2.18.2015

Wife Talk -10 MARRIAGE KILLERS ...

Before we get started on our Wife talk for this week, I wanted to give a big THANK YOU to Chelsea for my new look, she has done an amazing job, did exactly what I wanted. 
Thank you so much!!!

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To uplift women and encourage them to keep going in their marriage and to love their spouse unconditionally 



10 MARRIAGE KILLERS ... 



Sometimes it's the subtle and sneaky things that creep into our marriages that destroy the relationship. Little things so gradual that we don't really notice them before they've become HUGE problems. Be on guard of subtle things like these...

1. WHEN YOU LET LIFE STARTS TAKING PRIORITY OVER YOUR MARRIAGE. Things like paying bills, work, children all start taking priority over marriage relationship. These aren't bad things, but they become bad when y...ou make them more important than your marriage.

2. WHEN YOU START TAKING YOUR SPOUSE FOR GRANTED. You get comfortable and quit trying in marriage.

3. WHEN YOU MARRY YOUR WORK. Yes, you can spend too much time at the office. At the end of your life you will not look back and say, "I wish I would have spent more time at work."

4. WHEN YOU BLAME. Everyone is at fault for your marriage struggles … your spouse, your in-laws, your parents … everyone but you.

5. WHEN YOU LET YOUR SOULMATE BECOMES YOUR ROOMMATE. God never created marriage, so we could have a roommate but a soulmate. Marriage is about intimacy, oneness and togetherness … not just cohabitation with someone of the opposite sex.

6. WHEN YOU STOP PUTTING YOUR SPOUSE AND THEIR NEEDS FIRST. You quit working to meet their needs and do the things you once did.

7. WHEN YOU AVOID SEX. Stop with the excuses! We know it can be hard sometimes to find the time or energy ... especially if you have kids. On the other hand, if your spouse is not having their physical needs met at home – then you are throwing the door wide-open for them to go and get those needs met somewhere else.

8. WHEN YOU GET RESENTFUL AND HOLD GRUDGES. Resentfulness and grudges are like cancer … they will slowly kill your marriage.

9. WHEN YOU DO THINGS OUT OF DUTY AND OBLIGATION INSTEAD OF LOVE. It becomes all about you.

10. WHEN YOU STOP COMMUNICATING. You think, "Why even try, things won't get better."

These are just a few of the things that turns a healthy marriage with your soulmate into a duty filled unhappy marriage with a roommate. Remember, a strong healthy marriage takes work. NEVER give up. Keep fighting for your marriage.


Taken and used with permission from Trey and Lea's Stronger Marriage

12 comments

  1. Ok, I definitely need to re-evaluate some things, especially the roommate one. It's so hard!

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  2. Good reminder. We all need to step back and evaluate ourselves. We need to ask ourselves if we are being our husbands crown.

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  3. Those are really good points and I think most spouses are guilty of at least one of these from time to time (if not several!)

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  4. This is my absolute favorite photo of you! Evey time I see it - it makes me happy because authentic love just oozes out. This is your niche Terri and I always glean something important from your words of wisdom about marriage. Wishing you beauty today.

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  5. Word! It's hard to not fall into the roommate category, but worth the work!

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  6. Loved it - I have been married for a very long time - but it's hard - day by day walk and I love your simple reminders! Fresh word!

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  7. Love this. It is so hard to let day to day life take control of your married life. My husband and I realized we were starting to drift that way one day and put a stop to it right away. Pinning and sharing on FB.

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  8. Good tips! I like the idea of not letting your spouse become your roommate. It's important to remember to keep intimacy alive!

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  9. Great tips, Terri. Marriage is wonderful, but it's always a work in progress!

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