1.18.2018

Just be Patient. Coping with family member in hospital

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Nobody likes to spend time in a hospital. When you are there because you're not feeling well, it can feel like a little bit of a prison. At least when you're pregnant you know the outcome, it means that there is an end in sight. When you have a family member or a loved one in hospital, and they've been in for some time, it can be quite a difficult thing to deal with, not just in a personal and emotional sense, but the demands on your time can contribute to an overall feeling of stress and anxiety. So how can you deal with these burdens?

Being Proactive
Ultimately, it depends on the circumstances, but if you've got a loved one in hospital and it's because of a very serious accident, the complexities of the situation can take a long time to wade through. There could be a personal injury attorney on the case for you, which means endless consultations, reports, and bills to go through. But when you have these issues to deal with, as well as the stress of seeing your loved one in physical and emotional pain, the best thing to do is to feel that you are accomplishing something, however little, to help them cope with their stay. Being proactive, at least, helps everybody strive towards a solution to the problem.

Try Not To Feel Guilty
This is easier said than done.  But it's impossible to think that you can take on the pressures of your working life, home life, and make time to see your loved one in the hospital on a near constant basis. This means that you are never getting a break. And then if you start to make more time for yourself, and try to balance your life out far more efficiently, guilt does creep in. It's important to do your best not to feel this guilt because life does go on. Unfortunately, visiting hours are at specific times, so if you can structure your life around the visiting hours, and lean on friends and other family members to see them when you're unable to go, then this helps to share the burden. Hopefully, that feeling of guilt will not be as apparent.

Trust That The Professionals Are Doing Their Job
We all want to know that our loved ones are doing okay, but when we see that the doctors and nurses are running around looking after everybody else, it's natural that frustration and annoyance can creep in. You need to trust that they are doing their job because this helps you feel less anxious. If you really have concerns, it's always important to speak to the nurse. It's the nurse that is on shift for the majority of the day, the physicians are very likely going between different departments. So if you want a more complete opinion of how your loved one is doing, then it's better to ask them.

It is very difficult to deal with, and there can be a feeling of helplessness, but also frustration, anger and lots of guilt. But when someone you care about is in hospital, there is a very delicate balancing act to get right. You have to keep on top of things in your daily life, but you want to make sure that you are there for them. And if your heart is in the right place, then you are there for them, although you aren't there physically.

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