2.28.2020

The Not-So-Great-Escape: What To Do If You Want To Get Out Of Your Relationship



Every happy couple has its fair share of obstacles. But when you are in a relationship where you feel that there is an overwhelming urge to escape, is this justified? In any relationship we can feel the various ups and downs, but what happens when we have this overriding sensation that we need to get out? When we feel depressed or unwell, this temptation to run is incredibly overwhelming. But it's not the only option. What can you do if you feel like this in life? 


What Are You Running Away From?
If everything feels overwhelming sometimes that urge to run away is about escaping our demons. When there is something in our lives that is impacting a relationship, if we can work out what it is, we can fix it. In a relationship, if we feel that there are so many external circumstances it may very well be that we've got to step away in order to gain some perspective. But when there is something that you are both guilty of you can work towards fixing it together. It could very well be something as extreme as an addiction, which can be remedied by couples drug rehab or if you are feeling bored or trapped you could work with your partner to make life more exciting. As soon as you start to figure out what you're running away from it's likely that the problem can be fixed.


Do You Need A Break From The Norm?
If you want to escape your relationship it could just be about the treadmill of life that goes and goes. As parents, we can feel bound by routine, which is crucial for the kids but when we get stuck it is difficult to break away. Getting a break from our current reality isn't about running away. It's about changing the routine. You don't have to book a vacation; you could try something else like going down the self-help route. Sometimes changing your perspective will give you that opportunity to reclaim something in your life that you thought you'd lost.


Ask For Help
If we feel trapped or there's an overwhelming urge to escape, sometimes a problem shared is a problem halved. Learning to reach out to someone, whether it's a loved one or a professional, can help us to go through our feelings and realize some home truths. Sometimes we can build things up in our minds too much which means that when we get those thoughts out we have a new sense of perspective on the situation. Asking for help is not an easy thing. But once you take that step and reach out to someone, you won't regret it.


If you ever feel down or struggling, running away is the normal reaction. But when everything feels overwhelming the opportunity to start from scratch is not the right option. When we have problems in life it's far better to turn and face the strain so we can understand what the problem is within ourselves. But we can also learn the true lesson that running away isn't the solution.

What Was That, Darling?' And Other Signs Your Loved One's Hearing Is Struggling

It isn't always easy to notice declines in our loved ones' health. While we all want to be that supportive family member, our own desire to keep everyone safe can too often blind us from the truth. This is the case as our parents' age, or our teens slip into depression. And, it's also relevant where hearing is concerned. 

Sadly, hearing loss isn’t unusual, and is suspected in as many as 48 million Americans alone. That's a significant amount of people, and there's a strong chance at least one member of your family will be among them.

While most prevalent among elderly patients, even youngsters could struggle in this sense. That's why you should always keep an eye out for the following indications that a family member’s hearing isn’t what it should be. 


Repetition, repetition, repetition

Most commonly, individuals experiencing hearing loss will ask you to repeat yourself, even when you're alone together in a quiet room. You may also find that they blame you for the issue, suggesting you're mumbling, or that you need to speak up. The majority of the time, though, anyone asking you to repeat yourself more than two or three times is likely experiencing issues of their own.

Yes sir, no sir, three bags full sir

Often, a family member experiencing hearing loss will stop responding in the ways you might expect. Often, they'll say 'yes' or 'no' as blanket answers at strange times to keep a conversation going. Most often, such responses will come after a delay on your part and may be accompanied with a hopeful smile. Deep down, though, there's a real risk your loved one hasn't a clue what they've agreed to or declined. 

The no-phone policy

If they've been living with unaddressed hearing loss for a while, there’s a chance that your loved one will have developed reasonable lip-reading skills. This can make recognition of issues harder to come by, but it's a limited cover-up. Mobiles, in particular, can soon give things away. If your loved one has stopped answering their phone when you contact them or don't seem to respond when their message tone goes off in your vicinity, it's a revealing sign that their hearing is suffering, no matter how well they can hold down a conversation.

Busted balance

Admittedly, a sudden change in balance can be a sign of a few different health conditions, but hearing difficulties are often behind this issue. Everything from tinnitus to ear infection and beyond can lead to dizziness and other cognitive impairments. If you notice your loved one suddenly swaying or falling a lot more than they used to, it's possible they aren't being entirely truthful about what's going on with their ears.

