Tips For Enjoying Some 'Me Time' In A Relationship

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When was the last time you did something for yourself in your relationship? No, it's not selfishness; it's self-care. Whether you're married or in a long-term committed relationship or close friendship, it's easy to give your time and energy so much that you forget about yourself. And giving bits of yourself away without replenishing them has significant health implications. According to some studies, an ability to tolerate alone time is connected to increased happiness and satisfaction. But how can you create time alone without being selfish, upsetting your partner, or ignoring your responsibilities? The following tips can help. 

Practice the 'me' but respect the 'we'

While having some 'me' time is important, it should not come at the cost of losing your relationship, marriage, or friendship. In fact, your 'me time' should respect the 'we' of your relationship. In other words, making space for individuality does not mean ignoring, avoiding, or exiting your relationship. For example, do not use your 'me' time as a strategy to avoid issues or difficult conversations in your relationship. Instead, respect your partner and the partnership you've built (or want to build). And in line with that, the next point is crucial.

Let your partner know you still have them in mind

What to do during your time alone depends on what you love. You can read a book, go for a walk, meet up with friends, or even go shopping. But through it, all, don't let your partner feel ignored. Instead, show them that they still occupy an important spot in your mind, even during your time alone. Here's something you can try. If you love to shop, for example, during your time alone, pick something nice, like jewelry from Brilliant Earth, as a gift for your partner. Or, if you prefer spending time with friends, call your partner or send them a message during your time out to let them know you love them. 

Decide on some boundaries

Setting boundaries can be tricky, and not everyone will agree to them in the first place. But boundaries are crucial for any relationship because they help you to feel more comfortable and keep you from losing yourself. Also, some experts argue that a failure to set boundaries in your relationship can affect how properly you communicate with your partner or friend. Start by clearly stating what your partner wants or expects and communicating it to them. Doing this can prevent misunderstandings and avoidable arguments. 

Don't abandon your responsibilities.

Spending time alone doesn't mean that nobody else matters anymore but you. For example, you don't want to ignore making dinner for your kids just because you need to be alone. Be sure not to abandon your responsibilities, especially when other lives depend on them. You can do two things. 

One, let your partner know what you want to do alone and when. This way, you can both plan how best your partner can cover for you. Two, choose a time that wouldn't affect anyone else. Or you can consider completing your responsibilities in advance to make more than enough time for yourself. 

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