My Best friend has asked me to be her Maid of Honor for June 24th when she marries her love. I thought I would do a post on the duties "required" ( not so much) by the Maid of Honor. Ashley and I have been friends for a long time and I am honored to be here MOH.
My flight is booked ( Check)
dress is ordered ( Check)
now to find shoes
nails booked ( Check)
Hair ( pending)
This is how she asked me, I cried alot.
The maid/matron of honor is a part worker bee, part emotional lifeboat. Chosen for your energetic, get-the-ball-in-motion qualities, you should also remember that listening to the bride, making her laugh, and offering emotional and logistical support are also part of your honor attendant package. Here's what's expected:
Lead the bridesmaid troupe. It's the maid/matron of honor's (MOH) job to direct the other maids through their duties. Make sure everyone gets their bridesmaid dresses, go to dress fittings and find the right jewelry. Also, provide them with the 411 on all pre-wedding parties.
Help shop for dresses (the bride's and the bridesmaids'). And the MOH pays for her own entire wedding outfit (including shoes).
Offer to help the bride with prewedding tasks, from addressing invites to choosing the wedding colors and nodding enthusiastically when she waxes poetic about the wedding cake.
Spread the news about where the bride and groom are registered.
Help the bride change for her honeymoon and take charge of her gown after the ceremony. Arrange for storage in a safe place until she returns.
Lend an ear. Whether it's about the planning, the marriage, or the registry china patterns, the MOH should assure the bride that she has someone with whom she can share her thoughts. Even if she seems to dwell on the same subjects repeatedly, the MOH keeps listening.
Host or co-host a bridal shower for the bride. I cannot be there to do this :( going to pamper her the morning of the wedding.
Keep a record of all the gifts received at various parties and showers (or delegate a bridesmaid to handle this).
Plan the bachelorette party with the bridesmaids. ( she don't want one, instead, we are having a quiet night at home with movies and food)
See to it that all bridesmaids get to the rehearsal; coordinate transportation and lodging, if necessary.
Make sure that all bridesmaids get their hair and makeup done, get to the ceremony on time, and have the correct bouquets.
Hold the groom's ring during the ceremony. The safest place to put it? On your thumb.
Arrange the bride's train and veil before the ceremony begins and just after she arrives at the altar. The MOH might also need to help her bustle the train for easy dancing at the reception.
Hold the bride's bouquet while the couple exchanges vows.
Sign the marriage license as a witness, along with the best man.
Collect any gift envelopes brought to the reception and keep them in a safe place.
Make sure the bride takes a moment to eat something -- refresh her drink, get her a plate of food from the buffet table, or instruct the wait staff to keep her entree warm.
Toast the couple after the best man. (This is optional, but it is a nice touch.)
Troubleshoot emotional crises. In most cases, this will require lots of tissues, hugging, and hair-smoothing. The MOH continues to be a trusted friend, a good listener, and a smart advisor.
Keep the bride laughing. For the stressed-out bride, laughter can be as effective as venting.
I cannot wait to watch them become husband and wife :) Love you Ashley.