4.01.2014

Marriage

We got married on May 4th, 2002- i loved him from the day I met him, he has always been my soul mate and best friend.

I wanted to share some marriage advice that works for us, we have a really good marriage but like anything it takes work.


1) Never go to bed upset- if you have a fight and even if he/she don't want to talk, tell them you love them and you are sorry about the fight, tell them you love them and leave it at that, don't bring it up again- let it go.

2) Budget- 95% of couples argue over money, you need to sit down together and create a budget, then you both know what money is coming in and what is going out.

3)  Communicate- I struggle with this one, I assume to much, just because I want to do something, does not mean he does, so I need to communicate with him and let him know I want to do a certain thing and ninety percent of the time he will do it too

4) Spend time together- make time for each other each day, find a topic for a conversation,  take a weekly date, it is very important to date your spouse, you dated before marriage, why not after? I look forward to weekly date nights, it don't always have to be spending money, there are a lot of free date ideas ( walk, play a game, dinner picnic at a park, have a at home coffee break etc)

5) Hug and kiss often- we never leave for work without doing this.

6) Say I Love you- Often!! I tell him several times a day I love him and he does the same

7) Compromise- you won't always want to do what the other person wants to do, so find something you both are ok with and do that. You are no longer 2 but 1 and you have to think of the other person

8) Sex- it isn't a topic that is spoken about a lot, but it is very important to please your spouse,  we all have needs that we need satisfied. 

9) Dont Criticize him/her- lift them up, praise them, let them know you appreciate what they do for you, how they work hard for your family, let him/her know this. 

10) Don't use the "D" word (divorce, that is). Even in the heat of an argument, avoid threatening to pack your bags or head to the lawyer's office. Besides the "D" word being downright hurtful, repeated warnings may result in a spouse calling the other's bluff. "We act as if the intensity of our anger gives us license to say or do anything," says Dr. Lerner. "But threatening divorce is never useful, and it only makes the probability of separation more likely." 

I am sure there are more that can make a marriage, I am so thankful for the Godly man I married, my best friend and my soul mate. 


7 comments

  1. I've always admired the love that you share in marriage! What a lovely picture and thank you for the very helpful reminders - I'm going to remember them. xx

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  2. Yep, if Hubs and I fight it is normally about money

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  3. This is really great advice. Communication is so important.

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  4. Compromise! That is so key to a long marriage, and we are 9 years in and still learning this about ourselves. Thanks for sharing all of these great tips.

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  5. Great tips, it also helps when you have a husband that is so easy going too!

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  6. These are great tips. Marriage is a lot harder than anyone ever expects!

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