10.23.2017

8 DATING RULES FOR MARRIED COUPLES ❤️

I had a couple tell me recently, “Our best times as a couple was back when we were dating.” I replied, “Why have you stopped?”
Dating is fuel for your marriage, so don’t EVER stop dating your spouse. 
We do understand that dating can be tough sometimes when you have children. We’ve had small children, and we totally understand that sometimes it’s hard to afford both the date AND the babysitter. Here are a couple of date tips for couples …
1. THE DATE DOESN’T HAVE TO BE EXPENSIVE: Sometimes a date can be as simple as ordering off the dollar menu at a fast food place and taking your food to the park. You can also pack a lunch, go out to a lake or park. You can even go for a walk (that’s free 😀). The key is to spend time alone together.
2. OCCASIONAL FANCY DATES ARE IMPORTANT: It’s good to have an occasional “dress up” fancy date. We often save up for a fancy date that may include nice clothes, supper, and a concert, etc.
3. BABYSITTING DOESN’T HAVE TO BE A PROBLEM. Childcare doesn’t have to be expensive. Swap babysitting with some friends. Find some friends that have kids about the age of yours, offer to keep their kids on Friday night so they can go on a date, and then have them keep your kids the next night so you can go on a date. Voila, you’ve just scored free childcare.
4. DON’T DOUBLE DATE TOO OFTEN: Double dates are fine, but they don’t count as dates. A date is just you and your spouse. When you double date, chances are there isn’t much communicating going on between just you and your spouse.
5. TINY BABIES CAN GO: If you have a newborn infant, they may have to go with you. It’s okay. 
6. YOUR CHILDREN NEED TO SEE YOU DATE: It’s healthy to leave your children and go out on a date. Don’t lie to yourself and say, “We can’t go on a date. Our poor babies just can’t make it without us.” We promise they’ll be fine … and it will be good for them.
7. MAKE YOUR MARRIAGE THE PRIORITY ON THE DATE, NOT CONSTANTLY CHECKING ON YOUR KIDS: While on the date don’t spend all your time checking on the kids or even talking about the kids. Spend some time talking about the two of you … your marriage and your future.
8. ONE DATE A WEEK IS HEALTHY: A once a week date is a GREAT goal to set. Shoot for that if possible.
You fell in love because you dated, AND you’ll remain in love when you continue to date. Dating is fuel for your marriage.
Don’t make excuses this weekend, make plans … date plans.


8 comments

  1. Great ideas - usually better if one starts by finding the right one :)

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  2. I agree that doing fun activities with your spouse can help the marriage, especially when the vast majority of your time is spent working and doing chores and things that have to be done. The harder your life is, the more your marriage needs some fun to de-compress, even if it's just an inexpensive date.

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  3. These are great ideas. My husband and I also utilize the time after the kids go to bed. It gets to be a time we sit and talk, read together, or watch a movie.

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  4. These are such practical and great ideas!! Thank you so much for sharing. I love date nights with my hubby and each day we set aside time for “just us.”

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  5. Great ideas! We travel full-time, so babysitters are out of the question. However, we do try to spend time together after the kids go to sleep. We can sit outside on nice nights and enjoy the peace and quiet.

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  6. We have done lots of cheap or free dates. Walks, ice cream, hikes, etc. I so wish we could do once a week but my husband works a lot in this season. We have even done some great day dates since he works at night. I agree, dating your husband is so important - and fun!

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  7. My husband and I are going on a date tonight with our newborn. We were able to get a babysitter for the others and we are excited to go.

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  8. Good ideas! We aim for once a month dates right now... but weekly would be amazing (though still highly unlikely).

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