The vital thing to do, in each of these instances, is to understand your loved one's reluctance to address the issue. Facing hearing loss head-on can be petrifying! But, with your love, support, and insight, they might just find a new strength to get the help they need.

2.27.2020

What to Expect with an Hearing Aid

So you’ve made your appointment with the audiologist, got all the hearing testing done, received a diagnosis...and now it’s time for a hearing aid. You may have already gone through all the different types of hearing aids (everything from invisible versions that nestle in the ear canal to outside-the-ear types, and more) and chosen the one that works best for you. So now what? 

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    You may be a bit nervous about adjusting to life with a hearing aid. Will people notice? Will they ask about it? How does it work? Will it restore your hearing totally or just help a little? These are all questions that will become clear in time, but we’ve taken the time to outline a few small facts about hearing aids to help you ease into the process. 

Most People Don’t Notice Them
A lot of people worry that their hearing aid is the only thing people will see. Most hearing aids, however, are hardly visible at all, with some types that are worn deep inside the ear, completely undetectable. For those types that are slightly visible, a simple change in hairstyle or hat can easily cover them if you’re worried about it. 

You’ll Hear More than You Expect
Technology is moving fast, and hearing aids are one of the devices that has benefited most from that technology. Today’s hearing aids are mostly digital, and the sound quality is amazing. Depending on what type of hearing loss you have, you may not get all of your hearing restored, but you’ll likely be pleasantly surprised at just how much you do get back. 

They are Adaptable and Accessible
These days, pretty much anywhere - both movies and live theaters, concert halls, auditoriums, libraries and even some stores - are hearing aid compatible. You’ll be able to enjoy the fantastic hearing from your device literally anywhere. 

They Won’t Conflict with your Cell
A lot of people worry about their hearing aids interfering with their smartphone or other devices. These days, though, most are designed to not interfere with our smartphone technology, so you won’t have to worry about messing up your phone, missing class or tearing up your hearing aid when you use the phone. 

They Charge Easily
Most hearing aids come with chargers, much like a smartphone, that can charge anywhere. They keep a charge for a long time, as they have a long battery life, and you can charge it with convenience no matter where you are. 

They are Surprisingly Affordable
In many cases, insurance will cover the cost of your hearing aid, though for those whose insurance doesn’t cover hearing, you’ll be delighted to find that most hearing aids aren’t ungodly expensive. Payment plans exist in some cases, as well as options like Care Credit and government funded programs. Be sure to talk to your doctor to discuss payment options and the most affordable devices for you. 

    These are just a few interesting facts about hearing aids and how they work. If you’ve got a new device, you’re well on your way to wonderful restored hearing and living life to the fullest. Enjoy your new device!

What to Expect at your Hearing Doctor Visit



    So you’ve made an appointment with the audiologist, and you might be a bit nervous. Perhaps you’ve noticed your hearing has dwindled in recent weeks or months, or you’re having ear pain. Perhaps both. Whether you need a hearing aid or another issue is at play, there’s no reason to be nervous. A hearing doctor appointment is pretty straightforward and the end result will be you getting your hearing restored. 

