don’t have a lot of cash currently, you might be thinking that
 there’s nothing you can do to perk your home up and make it look more interesting. 
However, this isn’t true. It is totally possible to renovate your home and make great changes on a 
shoestring budget. In this guide, we talk you through how.


Look For Smaller Suppliers
If you’re serious about making renovations to your home, you’re going to need to find the right 
suppliers to help you. Brand name doesn’t always mean best, so hunt for smaller suppliers that 
you can trust. Read reviews and testimonials to help you.

Shop Around
Shop around for whatever you need. Look at various companies and stores and see where you can
 get the best deal, but don’t forget that if you buy low quality you’ll probably end up spending way more 
in the long run. Spending a little more of your budget initially for a higher quality thing will be better.

Get Multiple Quotes
Make sure you do your research on companies that  renovate apartment buildings or your kind of 
building and get multiple quotes so you have an idea of what you should be paying. The cheapest may 
not be the best choice, but the most expensive may not be either. Doing your research and reading 
reviews and testimonials will give you a better idea of who can be trusted to get things done on time 
and to a high standard.  

Be Your Own Project Manager
Hiring a project manager is expensive, so consider being your own project manager. This way, you 
can decide what you do yourself and how much you spend on certain materials. However, it’s 
advisable that you still hire a professional builder and an architect so that your plans and installations 
run as smoothly as possible.

Consider Going For A Trendy Unfinished Look
If you’re on a really low budget, you could consider running with an unfinished look and making it look
 as if it’s supposed to be that way. This is a huge trend in this day and age, and with the right textiles 
and cosy accessories you can make it look really cool and inviting.

Hang Dramatic Curtains
Hanging dramatic curtains can change the feel of a space and is a really cheap way to update your 
lounge or bedroom. Just make sure you get the measurements right!

Replace Your Tiles
Tiling the bathroom and the kitchen doesn’t take that long, and you can  
create a sort of feature wall with the right tiles.

Add New Accessories
Adding new accessories is one of the most cost effective things you can do. Invest in accessories that
 you’ll want to use in the long run. Feel free to mix and match accessories for an eclectic look.

You can still make lots of changes to your home on a shoestring budget. Have tips of your own? 
Leave them in the comments section below. Thanks for reading!

6.19.2018

Self Service: The Easy Ways To Introduce Self-Care Into Your Life

Sometimes as a mom and a wife we spend so much time serving the others in our family that caring for 
ourselves can be way down the list of priorities. However, this can cause a problem for you and your loved ones, 
because if you don't look after yourself, you won't be in the best position to take care of their needs either. 
What this means that self-care should be seen as at least as valuable as the thing you do for everyone else! 
With that in mind, in the post below you will find a primer on some simple method of self-care that you can 
introduce to your life straight away. Keep reading to find out more.


Self-care for moms is vital!


Alone time

It is well known that people that sit further across on the introversion part of the personality spectrum need time 
on their own to rest, recharge, and be happy in their lives. However, no matter whether you are a pure introvert 
or an extrovert you will need at least a little time entirely without others in your life each day.  

Of course, for a busy mom, this can seem almost impossible. After all, when the kids are young, you are lucky 
if you get to go to the loo on your own! However, to improve the self-care that you are providing yourself, it can be 
beneficial to introduce a little alone time into each day.

It may be that you do this while your little one is having a nap or is at school. Alternatively, you may wish to wait 
until your OH is home and they can take care of the kids while you have your alone time? Just be sure to include a 
short amount of this regularly to ensure you are as happy and healthy as possible in life.

Girls’ time

Another very healthy way of offering yourself some self-care is to ensure that you get occasional breaks from 
being mom and wife. One fun way to do this is to get together with your friends and have some girls' time.



Now, what you do in this time is entirely up to you, as long it's its fun. You may wish to go to the mall and do a 
little shipping and catch up over a coffee? It may be that you are craving a fancy dinner out or even a few glasses 
of wine and a little dancing|? Just be sure to pick something that allows you to
 let off a little steam and then return
 back to your mom and wife role refreshes and enthused.  

Date time

Now, another essential element of self-care is giving your wife - husband relationship some time and attention. 
After all, it's pretty hard to be the best wife and mother is you are feeling neglected, ignored, or even under 
appreciated.

Luckily, regular date nights can help to eliminate these issues, and it also gives you an excellent opportunity to 
connect on a one to one level and ensure that the emotional intimacy of your relationship is still healthy and robust.



