How often should married people have sex?

How often should married people have sex?
The frequency of sex among married couples depends on how old they are. One survey looked at the sex lives of married people by age. They found that:

Between 18-29, married people had sex 112 times a year, or a little over twice a week.
Between 30-39, they had sex 86 times a year, or about seven times a month.
Between 50-59, they had sex 69 times a year, or a little under six times a month.

Sex appears to decline further as couples get older. Although frustrated married people can romanticize the sex lives of swinging singles, studies show that married people have more sex than single people. While married people 18-29 have sex over nine times a month, single people average a little under six a month. It makes sense -- married people have a potential sexual partner in bed with them every night. Singles often sleep alone.

The Average
There is some question among sex therapists about what the true average is for couples in committed relationships. The answers can range from once a week to once a month! When Ian Kerner, PhD, was asked how he responds to couples who ask him how often they should have sex, he said, “I’ve always responded that there’s no one right answer.
When couples stop having sex, their relationships become vulnerable to anger, detachment, infidelity and, ultimately, divorce.
After all, a couple’s sex life is affected by so many different factors: age, lifestyle, each partner’s health and natural libido and, of course,  the quality of their overall relationship, to name just a few.
So while there may be no one right answer to the question of how often couples should have sex, lately I’ve somewhat been less equivocal and advise couples to try to do it at least once a week.”
sex just makes life better;) 


  1. Interesting sextistics! I'd say I'm pretty on for my age group. I can see why lessening sex and intimacy in general could put stress on a relationship. It's part of the closeness and bonding between couples.

  2. Very interesting. I think that he was right on the money when it comes to factors in a relationship. I know that since having our daughter 2 years ago our sex life slowed down and is finally picking back up. There was sleep deprivation and stress all involved. It is such an important part of a relationship that so many people have a tough time talking about!


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