2.02.2015

6 Signs your marriage may be headed for trouble




1. YOU NEVER COMMUNICATE: Talk. Check in with each other regularly. Be sure to verbalize what's wrong, but also what's right with the relationship. Discuss what to do to make you both happy. If you're having trouble communicating, get professional help from a marriage counselor or therapist. 

2. YOU ARGUE ALL THE TIME: No one wants to fight all the time. It just takes all the fun and joy out of your relationship. It also can make you both bitter and angry. Pick your battles carefully. There are ways to disagree, so that you are respectful and you both hear each other out. Also, you can learn to agree to disagree on certain topics. 

3. YOU ARE HIDING THINGS FROM ONE ANOTHER: Honesty and openness is what your marriage is built on. When you start hiding things like text messages, friendships with the opposite sex, etc ... you start setting relationship up for HUGE trouble. 

4. YOU CONSTANTLY SPEND MORE THAN YOU MAKE: Making money mistakes - failing to get out of debt, spending what you don't have, or making poor investments - is cause for more arguing and sometimes a break down of communication (the other killers on this list). 

5. YOU STOP PURSUING ONE ANOTHER: By far, one of the easiest ways for couples to kill their marriage is when they stop pursuing one another. Your goal everyday should be to work just as hard to keep your spouse as you did to win him/her in the first place. Never get comfortable in your marriage by just thinking, "I don't have to work at it ... everything will be fine on its own." 

6. YOU'VE STOPPED HAVING SEX: A marriage without sex can definitely wither and die, especially if one of the people in the marriage is unhappy about this. Sex is what separates the marriage relationship from other relationships you have. Don't forget ... never ever give up on your marriage. Work hard to fix any area that may be broken.






16 comments

  1. I agree, great post! And you have a beautiful family!

    ReplyDelete
  2. Great suggestions to improve many situations. Thank you for sharing!

    ReplyDelete
  3. Thanks so much, I agree with your signs completely.

    ReplyDelete
  4. Hmmm... me and my husband have a total love/hate relationship... we don't argue all of the time but a lot of the time because we hate the situation we are in and both have different views on how we should get there. I believe that It's just a hump we are going through and once we get to where we want to be things will be better. Maybe I'm just being silly! Who knows but I do know I want to stick it out and see what happens!

    ReplyDelete
  5. Our marriage grows stronger the more we communicate and the more we are physical with one another. My love language is quality time and my husband's is physical touch. When we both offer love in those ways, our relationship is solid :-)

    ReplyDelete
  6. We strive for all of these but I doubt anyone is perfect at them. But so far we have been married for 25 years so it must be working.

    ReplyDelete
  7. Great post! Enjoyed the read! I think that those are pretty accurate signs that your marriage is not headed in a good direction. Sidenote: I love that decal above the bed in the picture you posted.

    ReplyDelete
  8. Great tips! Sometimes reading tips like this help remind us that marriage is a give and take and that its always ever changing

    ReplyDelete
  9. Good tips! We need to spend time saving more marriages!

    ReplyDelete
  10. I agree! It's good to make a habit out of evaluating your marriage on occasion.

    ReplyDelete
  11. I agree with all of this.. i would be worried if any of these things were happening.

    ReplyDelete
  12. Great article! Communication is so important !

    ReplyDelete
  13. Great article, my marriage was at that point once. Thanks for the reminder.

    ReplyDelete
  14. We can never take the relationship for granted. Thanks for the reminder! And a very good list to start self-examination.

    ReplyDelete
  15. Great post! I agree with all of your signs. Marriage definitely takes work from both parties.

    ReplyDelete
  16. Agreed, agreed, agreed on all points! Sometimes we do better on one thing than another, but we try. :)

    ReplyDelete

Thanks for the blogging Love

Latest Instagrams

© Take A Walk In My Shoes. Design by FCD.