Once again you are free to choose any date that you and your SO will find fun, but a meal out, catching and film 
and going for dinner afterwards can work well. Alternatively, you could try something more adventurous like 
going to paintball, heading out into nature for a hike or a camping trip, or even taking up a new hobby together 
such as fencing or sailing.

Spiritual nourishment

They say that man cannot live or bread alone, and what they mean here is that sometimes even when our 
physical needs are met, we still yearn for fullness in a spiritual way. In fact, spirituality is an excellent way of 
promoting self-care in our lives as wife and mothers, and there are plenty of things that we can do to encourage 
this.

It may be that you are already parts of a church or organized religious group and so making time to attend 
meetings, and connect with others in the congregation is an excellent way of showing care for yourself. 
However, do remember that even if you don't see yourself as a religious person there are still plenty of spiritual 
activities you can get involved with that will feed this side of your nature.

In particular, why not go for something a bit more new age or alternative and find a yoga class that emphasizes
 the spiritual aspects of the practice? Then, there are other approaches such as astrology and numerology that 
offer spiritual understanding and advice for when you feel stuck in life. In fact, in the latter, you can find out about 
all sorts of things like why 444 has a spiritual meaning, and why you regularly see specific numbers occurring in
 your life. Something that makes it a great way of embracing a level of spirituality as a method of self-care.

Physical nourishment

Of course, physical nourishment has vast importance in self-care as well, and when you are we busy mom, it can 
be super tough to feed your body in a way that is healthy.

In fact, many moms end up eating scraps from their children plates, drinking heavily caffeinated beverage to give
 them a little pep, or reaching for products jammed packed full of refined sugar to get them through another day.

However, it can be the most caring thing we can do for ourselves to change our diets and embrace a more 
nutritious and holistic way of feeding our bodies.

To do this, some folks like to opt for whole food only. What this means is that they steer clear of ready-made 
items and things that contain refined sugars and hydrogenated oils.




The concept behind this is that whole food is more nutritionally dense and so feeds the body more effectively. 
Many people also believe that whole food is more natural, so the body can better absorb it and therefore it does 
not cause the harm that processed items can. All of which can contribute to a sense of well-being and health,
 something that is a vital part of self-care.

Top Tropical Wedding Destinations



Every couple has a dream wedding, and no two weddings are the same. Some
couples want to tie the knot in an intimate environment, surrounded only by their
closest friends and family. Other couples want to throw a lavish wedding with
hundreds of guests and have their celebration be the talk of the town. And while
some choose to exchange their vows on home turf, perhaps even in their own
backyard, others want to make it an international adventure. And so the trend of
destination weddings was born. If you too want to get married in a fairy tale tropical
destination under the palm trees, here are the best locations:

Tahiti
Tahiti actually encompasses a group of islands that span over an area as large as
Europe. And while not all of them are the best destination for a wedding, Bora Bora
is known as the island of love. The crystal-clear waters, over-water bungalows and
just the most gorgeous sunsets will make you fall even more in love, and it is the
ideal place for a tropical wedding in one of the resorts, or out on the beach. If you do
a little bit of research, you will find a lot of native traditions tied to wedding
ceremonies, and it will be a great addition to yours as well. After all, if you’re on
such a beautiful island, why would you want to have a western wedding that you
could have had anywhere else?


Cancun
The beautiful Mexican region of Cancun is a truly unique setting. The mix of
gorgeous beaches and ancient Mayan remains is something that will suit all souls.
There is a tranquility in the space, but also a vibrant atmosphere, perfect for young
couples who want a sense of relaxation paired with adventure. There are plenty of
amazing, luxurious resorts where you can have your dream wedding, and then stay
an additional few days to travel around the area and really get the full experience.


Australia
Having a beautiful wedding under the sun is not only reserved for small, exotic
islands scattered across the ocean; it can also be done in some of the world’s
capitals. One of which: Sydney. It has so much to offer, and if you want to bring a lot
of friends and family, you most certainly have plenty of options to accommodate
them. And as far as the venue itself, there are some great locations for stunning beach weddings, equipped with all the amenities and packages you need to make
your wedding wishes come true.

Puerto Rico
If you are a nature lover, you are going to absolutely adore Puerto Rico. Unlike many
islands that only have endless beaches, Puerto Rico offers nature beyond
photographs. Rainforests, waterfalls and even volcanoes all work together to make
the most amazing setting. As far as the culture goes, Puerto Rico is one of the
happiest countries in the world, and you will feel that vibe throughout your stay
there. It might not be the cheapest place, but it is absolutely worth the money for the
amazing experience you will remember for the rest of your life.


