Pre Marital therapy

Premarital therapy helps partners improve their ability to communicate, set realistic expectations for marriage and develop conflict-resolution skills. In addition, premarital counseling can help couples establish a positive attitude about seeking help down the road.

When we were planning to get married we did some Pre marital counseling , no it wasn’t as long or as knowledgeable as some other people get but this is what our Pastor planned for us. 

I always thought pre marital counselling was uncomfortable and could also be embarrassing, but to be honest it is very beneficial for every couple who is planning to become husband and wife.  Most couples do not know what to expect in marriage and incorrectly assume things will be the same as prior to marriage, that being said couples do not always think about the financial cost of receiving counselling so they feel it may not be worth it. 

Why is Pre marital counselling important?

Having Important Conversations: There are important conversationist have going into a marriage 

• It Provides an Opportunity to Address Issues. ...When couples go to counseling, they talk together with a counselor or religious leader who has the training needed to help them better understand one another. 

• It Helps Couples Plan the Future. ... ( finances, kids etc) Talking with someone who has been married for a long time is another big benefit of seeking premarital counseling. When you talk to a counselor, you benefit from a voice of wisdom on the subject of marriage.

• It Lets Couples Absorb Wisdom. ...Talking with someone who has been married for a long time is another big benefit of seeking premarital counseling. When you talk to a counselor, you benefit from a voice of wisdom on the subject of marriage.

• It Allows Couples to Discover New Things About Themselves. Counselors ask a lot of questions when they’re working with engaged couples. Listening carefully to your partner’s answers is a great way to learn more about that individual. Yes, many couples perceive that no one knows their partners better than they do. However, counselors can help bring out important information that a partner might have been reluctant to share. This offers great growth opportunities while helping couples learn more about each other. It’s also a safe space for individuals to share things that they are nervous or upset about with their partners. It can be particularly helpful if one individual in the couple has been in failed relationships before.

• How much will the inlaws be a part of your major decision making - I am serious this is a big one

Remember that premarital counseling is for all couples. If you’re a marriage and family therapist, offering premarital counseling is a great way to help others and build your client base. Of course, it’s also a great way to share the wisdom that you’ve gained in your own marriage.

Premarital counseling can teach you and your partner how to discuss issues in a healthy manner, which may mean you and your partner do not need counseling further down the road.