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    An audiologist is a professional, well trained in all the different diseases, disorders and lifestyle reasons for hearing loss - everything from degenerative disorders and good old fashioned aging to things like tinnitus and allergies. They can pinpoint exactly what is causing your hearing difficulties and prescribe the best regimen, aid or device for you.
    Generally, the first thing that will happen at your hearing appointment is a basic consultation. You’ll sit and chat with the doctor about the hearing difficulties you’re experiencing, which ear is experiencing the problem, or both, how bad the problem is and if you’re in any pain. During this time the doctor may ask other related questions and take a quick peek at your ears for any buildup or visible issues, likely with an otoscope.
    After this, a series of hearing tests may be conducted. There are special machines designed to test hearing in various ways, and three main tests that audiologists usually utilize: otoscopy, tympanometry, and audiometry. These tests for various degeneration in certain parts of the ears, fluid build-up and more. The doctor will look carefully at these results andother factors to make a diagnosis as to your hearing loss. 
    After these tests are completed, the audiologist will analyze your results and hopefully give you a diagnosis. If more tests are needed or a specialist must be conferred with, he or she will set that up for you. They’ll then go over your results, give you a diagnosis and discuss your options. Often, those with hearing loss will require some type of hearing aid or device, and if the hearing loss is related to some other condition, you may be prescribed medication, alternative therapy or a consult with a specialist. 
    All in all, the visit will be very straightforward and most hearing exams are covered by insurance, so cost is minimal. Follow up appointments may possibly be needed if you are given a hearing aid, so you can have it fitted and adjusted properly, as well as tested to make sure that it works for you. Generally speaking, though, most doctor visits for hearing loss are quick and painless and don’t require a lot of follow up; they are usually conducted in the space of an afternoon. 
    Audiologists also do many other things, other than just testing for hearing loss. They also provide ear cleaning, hearing aid repair and maintenance, tinnitus treatment, services for the deaf, and more. If you have any of the above needs, contact an audiologist today to get the care that you need. 
   

Is It Time You Gave Your Health A Little More Attention?

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It's pretty fair to say that most people would agree that their health is one of the most important parts of their life. The strange thing is that, despite knowing this, it's all too common for a lot of people to refuse to actually take steps in their life that would allow them to take the best possible care of their health. After all, there's nothing more important than your health but if you're not taking an active role in it, you're never going to be able to make the most of it. With that in mind, here are some things that you can do to start giving your health a little more attention.

Stop hiding from your doctor

Everyone can agree that going to the doctor isn't really the most enjoyable experience in the world. After all, doctor's offices can be pretty unpleasant places and no one want to face up to the possibility that there's something wrong. However, the consequences of avoiding getting your check-ups at the doctor are far worse than the small amount of discomfort that comes with actually biting the bullet and making an appointment. After all, not only are doctor's appointments a whole lot less harrowing than you usually expect but dealing with a problem head-on is always the best way to get it solved.

Know the treatments out there

Speaking of dealing with a problem head-on, one of the most common things that a lot of people fail to realise is that there are almost always solutions out there for their problems. They just need to be willing to look for them. A lot of the time this involves doing research and also talking to the experts. From the best hearing aids to the most effective treatments for a whole range of conditions, knowing how to treat an issue is always the first step towards improving your health and your life as a whole. Avoiding the issue is not only going to make it impossible to get any better but could very well make the problem a whole lot worse.

Make adjustments to your lifestyle

If you want to start taking more interest in your health, it's not just a matter of getting the right medical help, though of course, that's important. It's also a matter of making positive adjustments to your lifestyle. Things, like becoming more active and paying more attention to what you eat, are simple changes but ones that can make a huge difference to your overall wellbeing. 

For a lot of people, paying attention to their health is something they tend to avoid simply because it can often be a lot of hard work. Whether you have to face up to any kind of medical condition or you just need to make sure that you're living your life in the healthiest ways possible, doing that can involve hard work and sacrifice. However, the truth is that the positives that you gain from that hard work are always worth it.

3 Health Check Ups You Need To Stop Ignoring

If you want to look after your health as you get older, it is so important that you have regular check-ups. The easiest way to stay healthy is to catch health issues early and treat them before they escalate. A lot of health problems do not have obvious symptoms right away, but they can be picked up during check-ups and dealt with before they impact you. Unfortunately, a lot of us are quite bad at getting the important check-ups that we need. Nobody likes going to the doctor, so we only go if we have obvious symptoms that won’t go away, but that is a mistake because there are certain check-ups that you should be having on a regular basis, regardless of whether you have symptoms or not. These are the health check-ups that you need to stop avoiding. 


Hearing Tests 

Hearing tests are one of those check-ups that are often ignored. People will go to get their hearing tested when they have noticeable hearing loss. However, hearing loss happens gradually and you may not notice until it is very developed and the problem cannot be reversed. But if you get checked regularly and pick up on problems, you can get fitted with hearing aids. A lot of people assume that you only need hearing aids if you can hardly hear at all, but there are actually a lot of hearing aid benefits beyond improved hearing. Wearing hearing aids in the early stages of hearing loss will protect your hearing and stop it from getting worse very quickly. They also improve your overall quality of life because they make it easier to engage in social situations. 