The Caribbean
Rum-coke in hand, dance the night away in the beautiful Caribbean. It is a place
synonymous with tropical beaches, so it’s simply impossible to make this list
without including this miraculous place. You can choose between some amazing
resorts, great landscapes and intimate private beaches for the ceremony. Just be
careful that the pearly whiteness of the sand beaches doesn’t outshine your dress!
Put a flower or two in your hair and make it an unforgettable tropical event.

If you are going through with a tropical wedding, make sure that all of your guests
are aware that it’s going to be in a tropical setting – especially if it is on the beach –
because that will require appropriate footwear and clothing. Supply everyone with
fans to cool down, and make sure you have some sort of cover, like a tent, to keep
the rays away during the ceremony and the party. Use the best that the local
ingredients have to five, and make plenty of tropical fruit drinks and salads, so
everyone has the full tropical experience. Stay in those wonderful destinations for
your honeymoon, or go to the other extreme and go, perhaps, skiing!

tragedies lead us to opportunities

Some tragedies lead us to opportunities that we would not have found otherwise.

I know none of us look at a bad tragedy as soon as it happens and say well that was from God, No we do not, we cry out to him and ask Why me God?
We don't look at it and say oh yeah this is to teach me a lesson
No a lot of times we shake our head and cry tears of desperation

But we need to go thru things so we can find things and opportunities that we would not have found otherwise..


6.18.2018

Bad health habits of the present day


Recently, the improvement in health care around the world has been astronomical. There are countries where advancements need to go further, but the care in the developed world is pretty spectacular. Whereas once infection was a death sentence, now it’s something hospital staff dismiss with antibiotics. There is no doubt that the world has moved on health-wise in the last decade.

It’s not all been rainbows and picnics, though. As society has changed, it has brought about new habits which are pretty unhealthy. Granted, no one is going to die from a simple graze but the following can have a long-lasting effect.

Binge Watching TV

Ever since Netflix took off, people enjoy nothing more than chilling in front of the TV watching television series. There is even a phrase for it – Netflix and chill. Unfortunately, the act of sitting on one’s ass all day leads to a sedentary lifestyle. Reasons for this being a problem range from a high risk of obesity to developing diabetes. However, the one thing that scares everyone is the mental health aspect. Alzheimer’s services encourage people to read and challenge the brain on a daily basis. Because of the ease of access to streaming services, this is difficult to do on a regular basis.

Eating Junk Food

Unhealthy meals have been around for decades. Fast food joints were the staple of the family home back when they didn’t realize the dangers. It was like smoking but healthier. Eating junk food exists today, but it seems as if there is a rise in the phenomenon. Why? It’s because of delivery services. Back in the good old days, people had to drive at least or walk to a restaurant. Now, the only active part is picking up the phone and leafing through the menu. Today, it is a once-a-week thing rather than a special treat.

Sunburn

There is no better feeling than boarding a plane and jet-setting to a new part of the world. It’s amazing to take the edge off and sit on the beach with a cocktail in hand. And, the weather is so good that it obliterates all of the thoughts of gloomy wind and rain. But, with one hand God giveth and with another, He taketh away. Because traveling is commonplace in 2018, so is sunburn. A lobster red complexion is embarrassing but it’s also dangerous as too much UV leads to skin cancer. Sadly, dodgy products can mean you’re not protected when you think that you are.

Radiation

Mobile devices give off a small amount of radiation. It’s nothing dangerous such as the disaster in Chernobyl but it’s quite a lot over an extended period. Radiation changes cells and distorts the body, and we’re using these devices more and more. It’s almost impossible not to see a sea of cell phones and tablets when you walk down the street or use public transport. As a result, there could be a risk of a high exposure to the C-word.

Are there any more to add to the list?

Do’s and Don’ts when Dealing with Dementia



Dementia is a severe decline in mental ability, which leads to the inability of a
person to perform everyday activities. Alzheimer’s disease is the most common type
of dementia, accounting for 60 to 80 percent of all dementia cases. The inability to
concentrate and problems with short-term memory are some of the main symptoms
of dementia that will usually progress over time. Living with dementia and caring
for someone who’s dealing with the disease can be quite challenging, which is why
it’s essential for you to know all the do’s and don’ts that will help you cope with this
disease.


Respect them
It’s essential that you treat the person with dementia with respect. They may have a
fragile sense of self-worth and it’s very important that you are polite in their
vicinity. Always include them in conversations, use their name if you are talking to
them, respect their privacy and try to pay attention to them whenever they are
trying to communicate with you. Respect their feelings and always acknowledge
their presence in the room. You’ll likely become agitated, anxious and angry more
often, but it’s crucial that you calm yourself down instead of taking it out on a loved
one suffering from dementia.




