1. ANGER - Uncontrolled anger, intimidation and bullying have NO place in marriage. Watch your tone. Anger does NO good, only harm. Remove it.
2. CRITICISM - Listen to me, treat your spouse with kindness and respect. Your job is to build them up, NOT to tear them down. NO ONE wants to live with a critic.
3. BITTERNESS: Or you can call it blame. It can be summed up in once simple line, "It's not me. It's you." Don't be the victim in your arguments, remember that you're on the same team. It's not about who wins or loses an argument.