The Dentist 

The dentist is another one that people tend to avoid. We always talk about how important it is for children to go, but as we get older, we stop going as often. That’s a big problem because older people are far more likely to have issues with their teeth, so you should be visiting the dentist on a regular basis. Poor dental health can lead to a lot of other health issues outside of cavities and gum disease, so it is important that you keep on top of it. Dental issues can also be a symptom of diabetes, so having regular check-ups with your dentist can help you catch it early. 

Blood Pressure 

Blood pressure is a good indicator of wider health issues like heart problems, weight gain, kidneys problems, diabetes, and many more. It is a window into your overall health and even if you don’t have any other symptoms, a worrying blood pressure reading is enough to let doctors know that there is something wrong. That’s why blood pressure readings are one of the most important health check-ups you can get, especially as you start to get older. If your blood pressure is too high or too low, your doctor will give you advice on how to change your lifestyle so you can remain healthier for longer. 

If you ignore these important check-ups, you could be missing the signs of some serious health problems, so make sure that you book some appointments right away. 

2.26.2020

Life's Purpose



I couldn't sleep so I brought out the old mac book and had some thoughts to share on "Our Purpose"

When I think about my purpose.. I think about a career, the dream job, being a wife and a mom and the best one I can be at that.

Most of us have no clue what we want to do with our lives. Even after we finish school. Even after we get a job. Even after we’re making money. Between ages 20-35, I changed careers  more often than I changed my underwear. Now at 37 I still wish I did what I wanted to do in high school, but we cannot live in the what if's, we have to push thru, we have to settle down, we have to be the best we can be with the hand we are dealt. 

Some argue that our purpose is to find happiness. Others say our purpose is to love others, to become the best version of ourselves, or to follow God's will. Still others say there is no purpose to life at all. ... Put simply, your purpose in life is to live for heaven, 

So when people say, “What should I do with my life?” or “What is my life purpose?” what they’re actually asking is: “What can I do with my time that is important?”



The purpose of life is to be happy


“Happiness cannot be traveled to, owned, earned, worn or consumed. Happiness is the spiritual experience of living every minute with love, grace, and gratitude.” – Denis Waitley

The purpose of life is to leave a legacy

“All good men and women must take responsibility to create legacies that will take the next generation to a level we could only imagine.” – Jim Rohn

The purpose of life is to love others

“Not only do self-love and love of others go hand in hand but ultimately they are indistinguishable.” – M. Scott Peck

The purpose of life is to make a positive difference

“Aim to make a difference in someone’s life every single day, including your own.” Dow Zantamata
The Purpose of life is to make it to heaven 
"The Bible says that Jesus is coming back to this earth to reward His people as He promised and to take them to heaven (Rev 22:12)"
What is your life's purpose? 

2.25.2020

Don't Neglect These Parts Of Your Home When Spring Cleaning!

How clean would you say your home is? Because homes can be very messy places, and they can have all kinds of dirt and grime caked into the walls from the years gone by. After all, cleaning properly is a real talent, and remembering all the different areas of your house that’ll need a quick wipe down can be difficult from time to time. You have so much to do already, and cleaning can get boring very quickly! 

But it’s about that time for spring cleaning to roll back around, seeing as the temperature is getting a little bit warmer, and we’re slowly moving out of the early months of the year. And if you’ve not yet made your spring cleaning checklist, it’s time to put one together with the points we’ve listed below. After all, some parts of the home are dirtier than others, and you’re going to have to keep them in mind when you’re rushing around trying to dust from top from bottom! 


Surfaces in the Kitchen

The kitchen can be a pretty messy part of the home, don’t you think? It’s where all kinds of foods get prepared on a daily basis, and these foods can leave behind all kinds of germs and bacteria on the surfaces when they’re put in the oven. Raw meats, bags of unwashed vegetables, even just out of date cans of non-perishables can be dangerous for the surrounding environment, especially when the area is not cleaned up properly. 

