Monday, March 9, 2015
Here are a few ways to Rekindle Romance
Here are a few ways to Rekindle Romance:
Revisit Your History
Tell each other what you saw in one another when you first met. What was it about your true love that intrigued and attracted you?
--> when I first met hubby, it was love at first sight for me, I was sitting across from him at the dinner table, i told my cousin without even knowing his name that I would marry him, she thought I was nuts but it was true and I did.
Run Away . . . Together
We always run away for a night in Dec, we do it every year, it is a tradition and we look forward to it. We also take a night away in May for our anniversary- it's just us, our love and romance.
Remember and Reflect
"Tomorrow morning, get your eyes off the toast . . . long enough to LOOK at your spouse . . . Look at his or her hands," wrote Ed Wheat, author of Love Life for Every Married Couple. "Do you remember when just to look at those hands made your heart lift? Well, LOOK … and remember. Then loose your tongue and tell him or her how you feel . . . Ask the Lord to give you a sentimental, romantic, physical, in-love kind of love for your spouse. God will do this. His love in us can change the actual physical quality of our love for our spouses."
I love how this author urges readers to go beyond remembering to reflection. Don’t keep your warm thoughts to yourself. Speak them to your spouse. Also, speak them as thankfulness to God. Apostle Paul says, "Every time you cross my mind, I break out in exclamations of thanks to God," Philippians 1:3 (NIV). Can you imagine how much love we’d feel toward our spouse if we did that? Can you imagine how loved we’d feel if our spouse did the same?
"Identify your spouse’s positive characteristics and choose to thank God for these traits," adds Gary Chapman, author of The Four Seasons of Marriage. "Thank God that your spouse is made in his image and is therefore extremely valuable. Thank God that your spouse is uniquely gifted and has a unique role to play in the Kingdom of God. Thank God that marriage was his idea and ask him to give you the ability to be his messenger by communicating positive statements to your spouse. Then begin to express appreciation for the positive traits you observe in your spouse. You can choose a winning attitude even when your spouse shows no interest in improving your marriage."
To me romance means wooing someone. Nothing solicits my affections more than when John puts my needs above his. And you know what? It makes me want to return the gesture . . . simply out of consideration.
Do you need to rekindle the romance in your marriage relationship?