Don’t argue
People with dementia tend to become aggressive, exhibit hostile speech or actions
because they start to feel confused. Feeling scared and helpless may lead to
aggressive behaviour, so it’s imperative that you don’t argue but try to calm the
situation down. Try to understand how the patient feels and use that to de-escalate
the situation. Don’t be contradictory and avoid correcting them in any way, because
that will only make the circumstances worse. If you failed to understand what they
interpreted, just kindly ask them to repeat it to you, or just try to shift the
conversation the other way. Hallucinations and strange ideas will pop into the
patients’ minds, and it’s important that you reassure them and respond to their
feelings about the things that they see or feel, instead of trying to reason with them.



Help with daily tasks
People with dementia will need plenty of help with their daily tasks, so try to be
there for them as much as possible. However, try to be subtle, because they may
start to feel incompetent and worthless if you start patronizing them, which will the
lead to aggressive behaviour or isolation. On the other hand, many patients won’t
seek help even though they may be aware that they need it, simply because they’re
too proud, afraid or want to maintain control. Taking medications, dressing and
bathing can become an impossible task for them, so offer your help any chance you
have. If you can’t navigate your everyday duties with your loved one’s needs,
consider putting them into one of the best dementia care facilities that will provide them with great care and compressive support. Highly trained staff will offer them
clinical support, stability and a peace of mind to the family.





Don’t stress out
Taking care of a person with dementia can take its toll on you, and make your
everyday life a mess. This is why it’s important that you maintain your inner peace
and try to filter out all the stress out of your life. You may be experiencing sleep
deprivation, poor exercise and eating habits and all of that can have a negative
impact on our life and health, so do your best to take care of yourself. You’ll only be
able to take good care of your loved one if you are healthy yourself, so don’t let
stress get the best of you.




People with dementia require a lot of care and protection, but most of all
understanding. Therefore, if you don’t think you can deal with everyday challenges
of a caregiver, look for facilities where your loved ones will feel comfortable and
cared about with great attention.

6.14.2018

3 Cheats to Make Your Garden Easier to Maintain

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Everyone loves being in a beautiful garden, but not all of us have the green fingers we would like. 

Gardening can be labor-intensive and if you aren’t sure what you are doing, or how to care 
for your garden properly, you can easily spend a lot of money on not very much garden.
However, there are a few things you can do to make your garden a lot easier to maintain. All you
need is a little help.

Use a Landscape Designer

It is all too easy to spend a lot of money trying to build the perfect garden, but if you don’t have
 an eye for design, this could all be in vain. A much better idea is to ask a landscape designer
 to help you create and build a garden you will really love. Try www.allenoutdoorstl.com for 
some great professional advice.


A landscape designer can suggest simple garden designs you will be able to maintain easily
 but they will also be able to build it for you so that you only need to worry about maintenance 
later on. This is the best way for a non-gardener to get a dream garden.

Add Timed Sprinklers

If gardens need one thing, it is water and yet, many people aren’t sure how best to water
their garden or when to do it. The best time to water your garden is always early in the 
morning so that the water has plenty of time to soak into the soil before it is evaporated in 
the heat of the day.


However, how much water you provide and how regularly depends on the type of 
soil you have and what the plants prefer. For example, a lawn would need a deep 
watering once a week - 
or 
more often in the summer - for strong root growth, but rockery plants might prefer more 
frequent, light waterings.


The real secret here is to install sprinkler systems that can manage all this for you. You can
 time the sprinklers to come on at the best time and give the optimum amount of water. 
No worries at all - and no need to get up early either!

Use Easy-to-grow Plants

Finally, your plant choice is vital to your success. Choose plants according to the type of
 soil you have and the conditions in your garden. So, if you have a shady area, make sure 
that you put shade-loving plants here. If you have a very exposed area that takes a lot of wind,
 plants that like these conditions should go here.


However, you can also change the conditions in some cases. Trees are a good way to
 provide shade and shelter in a bright, windy garden. Similarly, you can add topsoil where 
you have sandy or malnourished ground. Again, your landscape designer can help you plan 
how you alter your garden to create more suitable conditions.


Easy maintenance really comes down to playing to your garden’s strengths and having a 
clever design that will make maintenance fun and largely unnecessary. Of course, you could 
also hire a gardener to come and look after your garden…
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