Of course, you’re always going to be living with some kind of germ in your household. After all, we can’t be sure we’ve cleaned everything up when we’re done with the room, and we can never be sure if our cleaning implements are good enough for the job themselves! Which is why it might be best to invest in cleaning or disinfectant wipes, rather than using a dish cloth or a scrubber to wipe down the surfaces day by day. And whilst you’re at it, make sure you throw your dish cloths, hand towels, and any other fabric equipment in the washing machine at least once a week. Don’t start off with a dirty cleaning cloth! 

Deep Clean the Living Room Carpet

Your living room is a pretty traffic heavy part of the house. People are going to be traipsing in and out of it every single day, with all kinds of muck and grime caked over their shoes and socks. When you look down at your carpet, what do you see? Darker patches leading directly to and from the doorway? Lighter patches around and underneath the furniture? What does this tell you? Well, it means there’s a lot of dirt building up here, and your living room would look, feel, and maybe even smell a lot better if you managed to clean up these darkened pathways. 

But what are you to do? It takes a lot to deep clean a carpet; you have to buy a special piece of machinery, or you have to mix together the right cleaning supplies and then quarantine the area for hours on end, and that’s hard to do when you’ve got kids at home with you! Of course, it might work out a lot cheaper on you and your household budget if you did mix up materials and took the family out for a day - you can find a pretty good collection of recipes for doing just that right here. 

But if you don’t want to go through all of this trouble yourself, you could very well depend on a company like Chem-Dry of Charleston to get the grime lifted for you. A professional cleaning company on your side definitely means the job will get done properly! 

Wipe Down All Of Your Door Handles

The door handles in your household could be covered with all kinds of germs. They’re the one part of the home we tend to forget about most when whipping around with a cloth in hand. After all, we all reach for the handle when opening and shutting doors behind us in every single room, and most notably, when using the bathroom. 

Sure, you may wash your hands afterwards, but if your sink is in a different room, or you’ve had guests over, can you be sure they did not touch the handle with dirty, unwashed hands? Because if not, it’s time to give your handles a good wipe down with a bit of soap and/or disinfectant, and try to do so on a weekly basis. A lot of grime can build up here without you even realising it! 

Disinfect the Inside of Your Washing Machine

Your washing machine might have a lot of germs and bacteria within it, simply because it’s used to wash dirty clothes day in and day out, without a thought on how wet laundry can affect the drum of the machine itself. Don’t worry, it’s not too late to do something about this! 

Of course, barely anyone realises that wet laundry can be a real breeding ground for bacteria, considering the cold and damp nature of the pile that’s just sitting inside the machine. If you let your laundry sit for too long, it’s going to be just as dirty as it was before you put it on for a cycle, and you’re much better off washing it again and then immediately removing it. 

So, make sure you get some disinfectant spray or a tablet, spray or pop it into the machine, then let it spin on its own for a short cycle. Let this dry off afterwards, and then get back to doing your laundry. 

How’s Your Spring Cleaning Coming Along?

Your home is going to need regular cleaning, and there’s no way around that! Make sure you don’t neglect the potentially most dirty and forgotten about areas as you go around with your furniture polish and your dish cloth. All in all, make sure your spring cleaning this year truly counts! 

How You Can Feel Safe in Your Home

Do you feel safe in your own home? It's something that everyone should have the right to, but many people don't feel as safe at home as they might like. If being home alone makes you feel uneasy, or even the presence of other people doesn't help, you should take action to make your home feel safer. Fortunately, there are several things that you can do to make your home feel safer and ensure it is actually safe and secure. Start making your home feel safer so that you can be more comfortable by using the following tips to change your home.


Turn Up the Lights

Dark corners and dim lighting can seem a little unnerving. If sitting in the dark can get you feeling worried, you might need to think about how a bit more lighting could help to improve things. More light both inside your home and outside can help your home to feel brighter and safer. Just switching to some brighter light bulbs is one way to shed some more light on the situation. Another option is to add more light sources, which is easiest to do with lamps indoors. Outside, security lights make it easier to see the exterior of your home.

