11.15.2016

19 WAYS TO KEEP YOUR “MARRIAGE FIRES” BURING


1. KISS EACH OTHER
It's one of the most intimate things you can do with your clothes on and will help to maintain and build up the romantic bond between you
2. LEAVE NOTES FOR EACH OTHER 
Get a pack of sticky notes and write little messages you can leave where your loved one will find them. We're not talking about ones that say: “Remember to take out the trash.” 
3. GO AWAY TOGETHER
Sometimes, it takes some distance and time together to remind you how much you love and enjoy each other's company. Get someone to look after the kids and get away for a night or weekend, where you can just do fun things together that you can never do at home.
4. CUT THE POWER 
Imagine that the juice is cut off for a night. This means no TV, no phones, no computer … instead just you, your partner, some candles and see where it leads.
5. COOK YOUR FAVORITE MEALS
They say the way to a man's heart is through his stomach. Well, maybe it's not quite that easy, but cooking his favorite food shows how much you care.
6. GO ON A DATE
Find out about each other again - tell each other stories about when you were young. This will remind you what you used to see in each other.
7. TALK TO EACH OTHER
Turn off the TV and have a chat. Talk about stuff that you both like - films, books, cooking, gardening, DIY, anything as long as you talk. Communication is one of the biggest parts of a relationship and not talking will cause you problems.
8. SAY THANK YOU
We show gratitude to strangers and people we work with all the time, but it's easy to forget to do the same for our partners. A small gesture of thanks, whether it's saying thank you for emptying the cat litter, cooking a nice meal or just for being there goes an awfully long way.
9. MAKE TIME
We all have busy lives and even evenings can be taken up with lots of chores or work. So try to spend just 10 minutes alone together every day to find out what each of you have been up to.
10. SEND A CARD
Communication doesn't necessarily have to mean talking. Write down some heartfelt words in a card and then mail it the old fashion way. We all know how much we like getting cards or letters, rather than bills.
11. HAVE FUN TOGETHER
Remind yourselves what you used to enjoy doing before you got bogged down in the humdrum nature of life together. Play games together, go out walking - do whatever it was that used to make you feel alive and happy.
12. LISTEN
Talking is obviously important, but listening is just as vital. If one of you has something they need to say (no matter how trivial it seems), then the other really needs to listen to them properly and, if necessary, do something to change.
13. PLAN DATES
Knowing that you have a special date coming up (even months ahead) can be good for both of you. These dates can be specific events, such as birthdays, anniversaries, or simply evenings you set aside.
14. SAY "I LOVE YOU"
Those three words are often forgotten as relationships progress, but said properly, they mean so much. In fact, you don't even need to say them … send a text, email, etc.
15. COMPLIMENT ONE ANOTHER
Tell the other one how good they look, how nice a shirt or top looks, or guys, tell her you like her shoes. Compliments make everyone feel better.
16. LAUGH
Humor is good for your health anyway, and sharing jokes with each other makes for a better bond. Rent a favorite comedy DVD, look at old photos of yourselves... anything that will tickle your funny bones.
17. MAKE LOVE MORE OFTEN
The more time you spend together in the bedroom, the better it will be for your relationship.
18. FORGET THE PAST
This means silly arguments or things where one of you may have done or said something they now regret. Move forward and concentrate on your future together. By harboring resentment, you will never be able to move on with your relationship.
19. WORK AS A TEAM
Don't blame each other for things that may have gone wrong. Admit to mucking up and try to use it as a positive thing and move on. No one is at fault for everything, and no one can do everything perfectly, either. Once you realize this, you will hopefully begin to work together as a team. ~Unknown

8 comments

  1. I really need to implement so many of these things, starting now! Being a team is so crucial and there are your tips are solid.

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  2. These are such sweet ideas! I am sure your husband is so blessed by you!

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  3. If there's no prayer in the marriage....

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  4. I love point #15. So many couples tear each other down. It's amazing what some compliments can do to a relationship!
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  5. Terri, I have learned that saying thank you,complimenting my husband, and growing together in the Lord are so important for a healthy marriage. Love your recommendations!

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  6. These are great, Terri. I love your ideas to cut the juice and to talk to each other. One of my favorite times is Saturday morning when we sit together in the living room and just talk. Blessings, Amy

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  7. Getting away together is my favorite. Seems like such a great refresher when you can get a way for a bit. It's a good list, Terri!

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  8. Yeah, I think you and your husband have an amazing relationship. Doing all these things is bound to keep the spark alive. My husband and I have fallen into such a routine and with him being in a lot of pain due to degenerative disc disease, we do nearly nothing on this list except of course say I love you. We do love each other, we just need a refresher course in marriage.

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