Improve Security

Of course, if you want to feel safer, making sure your home is actually safe and secure is an essential step. You can look at home security systems to install so that you can prevent any problems and receive notifications of anything that happens. Alarms, cameras and security lights can help you to protect your home. Reinforcing your doors and windows will also provide extra security for your property, whether you are at home or not. By making your home more secure, you can feel a lot safer and protect your property at the same time.


Control the Sound

Unsettling noises can also put you off when you're trying to relax at home. Creaking and groaning noises might have a logical explanation, but it's still better if you don't have to hear them at all. If you hear any regular noises in your home, a little investigation can help you to find out what they are. Groaning pipes might need a plumber to address, or you might need to figure out how to fix a creaking floorboard. If a completely quiet house creeps you out, playing music or watching/listening to something else can help.

Get to Know Your Neighbors

It can be difficult to feel safe in your home if you don't know the people who live near you. Getting to know your neighbors can be helpful if you want to feel more comfortable. Start by introducing yourself next time you see a neighbor, or even knocking on their door to say hello. If you have a neighborhood watch or another community group, joining can be a good idea to help you become part of the local community.

Start feeling safer in your own home by creating the right atmosphere and taking some security measures.

2.21.2020

5 Ways To Support Your Family During Tough Times

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Your family should always be your anchor, and refuge when things go wrong. Being able to confide in your siblings, spouse or parents is one of the most liberating things in the world, and it doesn’t come easy, because, in order to make that happen, it’s important to build a relationship based on trust and mutual understanding. However, it’s also essential to give something back to your loved ones, so for that reason, here are some ways that will help you be more supportive and considerate to your family.

Let them come to you

Sometimes, your partner, child(ren) or spouse might be dealing with difficulties that you’re not familiar with, and if you want them to confide in you, it is important to let them come and talk to you without fearing your reaction. Many parents still tend to struggle with this, which is why their children opt to talk to other people instead. If you’re looking to build relationships based on love and support, you need to accept that there will be bad things and difficult situations to deal with, and the first step towards helping your family is to allow them to come and speak freely with no fear.

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Keep an open mind

Of course, it’s not always possible to control your every reaction, but with a bit of effort, it is possible to accept even bad news cool headedly. However, in order to be able to achieve that, it’s necessary to become more open-minded as that is the best way to be a rock to your family. Your kids and other family members will more likely come to you if they know that you won’t lash out or rebuff them simply out of disagreement. Even if you tend to overreact at times, at least make sure to apologise and accept the error of your ways. Being open-minded isn’t an overnight process, 

Find effective solutions to their problems

Problems are part of life, and in case your family member is dealing with something, you should definitely reach out to them and offer your support and help. Nevertheless, some issues are more difficult to deal with, and in case your family members end up injured or going through any legal issues, helping them find an experienced injury compensation lawyer that will be able to help them deal with legal side of the situation, while you can always be there for them when it comes to emotional strength and resilience. Aside from that, it is essential to let your family know that seeking help is always the right things to do and that they should never feel ashamed for wanting to talk to a professional.

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Don’t be patronizing

Your family members (and other relatives and friends) have to deal with their own issues, and the last thing they need from you is to lecture them on how to fix themselves. So, instead of offering unsolicited advice, it’s better to simply have an honest chat where you could look for solutions without any pressure. Being patronizing is the easiest way to drive people away, so make sure to stay away from such behaviour especially if you want to be a better and more empathetic person. It might be difficult at first, but you can always ask you, family members, to let you know when you’re acting like that so you’ll be able to recognize fix your shortcomings.

Embrace a positive attitude

Having an optimistic outlook will surely help your family come together, so if you’re more pessimistic by nature, then try to do anything in your power to change your mindset and embrace a more positive outlook on life. Knowing why your family is important to you is a great way to start changing your views and becoming a more hopeful and encouraging person.  Sometimes, people who have negative expectations often tend to be anxious or pessimistic, mainly due to fear of failure and disappointment. However, once you accept that failures are normal and there’s nothing wrong with them, you’ll be able to shift your attitude and adopt a more positive mentality.

Conclusion 

Taking care of your family and being there for them is one of the greatest human qualities, so always make sure to talk to your family members and help them solve their problems because only then it’s possible to be happy and feel accomplished together. 

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